Colleen27
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- Mar 31, 2007
That said, I think I see this differently than everyone else. First, let me say that I think it was completely inappropriate and rude for the guy to send the email. I suspect that will get lost in the rest of what I say so I want to reiterate that I think the guy was completely wrong for sending that email. However, there is increased concern lately for children who are overweight or who have unhealthy diets. Laws are being passed to try to help children avoid unhealthy foods. There are new regulations about school lunches and people are trying to ban unhealthy foods and drinks in some cities. To me, it seems logical that the next step for some people would be to worry about children being exposed to what they see as unhealthy examples. For years many people haven't wanted their kids to see things like smoking and drinking portrayed in a positive light. Many people see someone who is overweight and assume they are that way because of an unhealthy lifestyle. I assume that this woman is well liked and popular on the news or she wouldn't have been on there for so long. The guy might assume that kids would have a more positive outlook about obesity because they like this woman, and they see that lots of other people like her as well. Again, I'm not saying he's right to feel that way but I've seen others express a similar sentiment over the years.
I didn't find his email to be a personal attack, exactly. I think it was rude, but he wasn't attacking her for being fat. He wasn't informing her that she was fat as though she didn't know, or telling her how disgusting he thought she was. He was just asking her to reconsider the example she was setting for the younger viewers of the news. And he did not do it publicly, or try to shame her in front of others. I think he was misguided and rude, but I personally don't think he was bullying her.
I agree. And I don't think the bully label is accurately applied here - it really doesn't read to me like he intended to be hurtful. Bullying, in my opinion, is intentional meanness. Not a blanket term for any and all criticism that can hurt someone's feelings.
I figure it is really just a matter of time before this man's perspective becomes the dominant one in our culture. We already condemn celebrities based on other aspects of their personal lives because of the fear that our kids will look to them as role models. If we as a culture don't want our kids listening to a singer because she posed in some racy photos or get upset about them watching a show because the actress got pregnant, is it really such a stretch to feel that they shouldn't be admiring an obese person? After all, most kids will never see Miley Cyrus's Vanity Fair spread or and Jamie Lynn Spears' pregnancy certainly never made it into an episode of Zoey 101, but an obese celebrity's "failing" is readily obvious to everyone. It stands to reason that the "But think of the children!" crowd will eventually turn their moral outrage towards making sure our kids don't grow up thinking fat is an acceptable lifestyle.