First, I'm so very sorry for your loss. There's nothing worse than losing a family member. I went on a
disney cruise a month after I lost my cat, my grandpa and my unborn baby (had a miscarriage) all within a week's time. It was the worst week of my life. I was so deep in my grief that I didn't know how to get out of bed in the morning but I forced myself to go on that vacation. I thought it would be terrible but it turned out to be everything I needed at the time. I wasn't happy the entire trip but I was able to smile and laugh again for the first time since my losses. It was so healing to be able to see the joy in life again. Don't put pressure on yourself to be happy the whole time but go with an open mind. It might be just what you need to smile and start feeling like yourself again. I truly hope you have an amazing trip and start feeling better soon.
Wow!! My delayed condolences to you! My loss seems so insignificant to what you went through!! I do realize that Amber was a dog and not a human being and that there is a difference. As much as I want to think of her as a 'person', she truly isn't. She was a member of our family, yes, but she wasn't a child. It still hurts deeply as she kept me company during the day when everyone else was gone. She loved me unconditionally. As hard as it has been to lose her I can't imagine what it will be like to lose a family member that I am close to. All the ones that have passed, I haven't been close to. I can't imagine what that is going to be like???
I so understand your pain. It was two months on the 6th for us and I still cry. There are some who just don't understand. Please know that when you get preoccupied with something else (the cruise in general) you will have moments when you aren't consumed with grief and pain. If you get seated at that table and it's too much to handle, I would just excuse yourself and get a bit to eat at Cabanas or room service. Hugs and prayers for you. Our 'furbabies' are our children, now that our children are grown. It's a real void when they are gone.
I know, some people are very unsympathetic...they are like really?? It was just a dog. It's not like it was a person. And while I realize that, she was special to me (us). She was a part of our family for 12+ years. She was very therapeutic for me and for my health.
I am so very sorry about your loss
I know how hard it is to lose a dog. We lost our beloved dachshund at the age of 10 and we had had him since the day he was born. His first night alive I slept next to him and his momma in our guest room. I was devastated when he died and couldn't keep myself from crying. But we adopted a new dog, another dachshund. It's been 4 years since we rescued each other and we have such a special relationship. I saved her and she saved me! We needed each other and that bond that we formed is so strong. I know it's not for everyone to get another pet. My sister's dog died about 8 years ago and she still can not get another dog. But for me, it is what I needed and in turn, I saved a life by adopting. I will NEVER forget my Roscoe. I still look at his pictures and tear up. But then I look at Cinder and think of all the love and joy she's brought to me and how she was a scared abandoned doggy before I came along. Perhaps rescuing a new dog when you return will help with the pain???
Again, I'm so sorry :-( It's never easy losing a furbaby.
DH and I have already been discussing this. I told him
I can't be without a dog. My heart is too empty. Amber was adopted and it truly was a match made in Heaven...I found her in the paper FREE to a Good Home. How ironic that her original owner only lived one street over! We lived in the same community!! Other neighbors that I knew knew her original owners and told me all about her 'history' after they moved (across the US...that is why they were supposedly getting rid of her because they were moving into an apt and the husband said she couldn't go but I heard stories of
alleged abuse by him)
But I really think this time around we might get a puppy. DD is begging for a puppy we have never had one and I do need to have a hypoallergenic one this time around as that was a bit of a problem with Amber but I dealt with it. And I want as long as possible with the next one too!
Amber was only 13 months old when we got her so she was still pretty young. DD wants to be able to raise this one and since she's old enough, I think it's a fair request. Now the issue is timing...
I'm trying to get myself in the frame of mind for this vacation. We leave for WDW in 9 days. I haven't done anything to get ready yet... Not even get the suitcases out. This is not good... I'm trying to change my frame of mind, but it's SO hard!!!
Our Baby....Always in Our Hearts!!!
