Would this freak you out (death dreams)?

[jobhunter]

So my sister lost her husband to cancer at the age of 30. She has never married again (7 years later) and barely dated. She is still grieving although she has gotten a lot better.

This morning she told me that last night she dreamed she was driving down the interstate and saw him in the car ahead of her, going in the same direction. She thought, wait, he's dead, this is a dream. Next thing she knew, they were in the same car, hugging and kissing and reunited and he looked just like he did the last time she saw him. She said that although she dreams about him a lot she has never had a dream like that before and said it felt almost like a visit or a message from him, to let her know that he was ok or that he had never left her.

This was a very personal dream so I was the only one she told.

Ok, so here is the creepy part. Her friend just told her that she had a very upsetting dream last night. My sister said, was it about my dogs? Her friend said, no but I don't think I should tell you. But she did, and she said that she had dreamed my sister died in a car accident and had come to her and asked her to take care of her dogs. She said the dream felt like a visitation from my sister.

So I guess I am a little superstitious and this concerns me. I am being crazy right? Too much stress?

 

[minkydog]

I think your sister's dream is probably one of deep love and longing. I imagine it felt very nice. Your sister's friend is a complete idiot. Who shares a dream like that? That's a dream that is best kept to one's self. Dreams are rarely predictive and even if they were, who would want to know they were about to be killed in an accident?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

No it would not freak me out. My family and my girls dream crazy stuff every night. I think it is genetic.

The only problem is I have to endure listening to their dreams.

 

[FireDancer]

It wouldn't freak me out. I don't really think dreams are predictive or anything like that. I probably wouldn't tell anyone I dreamed about their death though unless I was 100% certain they didn't put any stock into dreams either.

 

[jobhunter]

Thanks for your responses! She is not normally over the top superstitious--she is just disturbed by the timing of the dreams--both of them dreaming that kind of thing on the same night, involving cars, etc.

 

[sunnyday123]

Has your sister had counseling? I cannot imagine going through that.

Also, her friend is a moron. She told her about her dream after your sister told her about hers? I grew up surrounded by Italian & German Aunts with all their old school superstitions, and that would seriously freak me out.

 

[Luvchefmic]

Sorry for your family


Now that "friend" I wouldn't be superstitious I would be suspicious as to her motive..I mean WTH ?? telling her something like that ? Your dear sister needs to let that person out of her life she doesn't need this

 

[DisneyFairytale]

I think your sister's dream is probably one of deep love and longing. I imagine it felt very nice. Your sister's friend is a complete idiot. Who shares a dream like that? That's a dream that is best kept to one's self.

I completely agree. I really think that in certain situations, thinking before talking is best. It really was not an intelligent move on her part.

 

[JaneBanks]

It all depends if you believe in dreams and what they represent.

Here is my take on it.

Your sisters dream - You say your sister is still dealing with his death and having a somewhat hard time. I believe that your sisters husband came to "visit" her to comfort her and let her know that he's always with her. To let her know that even though he is no longer here physically, he'll always be with her and watching over her.

Her friends dream - I believe that death actually doesn't represent true death at all. Rather, it represents a death of something in your life and a rebirth of something new. Her dream, imo, only means that maybe your sister is ready to let go of a phase of her life and move on. Maybe soon she will be passed the deep saddness and greiving stage (of course she will always miss her husband, I'm not trying to dismiss that). Maybe your sister's friend picked up on that energy and dreamt it.

It's all symbolism for our deep conscious.

Of course, this is all my opinion. I truly hope your sister is doing well and I wouldn't worry if I were you.

 

[jobhunter]

Just to clarify, my sister did not tell anyone about her dream but me. So while it was horrible of the girl to say something it was not as bad as if she had told her after hearing about my sister's dream.

Yes, my sister has had counseling and still does. I think it is harder for her to let go because she lost him in the honeymoon phase of their relationship so everything was so rosy and promising and idyllic, it was brain cancer so horrible, horrible to watch (like Alzheimers + AIDS, just awful, esp. at 30) and we came from an abusive home. So coping skills are not necessarily there as stongly as they are in some people. When you have never had much stability or kindness until one brief-ish relationship, it is really hard to trust you will ever get there again.

Thank you all for the kind, compassionate and thoughtful responses. She really deserves something good and happy in her life, not stress about some stupid dreams!

 

[hereyago]

One time I dreamed that either my DD died or she had gone missing and never found. It was kind of hard to figure out which one, but the loss felt real.


My DF passed away 6 years ago and he comes to me in my dreams. Especially when I feel very stressed. The dreams start out as a storm, hurricane, etc is coming. He is there helping me get ready and telling me I will be all right. I even say in the dreams that I know he is gone, but he helps me. The storm passes and I notice he is gone.


But for that brief moment in my dream when my dad is there, all I "feel" is love, so he can keep coming to me in my dreams.


Dreams can come out of nowhere. i will dream about someone who i would rather eat nails then date and I dream about them. Also, if I take certain types of medicine, my dreams are off the wall.

 

[tonilea]

Would it freak me out? Yes. Do I believe dreams tell the future? Not really, but I had a dream that DS had leukemia when he was a baby and it still freaks me out.