Would You Wear a "Cremation Pendant?"

[MIGrandma]

On my Facebook this morning a friend shared a photo from a woman who lost a butterfly pendant at our local county fair and is hoping to get it back. She said it is a "cremation pendant" and has some of her grandmother's ashes inside and she is "beside herself for having lost her." I do hope whoever found the pendant will turn it in at the fair office, so the woman can hopefully get it back.

But. Would YOU wear something like that? I would not, as I would be so afraid of having what happened to this woman at the fair happen to me. I would feel terrible for "losing my loved one again." If I were to receive ashes of a loved one, I would want them in a small box to keep at home.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

I have no desire to keep anyone's ashes at all. So no, definitely no.

 

[PollyannaMom]

No. I don't think I would.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Remember... they aren't ashes. It's bone.

 

[TLSnell1981]

No. It's creepy in my opinion.

 

[RangerPooh]

I find it creepy, but recall a discussion between my mom and her siblings that they were going to do this after their father passed away. Cannot recall if they ended up doing this or not. If they did she's never worn it.

 

[hereyago]

Heck no.

I have to buck up and scatter my moms cremated remains, I definetly wouldnt be carrying it around.

My belief is my loved ones are around me. Their "vessel" is in the ground or scattered, but it isnt them.

 

[LJSquishy]

Nope, I wouldn't. My memories are with the person, not with their physical ashes. I feel that people who have those pendants or keep someone's ashes in their house can't accept reality and move on...it doesn't mean you will forget them, but it's not normal to me.

 

[caracarn]

No that is not something I would do. Then again it's strange enough for me when someone has an urn on their mantle. Carrying them around with you? No thanks.

 

[Clio]

No way. I do know someone that does but I always thought she was a little strange even before I knew she wears one.
Liz

 

[cluvsdisney]

No that is not something I would do. Then again it's strange enough for me when someone has an urn on their mantle. Carrying them around with you? No thanks.

Same here. I no way would I carry someone's ashes with me like that nor would I ever want to be charged with keeping someone's ashes.

 

[Tinkerbell53]

My niece has one that I paid for as a HS graduation gift. It was what she wanted when her mom died. Not for me probably but to each their own. Also my BFF bought them for herself and her daughters when her father died. Do not agree to help someone with putting ashes in the pendants! Usually the funeral home will do this, I think, but she bought the pendants elsewhere after the fact and asked me if I would put "Grampa" in there because she couldn't do it. I don't recommend it. Oh the the things we do for our BFFs.

 

[gwynne]

I think things like this sort of become in vogue without necessarily thinking of the additional stress. Lose the necklace? Did you lose a necklace or grandma? Now there's a few years of guilt waiting to happen.
I would never encourage something like this.

 

[Dizlvr]

No, and I don't plan on keeping anyone's ashes in my home, they will be buried.

 

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

I have looked around at some of the options people have for cremated remains and found some of them to be a bit interesting. You can make fireworks out of them, plant a tree with them, make jewelry and jewels with them, all kinds of spreading options, blast them into space and all kinds of other stuff. I'm amazed at the imaginations.

 

[FINFAN]

hmmmmm, not sure. I would have said no way a few years back, but having been the one to follow my mom to the Crematorium, and also currently have most of her ashes (some were scattered...some siblings have) at times I do find comfort of having her ashes in my home. Other times I have guilt for not having the funds yet to complete her wishes. I specifically have a very small amount of her ashes in a separate box, not even 100% sure why. I think because I had hoped to sprinkle some back in CA where she was from. I find *wearing* someone's ashes a little out of my comfort zone, but who knows, maybe I would. My DS has already declared he wants the fireworks option as GoofyDisneydDad listed. The kid isn't even 21 yet but nailed that decision lol.

 

[ImDMous]

EW, I don't think I would do that. I do have my dad's ashes in a box on a bookshelf somewhere. More because I just don't know what to do with them. I certainly don't feel like I can't part with him. I was a young adult and fairly poor when he passed and that was the cheapest option.

 

[Dizlvr]

I have looked around at some of the options people have for cremated remains and found some of them to be a bit interesting. You can make fireworks out of them, plant a tree with them, make jewelry and jewels with them, all kinds of spreading options, blast them into space and all kinds of other stuff. I'm amazed at the imaginations.

My dd was just talking about the planting them with a tree thing the other day. I told her I want mine enclosed in one of those shells you throw into the ocean. I think dh would like the space thing. We already have plans to be cremated, might as well do something cool with the ashes.

 

[SandiR]

Well, my SIL lost her husband in an accident very suddenly. She does have a cross around his neck with his ashes. I know it helped her feel close to him. I never thought of it as creepy at all.

 

[smiths02]

EW, I don't think I would do that. I do have my dad's ashes in a box on a bookshelf somewhere. More because I just don't know what to do with them. I certainly don't feel like I can't part with him. I was a young adult and fairly poor when he passed and that was the cheapest option.

I believe my uncle still has my grandmother's ashes in a box. At the time, doing anything with them (legally) was expensive. I don't know if it would be easier to scatter them somewhere now, but you really aren't supposed to just scatter ashes like they show in the movies/tv.