Hi fellow Jersey girl, where in NJ are you?
I originally was having my wedding in NJ for about 150 people. The food and reception location alone cost close to $20k. My parents are paying for our entire wedding, and I just felt extremely guilty having them pay so much money. So, we looked into Disney.
We will have about 70 guests at our Disney wedding. We are writing a check to Disney for about $18k which covers the cost of ceremony location, ceremony decor, limo transportation for the bridal party, pre-reception and reception food, open bar, and cake, DJ for the reception, violinist for the ceremony, 3 flower girl baskets, sand ceremony supplies, my bouquet, BMs, Moms', and Grandmas' bouquets, groomsmens', Dads', and Grandpas' bouteniers (sp?), purse for me, bubbles for everyone, and rose petals for the aisle and table.
We are making our own centerpieces, making our own favors, and using an outside photographer. DF's family is hosting a rehearsal dinner, and DF is paying for the officiant and the maggiage license. We are flying down my hairdresser to do my hair and make-up. We are getting my dress, bridesmaid dresses, and my mom's dress steamed the day before the wedding. After our disneymoon, we will return to NJ and have a cocktail & cake reception for about 80 people. If you figure in all of this plus airfare, accomodations, and lots of food at WDW, we still would have spent a whole lot less than we would have in NJ.
I know I was kind of rambling. Let me know if you want more specific info. Good luck