I won't requote my earlier stuff or this post will be longer than I am tall.
After 34 days, my NPB paid. Here is her email:
Hi Joy ,
Payment was just made to Paypal. I really am So sorry for not taking care of your auction . I am sure that I have caused you much hassle for my neglect .I am new to Ebay and I did not know to look up the auctions they way you explained . Thanks
Again I am sorry and Thank You ............... Linda
This was my reply:
Linda,
I received your payment and I appreciate your making it, even after all this time. I realize that there is more to life than ebay, and I also understand that you were a new buyer, as you mentioned. Yes, I wasted some time on this, but it wasnt the end of the world, and at least you made good in the end. So, I appreciate your apology, I accept it and dont worry about it.
Id like to share some info with you, not to make you feel bad, but to make you aware of how other buyers may have handled this.
After filing for my final value fees, I could have (some would say should have) left you negative feedback. Something held me back from that, and I am glad that I didnt. I have chosen not to leave feedback for you at all. I cant in good conscience leave a positive (you didnt meet my Terms of Service payment within 7 days), and I just dont want to be associated with anything negative. But be aware that in the same situation, many other sellers would and will do so, and you really shouldnt repeat this in the future.
Also, I mentioned in my earlier message tonight that I had relisted the pins, and that if I got your payment I would cancel the relisted auctions. Well, I did so, thinking that by cancelling Id get my auction fees back. Well, not so. Another $1.80 has been spent on relisting these 3 pins, which I will not recover. It is not a terribly expensive lesson, but I sure wont repeat it in the future. And other sellers who are more experienced than I will avoid this sort of expense, so there is another reason youll want to avoid repeating this again.
So, Ive preached enough, and Im done

. I hope you enjoy the pins
I had a great time at the Parti Gras pin event, and just looking at these pins makes me smile. I still have a set of my own to enjoy, too.
Its a little late to pack them up tonight, so Ill get them out in the mail on Friday morning.
Thank you,
Joy
You know what? I feel really good about this. I got paid, I have closure, and I learned what it costs to end an auction early. It would have REALLY bothered me to leave her negatives. Maybe most of you will think I'm nuts, but on the other hand maybe she'll go do something a little extra nice for someone else.
I sure hope so.