Just catching up!
1st, I completely agree with you about the Bill Levkoff swatches not being the same in the full dress. I was in LOVE with regency, a Bill Levkoff shade, and not a single store had a dress in that color to see, but I figured how different could it be.. Lets just say, on a whim I went into the Bridal Salon we're ordering from and they just got in a Bill Levkoff in Regency.. it was AWFUL! Did not match what I was envisioning at all! Luckily, I was able to switch colors since the order wasn't placed yet!
2nd, I wouldnt give the bridesmaid so much say. I took my biggest bridesmaid (and best friend) to look at dresses. Her chest is huge so I figured as long as she was comfortable, the rest of my girls who are smaller would be fine to. We picked out a few styles that we liked. The next weekend all my girls came out, tried on the dresses we had selected and they voted on a favorite. I wouldnt give them all the power. You pick what you like that comes in the colors you like and have them select from 3 or 4 styles. It will save you lots of headaches! Plus, its your wedding after all! When they get married, they can put their girls in whatever they like!