I'm sorry to hear about the two bad news.
About Photobucket, it seems to like to upload your photos the way they originally were, not the way you might have arranged them in a folder on your computer. What I did is I first separated them into days, so there would be less uploading at once. Then every time you upload a day, when you open the window where you choose all the photo, click the "date taken" icon once (or twice) and it will rearrange your photos that way. Then you select them all and click upload. Hope this trick works for you!