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[disneydance]

Ok this may sound really weird and all but ive just just been thinking...

Ok there is this girl at my school that no one likes. She has no friends and everyone makes fun of her. Her name is Christy and she isnt like anyone else. She doesnt wear the same exact clothes as everyone else and to be truthful she just creeps everyone out. Then there is me and I pretty popular at school and have lots of friends. Well when we were younger aka second grade we used to be best friends we loved to hang out together and were very good friends this was in second grade. In third grade i went to another school and she stayed at the same one we hanged out alot since are mom were friends but she really started to creep me out. I really didnt want my mom to invite her to my 3rd grade b-day party because at that time i was becoming pretty popular and i thought that she would mess everything up but my mom did anyway and Christy really imberessed me. After that party and had enough of her and refused to hang out w/ her anymore and we went our separate ways. Last year I started 7th grade and we both went to the same middle school. Me and my friends never hanged out with her and she really creeps us out. That hasnt changed and well she has no friends. This year she has been making friends w/ alot of adults and really everyone thinks that she is weird. Everyone makes fun of her and bassically never says this to her face but thinks that she is a loser. I have treated her like that i will omit. Today at school we had a assembly and it was bassically on being friendly to everyone and one of the questions was i:


If you know someone who hasnt done anything to anyone and everyone just picks on her makes fun of her... stand up

95% of the school stood up. Today at lunch one of my friends ask me who i stood up about when they asked that question i said Christy and i asked who she stood up about and she said Christy. All my friends said they stood up for Christy and i have lots of friends and no one stood up for anyone but Christy. Ive been thinking about and think that i should treat Christy kinder and not act so rude to it but to be trueful I dont know how to do it or if i should alot of my friends said the same exact thing. So I was wondering what would you do in this type of situation. I would like lots of response do to this is a hard topic for me Thanks you all!!!

 

[AngelInDisguise]

Say tomorrow (if you have school, idk), but at lunch (if you have the same lunch), go up to her and sit down. Just start talking to her.

 

[Sparx]

I've been Christy.

be nice to her. Talk to her. maybe shes so weird because she doesn't have friends. maybe shes so creepy because no one likes her anyway, why try to be nice?

I'm saying this as nicely as you can. all of you (not just you, becuase you're at least making the effort ) get over yourselves. be nice to her.

 

[disneydance]

Thanks so much i think i will go sit down w/ her tommorrow at lunch and just hang out w/ her for 15 minutes or so and just be kind to her i know some of my others friends and thinking about doing this so i think we can do this as a group to make her realize that we do care about her

 

[My Own Little Corner]

Katie, I think you know in your own heart exactly what you need to do. Like you said she has really never done anything against you except started acting a bit weird. If I was you I think it is about time to make the change and start to be kinder to her. I don't know if you have to go as far as being best friends like you were when you were little, but just try to be a little nicer to her. You may find that she isn't so bad after all.

 

[disneydance]

Thats what i'm thinking i really have lots of other friends and she needs at least a few friends thanks for all the help

 

[My Own Little Corner]

Thats what i'm thinking i really have lots of other friends and she needs at least a few friends thanks for all the help

No probem Katie, You seem like such a sweet person.

 

[disneydance]

I try to be as nice as i can and i dont want her to feel hated even though many people treat her that way but i think if a group of people do it together it would be alot easier than just one person so i think i'm going to call my bff about it and also some of my other friends and will make the plan!!!!

 

[My Own Little Corner]

I try to be as nice as i can and i dont want her to feel hated even though many people treat her that way but i think if a group of people do it together it would be alot easier than just one person so i think i'm going to call my bff about it and also some of my other friends and will make the plan!!!!

Good Idea.

 

[Water Spirit]

Get to know her more and maybe she won't creep you out as much!

 

[Axel]

I've been "Christy", heck, in some ways I still am.

It shouldn't matter about popularity. Popularity is so overrated. If people are truly your friends, they'll stick with you, popular or not. School isn't about being the coolest, it's about being yourself and having fun (and learning...I guess ). If she used to be your friend and you don't get why people make fun of her, go hang out with her.

You shouldn't worry about being popular. You shouldn't worry about what other people think of you. You should do what you want to do. If you think something is wrong, fix it.

 

[Pirate Me]

Don't worry about what anyone else might say, go for it. There are alot of kids in my school that are alone, heck, I've been alone for quite a while before. I used to like it when people would come talk to me. It showed that they did care.

 

[CheezDoodle]

I'm like her (Christy).

I'd seriously hate you. You'd be on 'I hope a tiger eats' list.

 

[PowerMonkey]

being popular doesnt mean you cant hang out with the unpopular kids... school is not about doing what everyone expects you to do... do what you feel is right... i give props to the people who are themselves, even if itll "embarrass" them.. cause in the end, theyre being true to themselves, and thats nothing bad at all...you dont have to exactly be christy's best friend or anything if you guys dont click anymore.. but if you see people treating her bad, stand up for her... jsut let her know that you do care, and that youre not the jerk that she probably thought you were...

 

[disneydance]

I'm trying to say I cant hang out w/ her some of closest friends are unpopular its just the way that she acts. She doesnt know how to act around other people so they treat her that way. But I feel really bad for her I'm sorry for anyone here who is Christy and I may have been rude to also for other people arent Christy I encourage you to think of one person at your school that no one likes and is made fun of for tommorrow to just go sit by them at lunch or something you dont have to do much its just the little thought that counts to make sure they have someone who cares and make tommorrow and every day Teen Disboards be friendly to everyone day

 

[TwistyMisty]

Sit with her.
Who cares if your popular.
It's not worth being mean to someone.
If your friends say your a loser, ignre them.
You know you are not a loser.
Your doing the right thing.

 

[disneydance]

Thanks for all the tips its just a real hard decision

 

[My Own Little Corner]

I have friends who are considered the populars and friends who are considered the nerds. I talk to everybody and everybody talks to me. That makes me have more friends. That is the way I look at it.

My drama friends are my closest friends though and they are a weird bunch.

 

[::Snow_White::]

I've been there. Except I was the smart/quiet/teacherspet that had no friends. All the same, in the friend department.

Sit with her.
Talk to her.
Laugh with her.
Get to know her better.

People are different then how they appear.
And
Being popular isn't everything.

Maybe you two can become friends again. :]

 

[Ms.Squeakers]

...
i am currently christy, all of my OLD friends from long ago avoid me as much as possible i say hi all of the time but all i get instead is a shove in the hallway or "haha mouse said this" or "haha mouse said that"

please GO TALK TO HER, not because im forcing you to but seriously try and get to know her

being a jerk isnt going to help anyone
even if you are "cool" that doesnt give you any power over ANYTHING

im sorry but this makes me really emotional because i believe very strongly in this stuff because i am the loner...the one no one ever wants to be around...the one that people just wanna slap in the face just because of what i look like or how i act not anything with my real personality...


Im sorry I cant say any more with a nice additude...