My friend and her DH wanted to take a weekend cruise to celebrate their 20th anniversary. She asked if I would watch her DD, age 11, while they're gone. The DD suffers from "sleepover anxiety" (for lack of a better word) and simply cannot sleep anywhere without crying and usually ending up going home. I asked the mom if the child was ready to spend a weekend away from her. She assured me she was.
Well guess what...she wasn't. The first night she worked herself up so much she made herself physically ill. I ended up taking her back to her OWN house (only a mile away) at 3 AM and I slept on their couch while she slept in her bed. That's the only way we will make it through the weekend.
In the meantime, her dad texted her from the cruise, the child told him what happened and he never thought to text ME to check in on things. Yet he had plenty of time to post pictures on Instagram and "check-in" on Facebook.
When the initial "sickness" was happening, I had asked another friend about it and she said, "Yeah, she (the mom) was afraid this might happen".
I feel very used. I am a HUGE wimp when it comes to confrontation but my DH is not and wants to let them have it when they get home. We celebrated our 20th by a simple dinner out because we have four kids and don't ever leave them. In this case, they should have asked a relative to come or simply put off the cruise until their daughter really was ready or until a relative could stay...btw, they have two teenage boys, ages 18 and 15 who are home alone.
So anyone want to chime in? Am I over-reacting? Should I say something to them when they get home about feeling used? This is a fairly good friend and we have gotten closer over the past year when her dad died and I helped her through it. I don't want to have a friendship ruined but I see her as a very selfish person now.
Well guess what...she wasn't. The first night she worked herself up so much she made herself physically ill. I ended up taking her back to her OWN house (only a mile away) at 3 AM and I slept on their couch while she slept in her bed. That's the only way we will make it through the weekend.
In the meantime, her dad texted her from the cruise, the child told him what happened and he never thought to text ME to check in on things. Yet he had plenty of time to post pictures on Instagram and "check-in" on Facebook.
When the initial "sickness" was happening, I had asked another friend about it and she said, "Yeah, she (the mom) was afraid this might happen".
I feel very used. I am a HUGE wimp when it comes to confrontation but my DH is not and wants to let them have it when they get home. We celebrated our 20th by a simple dinner out because we have four kids and don't ever leave them. In this case, they should have asked a relative to come or simply put off the cruise until their daughter really was ready or until a relative could stay...btw, they have two teenage boys, ages 18 and 15 who are home alone.
So anyone want to chime in? Am I over-reacting? Should I say something to them when they get home about feeling used? This is a fairly good friend and we have gotten closer over the past year when her dad died and I helped her through it. I don't want to have a friendship ruined but I see her as a very selfish person now.