Yet another MIL vent.............

[Kteacher]

Last night around 6 p.m. the phone rings-it's my FIL, and he asks me if we are on our way to their house for dinner yet ( about 15-20 min. away ). I tell him no..... noone told me anything about dinner at their house-we don't eat over their house on any kind of regular basis, so this wasn't something that anyone should have assumed. Meanwhile, DD13 is sleeping (recovering from a sleepover the night before ), DS15 is at a friend's house, DS19 is doing laundry before he heads back to school ( a little less than an hour's drive, and he had made plans with his roommates for the night ), and DH is still at work, sanding drywall, about a 1/2 hour drive from our house. I tell FIL that I'll call DH to ask him if he knew about dinner. DH tells me he knew nothing about going to his parents for dinner that night,plus he has about another hour of work and clean up to do. I have DH call his parents house to let them know that we're sorry, but there wasn't any way we could make it for dinner. So, even though MIL forgot to tell anyone in my family that she was preparing a "big dinner " for us ( even though she talked to DS19 that morning, and walked in to my bedroom without knocking while I was in bed the day before -but that's a whole 'nother vent ) - guess who is in the wrong??? I guess being a mindreader is part of the marriage contract. Thanks for letting me vent!

 

[kaylajr]

Your MIL and Mine could be one in the same

Sorry you have to deal with it

after 18 years I just ignore mine

 

[The Mystery Machine]

How strange?
Does she have a mental condition? I just cannot understand how she expects to plan a dinner without inviting people.

I would tell her to seek therapy asap.....

 

[misha]

Oh - I feel your pain! I just assume I am always wrong, it's always my fault and she will never change!

And there is always way more to what she is saying than the actual words! It's like a mystery and I have to figure out the clues! It can be exhausting!

Hang in there and remember you are the sane one! I find repeating that little mantra has saved lives in the past

 

[SGB13]

I feel your pain. My MIL is also a piece of work. I won't go into details. No one has the time. And it's to depressing to relive!

And my DH keeps reminding me that one day she'll have to live with us!!!

 

[GillieRose]

I feel your pain. Last Thanksgiving we where told to be at the there house at 6:30 for dinner and when we arrived at 6:00 they where already half way done with eating.

 

[canwegosoon]

I know your pain....

 

[powellrj]

thats why I have these HUGE shoulders. I am always wrong, so thats a lot to bear!!! Lots of (((((hugs)))))

 

[Marseeya]

Sounds a bit like my mother.

"Oh, we're not having Thanksgiving dinner this year" and then the day before, "I need you to bring _______ for Thanksgiving dinner."