would you be upset if this happened to you??

[poteat_3177]

I'm not a disney bride- I married my prince 9 months ago at the church where I grew up but I need to know what others think of this situation and how I should handle it


Back when I was planning my wedding I took a good friend (or so I thought) do go wedding dress shopping with me. I had spent HOURS on line looking at wedding dresses and had narrowed it down to about 3 that I wanted to find in some stores- however there was one out of the 3 that I absolutely loved.

One store that I went to with this friend had that one dress that I really thought was the dress for me, I was so excited, yet when I tried it on my friend convinced me that it wasn't for me and that she didn't like it and I ended up picking another dress that wasn't even on my list. she was in a serious relationship to a guy who she knew she was going to marry.


She actually just recently got married, and guess what dress she wore?? that same dress that I had originally picked out that she told me not to get.
I couldn't belive it, I wasn't able to go to the wedding but I saw pictures on facebook and I don't know how to handle this.
It's like, was she so selfish that she wanted the dress for herself? and now I'm having problems with wondering if I could ever trust her opinion again.

If this was just another dress that I had sort of liked, I probably wouldn't be upset but this was the dress i thought was for me that SHE convinvced me not to get.

would you be upset and how would you approach it with her?

the wedding dress to me is the second most important part of the wedding (my hubby being the first) and I thought I asked someone to go with me who I could trust. but know I"m seeing that I was wrong

Now let me just say that the dress I did wear to my wedding was in everyway exactly what I wanted and was absolutely beautiful and perfect for me. but now I just have to question her original motive.

 

[dakcp2001]

Of course anyone would be upset in this situation. Do you think she actually planned to come back and buy it for herself? If she did, thats pretty sketchy, and shes not a good friend. Maybe it really didn't look the best on you out of the three? Maybe she really liked one of the others better? How well do you know her?I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, but this one is tricky. There are millions of dresses in the world, and she picked that ONE? Ugh!
Of course, you should be choosing your own dress, no one person should be able to convince you not to buy one if you really love it. Didnt you get any other opinions? If you really loved it, you should have bought it. So there is some personal responsibility here as well, you cant totally blame her, you could have bought it yourself or gotten another opinion.

But Id be pretty hurt by that, too, so I definately think you have a right to be suspicious/upset! You said you loved the dress you did have, so that should make you feel better!

 

[Ember]

I would be hurt and upset. But, ultimately, it's really not worth the anguish you're feeling over it. Your wedding was beautiful and, as you said, you loved your dress. So you really aren't out anything. I would ask her about it, but I'm not sure it's worth ruining a good friendship over. Maybe she didn't intend to try that dress on that the sales person brought it anyway and it just turned out to be THE ONE. I know they brought me dresses I hadn't asked for all the time to try on! There could be a number of reasons she wound up with that dress.

People sometimes do crummy things. Our groomsman got married a week before us in a rush wedding so that he could use our wedding trip as his half price honeymoon (we paid for the wedding party). I was upset over that one, but realized me being upset wasn't really doing anything except making me unhappy. And it didn't actually affect me, it just irritated me... So I let it go.

I hope you can work this out with her!

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

that sounds really sneaky of her

Id confront her (but nice)& see what she comes up with

has she done this more than once or is she constantly doing stuff like this......if its a one time thing...brush it off....but if its not....drop her...you dont need a friend like that!!!

i hope its not the bad one!!
GL

let us know what happens!!!

 

[kimsuenew]

I'm not a disney bride- I married my prince 9 months ago at the church where I grew up but I need to know what others think of this situation and how I should handle it


Back when I was planning my wedding I took a good friend (or so I thought) do go wedding dress shopping with me. I had spent HOURS on line looking at wedding dresses and had narrowed it down to about 3 that I wanted to find in some stores- however there was one out of the 3 that I absolutely loved.

One store that I went to with this friend had that one dress that I really thought was the dress for me, I was so excited, yet when I tried it on my friend convinced me that it wasn't for me and that she didn't like it and I ended up picking another dress that wasn't even on my list. she was in a serious relationship to a guy who she knew she was going to marry.


She actually just recently got married, and guess what dress she wore?? that same dress that I had originally picked out that she told me not to get.
I couldn't belive it, I wasn't able to go to the wedding but I saw pictures on facebook and I don't know how to handle this.
It's like, was she so selfish that she wanted the dress for herself? and now I'm having problems with wondering if I could ever trust her opinion again.

If this was just another dress that I had sort of liked, I probably wouldn't be upset but this was the dress i thought was for me that SHE convinvced me not to get.

would you be upset and how would you approach it with her?

the wedding dress to me is the second most important part of the wedding (my hubby being the first) and I thought I asked someone to go with me who I could trust. but know I"m seeing that I was wrong

Now let me just say that the dress I did wear to my wedding was in everyway exactly what I wanted and was absolutely beautiful and perfect for me. but now I just have to question her original motive.

Nothing can be done at this point... I do think I would re-evaluate the friendship, due to honesty issues however.

 

[miranda1979]

I would be really upset!!!! Thats why when I go shopping it will be with my mom and dad.

 

[madfelice]

I would be absolutely livid! Especially if it was habitual behavior on her part! I would cut her off at least a bit, step back from thefriendship!

 

[yanners]

I'd be miffed but in the end it makes no difference. If I had been happy with my dress and she was with hers then that is all that matters.

Besides, unless she tried on that dress with you when you saw it she'd wouldn't know for sure what it would look like on her anyway. As you probably experienced, dresses often look different on the rack than they do on the person.

 

[GlobalDiva]

Whether I would be upset really depends on what her reasoning was for convincing you to NOT take the dress. How did YOU feel when you tried on the dress? Did you LOVE how you looked in it?

Did your friend tell you that the dress wasn't a good option because it made your body look terrible? If so, did you agree at the time?

Be truly honest with yourself. Are you upset because she got the dress and looked better in it than you did, or looking back, was she being misleading? You also said she didn't like the dress. She didn't like it, or she didn't like it on you?

If she said she didn't like it period, then she was being manipulative, and I would definitely question her sincerity as a friend.

In the end though, I'm sure you were gorgeous at your wedding so it really doesn't matter. If you get together with her at some point, ask her to see wedding photos; if she's reluctant to show you, then she was definitely being a lying bee-yatch, LOL!!!!!! And if she DOES show you, and doesn't mention the dress at all, she was also definitely being a lying bee-yatch during dress shopping. If she brings up the dress, that means she was being a lying bee-yatch when you were dress shopping, but at least feels some remorse, so you can probably forgive her and just chalk it up to it being a girl who secretly trusted your tastes more than her own LOL, which is, in a twisted, ironic way, actually flattering