I thought it might be helpful to get anonymous advice from strangers...
A couple years ago I had to do some renovations to my backyard, including fencing. The only existing fencing was a long stretch that had my neighbors' fence. It was in horrible shape, and pre-dated their ownership by many, many years. I conservatively estimated just to remove and replace that stretch would cost about $2,000. I asked my neighbors if they would mind sharing the expense. I asked for $500, and they readily agreed. (They had recently replaced just the pickets on the adjacent stretch.) I made sure to match the rest of the fence, and I closely coordinated construction so their dog would not escape. The fence came out great.
A month or so after completion, the husband emailed and asked if they could pay me in a couple months, as he was starting a new job. I said sure. A couple months went by, and nothing. I know they had some rough times not too long after that--they had a car stolen, and the wife's father died. (I heard about these from others.) I did not feel like pushing them on the money.
However, I have noticed lately that they are doing major renovations to the interior of their house. I recognize the contractors, and it is all high-end. I have been to the local country club pool a couple times recently to pick up my kids from parties--I am not a member due to expense--and I have seen the wife and toddler there both times, by themselves in the baby pool. They have yard service and maid service. This is all just background and may not really be relevant. As far as myself, I am a single parent with two kids. I am not wealthy by any means, but I am comfortable. I had to take a lower paying job when I became a single parent due to scheduling, and I economized by cancelling cable, my yard service, and just basic careful budgeting. I pay for my daughter to go to a Catholic school, since the regular public schools aren't so great. My son is in the public gifted program which IS great, and I hope my daughter will be in the program next year. I do include one annual vacation in my budget, plus weekend trips to places like Orlando, which is how I came to be on these boards. This travel is really my only big discretionary expense.
I have waivered between asking them for the money and just letting it go. I would have built the fence even if they had declined to share the cost, and I can live without the $500. It is also a little sensitive, as the wife was my son's 5th grade teacher and will be my daughter's 5th grade teacher this coming year. If I do ask for it, I was thinking the best way would be to dig up the old email from the husband and reply with a polite question if they still intend to share the expense. (The email is written acknowledgement that they agreed to pay.)
Thoughts?