Would he have to wear a suit?
If he doesn't want to go, I would say don't go. You have a very good reason to not attend. Your coworkers would understand and the couple, while I'm sure they're very nice people, won't realize you aren't there. But you might end up regretting missing the chance to have this anniversary celebration with your husband. To quote a Duran Duran song, nobody knows what's going to happen tomorrow.
I can see it as a group outing with coworkers you may be friends with. I'm not friends with coworkers, but I'm also a guy and I think it's often different than with the girls in that regard. Just a coworker and not even them but their daughter's, I wouldn't on any day.
I am of the firm belief that all wedding invitations should go to people who have a personal relationship with either the bride or the groom or both. This is THEIR day, not their parents. You don't know either one of them, the more awkward situation is going to a celebration of a couple's most intimate decision, most intimate union and not even know either of them.So this year, our 27th anniversary falls on a Saturday. A coworker's daughter is getting married that day, with a very big wedding, and invited a handfull of us from work. They are a fun group, and dh is invited, but he doesn't know any of them, and this isn't exactly how I'd want to spend our anniversary. I am friendly with all of my coworkers but don't socialize with any outside of work. I've never met the daughter or her fiance. In fact, if I rode an elevator with them, I wouldn't even know who they are.
When I consider this from dh's point of view, if he came home and said, "Honey, how about if we spend our anniversary going to my coworker's daughter's wedding?" I'd be saying HELLo NO, we are not. Not even if it was his coworker getting married.
Still, I feel guilty though to decline. I feel it's an honor to be included on someone's special day and it's not like she invited everyone from work. It was limited to only around 5 out of 15 of us. I was invited to her shower as well but we had another wedding to attend that day, a good friend's son, who we've known since he was a baby.
I considered attending the church ceremony only, in the early afternoon, so that we'd still be present, and it wouldn't cost her anything either. (As in per person cost like a reception would.)
Honestly, I'd like a little weekend escape to a FL beach and just relax and enjoy 2 days with dh.Maybe even use up some old non-expiring WDW water park tickets. Flights are cheap. < $100 pp RT. Dh is 64 so who knows how many more anniversaries we'll have? Not that he's old but I do know people who didn't even live to retire.
Ugh, my brain is bleeding just thinking about all of this.Even if we didn't attend the wedding, I'd still send them a gift. I also feel like I should reply soon in case they have a B list, to send out more invitations if the receive some replies that have declined. No point in dragging it out.
I'm afraid she'll be upset with me for choosing an escape with dh over her daughter.
My 2cents if the parent is paying they have a say same at my wedding there are people I wanted there my parents would not pay for and they invited the people they wantedI am of the firm belief that all wedding invitations should go to people who have a personal relationship with either the bride or the groom or both. This is THEIR day, not their parents. You don't know either one of them, the more awkward situation is going to a celebration of a couple's most intimate decision, most intimate union and not even know either of them.
It is your anniversary and you should celebrate it how you wish without any guilt. Why feel guilty you didn't go to a party for strangers?
Just RSVP a thank you but you will be out of town that weekend. No wedding hosts expect everyone to attend ESPECIALLY people who don't even know the bride or groom.
ENJOY your anniversary!
At that point I would just elope. I would want to get married around my closest friends and family rather than people I have never met before/barely know.
This is how I feel, too. I understand how one might feel uncomfortable declining an invitation and end up attending even if they don’t know the couple — it’s the parent’s sending out these invitations that make me shake my head.
This is what my son says too. He's been a best man in two weddings, likely will be a groomsman in one more for sure and and attended a wide variety as a guest. He sees nothing the least bit enjoyable about going through all that comes with a wedding.Man, I swear, If I ever get married, I'll send out notes that say something like:
"Congratulations! I'm getting married. As a gift to you I am letting you keep your Saturday. No need to get dressed up or send a gift. Just enjoy your day knowing that you don't have to come to some event that you don't want to come to anyway. I'll see you when I get back from Disney World!"
I mean, does anyone actually ever want to attend a wedding? Maybe it's just the men, but no man anywhere, ever, has wanted to attend a wedding that wasn't his own - and maybe even then....
So once DD got planning she had fun with most of it, there were some moments of conflict she wish she hadn't, but in the end it was a beautiful event that went well and was a hit with guests. She was happy with her big day and has wonderful memories. But who knew it would be the two guys that wanted the wedding.
I think my husband enjoys them more than I do. He's usually the one wanting to dance, etc. As for our own wedding he was very much excited for it not just the "oohhh I'm getting married" but the actual wedding itself and what it came withI mean, does anyone actually ever want to attend a wedding? Maybe it's just the men, but no man anywhere, ever, has wanted to attend a wedding that wasn't his own - and maybe even then....
You could be like DISer friends of ours who got married in Disney World a few months back and invited us and our group of DISers (as well as their family and friends and some past DISer people they had met and gotten close to)
