Won't let DD do BBB---Am I the only one?

[hannahdrewmom]

My question is would you let her do pirates league? Or would you let your son? Because while you might not like the "make up" and BBB it's the same thing as letting her get made up as a pirate. It's for pretend. She is not dressing up to go out on a date or try to look "hot". I have an issue with that sort of make up. This is also not an issue of is the money worth it. You are not saying you aren't doing it because of cost (which is very high but everyone spends there budget differently in Disney... they are some things that people do that I think are NUTS! But it's there money and if it's in their budget than that is fine with me.)

That said our family is very conservative. My daughter wears nothing but dresses with few exceptions. However, my dd did it at 3. It was for the halloween parade and I personally thought it was fine! We brought our own dress and she get her nails done before hand. Her make up was very light in fact I still have the make up pallete they gave us and the lipgloss was CLEAR with tints in it that you couldn't even see. For the most part I think the girls that you are seeing that are REALLY made up were not from BBB but rather done at home. The colors on the palete that I just looked at to double check were so light that it would be VERY difficult to get a dark color to stand out. Plus again, no eyeliner, mascara, or lipstick.

I don't think you're mean if you don't let her do it, but if she really wants to and it's in your budget than I would look at the actual people coming out of BBB and not people walking down the street that you think are.

 

[princessmom29]

My question is would you let her do pirates league? Or would you let your son? Because while you might not like the "make up" and BBB it's the same thing as letting her get made up as a pirate. It's for pretend. She is not dressing up to go out on a date or try to look "hot". I have an issue with that sort of make up. This is also not an issue of is the money worth it. You are not saying you aren't doing it because of cost (which is very high but everyone spends there budget differently in Disney... they are some things that people do that I think are NUTS! But it's there money and if it's in their budget than that is fine with me.)

That said our family is very conservative. My daughter wears nothing but dresses with few exceptions. However, my dd did it at 3. It was for the halloween parade and I personally thought it was fine! We brought our own dress and she get her nails done before hand. Her make up was very light in fact I still have the make up pallete they gave us and the lipgloss was CLEAR with tints in it that you couldn't even see. For the most part I think the girls that you are seeing that are REALLY made up were not from BBB but rather done at home. The colors on the palete that I just looked at to double check were so light that it would be VERY difficult to get a dark color to stand out. Plus again, no eyeliner, mascara, or lipstick.

I don't think you're mean if you don't let her do it, but if she really wants to and it's in your budget than I would look at the actual people coming out of BBB and not people walking down the street that you think are.

same thing here. I just went an looked at our pictures and the makeup pallette from november. I don't think I could get it to look too dark no matter how much I put on her.

 

[princessmom29]

It was in my family. Face make up was flat out not allowed, period, end of discussion, until you were in high school. It was a firm rule and "playing" was not a reason to break it. The battle for a stick of cover up to hide pimples was EPIC.

Will I be that firm? No. Will I allow someone to slather adult style make up on my little girl? Also no. I prefer her beautiful face as is. I have yet to see a 6 year old who looks better with make up.

I don't thionk anyone is saying a 6 year old looks better with makeup. I don't know where you got that?? It is not abut a little girl wearing makeup for everyday, but as part of a coustume. Why can't the two be seperated, just as iti s for boys?? For me, it is the same as allowing a child to dress up like a clown and wear clown makeup, or a pirte with stubble or a scar applied with makeup. It is a double standard to allow one and not the other.

 

[Nanu57v]

I'm pretty strict with DD (she's 6). She wears a rashguard swimsuit, and often wears tank tops under sundresses if they are too lowcut or show too much skin. She isn't allowed to join the cheerleading team because they bare midriffs. However, she does dance and I have no issue with her wearing stage makeup for recitals. I personally don't wear makeup...just a tinted moisturizer. So, we've never done BBB because of the price, but I wouldn't think the makeup would turn me off, as it'd be synonymous to stage makeup.

 

[okeydokey]

I too think that BBB is over the top in price and looks. I would be more concerned though with the reports of little girls hair FAA ing out and creating bald patches from the too tight hair styles.

 

[NJ2Boardwalk]

kids grow up way too fast.... that being said... it's only dressup, and it's at the park, where every other 6 year old girl is going to look the same. I don't think the little girls think that they look like teenagers or grown ups with the makeup on, I think they just want to look like a beautiful princess for a day. I never let my little girls do the BBB when they were little... ( I thought it was expensive, first of all, but I kept thinking, maybe next time..)... but guess what... the next time... they decided.. they were too old to dress up like princesses., now... in hind sight, I wish we did it when they were little... just once, so we could have that memory. that's what it's about. We did however take my son to the pirates league, and let them do the pirate transformation on him. that is awesome BTW. I did take my girls to the barber shop and asked them to put up their hair and put in pixie dust last september. they enjoyed that.

I completely agree with you. That being said, for my 16th birthday I went to WDW as my birthday present. I was very fortunate that my parents were able to do this for me. Since there was no such thing as BBB when I was six, it was upsetting to me that I couldn't join in on the "play pretend and be treated like a princess games". So, on my special trip I decided to make a new memory and go to BBB. Let me tell you it was an AWESOME experience, even at 15 (at the time of my trip I was about a month shy from 16). I remember that day like it was yesterday, and it left me with such fond memories that I hope to pass down to my kids someday. In retrospect, it is a little eyeshadow, and glitter lipgloss. As a teenager, I felt that the makeup was so very light. I wanted to go back to the hotel and apply my normal mascara and eyeliner. Although, I did have an awesome FGIT and she used 3 different shadows on each eye (matching of course) to create more of a 'teenager' look. Even then it was still pretty light. She assured me that she wasn't supposed to do that, but figured that I'd enjoy it. And that I did. The whole day in the park I received so much attention from everyone, and believe me I ate it up. Here is a picture of me after BBB. A little later I got my face painted in Toontown, but that was my personal choice.

Right after BBB (fyi - the residual eyeliner is from the day before )

With Tink and Friends

After my facepainting....not included with BBB.

To all the posters who are negative against BBB, its truly a once in a lifetime moment. Are the prices outrageous? Probably. But most things at Disney are overpriced. Despite the price, it really leaves long lasting memories, and that is something you can't get back. I can understand the parents who feel that they don't want their children to grow up too fast, or to look like adults/teenagers, but really this is a no harm situation. And if you feel that the light makeup application is still too much, then ask the FGIT kindly to not apply it. I hope you are able to see that its pretty harmless and just another way to create magical memories.

 

[teacup princess]

If you are going to skip the makeup, definately skip the fake nails too. Fake nails, hot sun, and amusement rides just don't mix. An hour after she got them we found them stuck to everything, her dress, our clothes, the stroller. We ended up peeling the rest of them off and throwing them away. Sorry to be off-topic just thought I'd throw this warning in there.

 

[mommy-on-the-move]

I'm happy to all BBB for my girls and we are a fairly conservative family however I also allow my 13 year old to wear "real" make up too as long as it is natural looking colours, I grew up in a no make up until 16 household and at 16 I got laughed at and picked on so much when I tried to wear it as obviously, never having tried make up before, I was clueless as to how to wear it and did look like a clown. We began allowing natural colours with our daughter when she got to 12 so she can learn to do her make up well so she can wear it confidently as an older teen/woman and never have to go through "clown face" stage like my sister and I both did (quite painfully so)

Do I think she looks too grown up? No, she is a developing young lady who is learning her role as a woman, because we encourage her to dress modestly she looks respectible and confident. Her attitude and how she conducts herself (and which therefore directly forms peoples opinions of her) comes from the morals and values we've raised her with over the years, not from make up.

I really do resent the opinion that wearing make up makes a girl look somehow less valued or less moral, the majority of women will wear make up in their life, the majority of women will not act in ways that it's suggested wearing make up early will make a person act.

For me BBB is just costume. (a costume I've never convinced any of mine to sit still long enough to have done!)

 

[princessmom29]

I really do resent the opinion that wearing make up makes a girl look somehow less valued or less moral, the majority of women will wear make up in their life, the majority of women will not act in ways that it's suggested wearing make up early will make a person act.

For me BBB is just costume. (a costume I've never convinced any of mine to sit still long enough to have done!)

this is EXACTLY my problem with some of what is being siad here. As if, by allowing our daughters to wear makeup for performances and dressup play, we are somehow signing them up for the Future Streetwalkers of America. I simply don't see the correlation, and personally, don't think we should judge anyone, children included, by the makeup or clothing the choose to wear.

 

[Sinderelly]

I respect the opinions of parents who allow BBB and those who don't. It's just a difference in parenting styles. I have seen some sweet, precious looking BBB little princesses and I think they are adorable and not "grown up" looking at all. If the parent doesn't allow BBB there are plenty of other treats at Disney.

 

[tinkerpea]

I have 3 boys,and Im a Make-up artist in the UK and can also do Upstyles for hair,Im gutted that i dont have a little girl to dress up,when i see these Beautiful little girls at Disney My hubby and I have looked at each other and said One day, That is wether they are in dresses that their mummys and daddys have put them in (without make-up) or have done the BBB they melt our hearts!!!(my boys are my world,and ages 6,6,8 but we have been trying for another baby for 4 yrs) IMO little girls feel so special when they come out of the BBB,they have had a once in a life time treat at the most Magical place on earth....I was in the ROYAL BALLET from the age of 12,and before that started dancing at 4 we did a show at least 2 or 3 times a yr and always had to wear enough make-up to stand out on stage(lighting can make you look very pale and washed out) I was always putting on those play sets of make-up when i was younger which is proberly why i ended up in the Job i love now!!(I had an accident at 18 which ended my professional dance career) and so became a dance teacher,and on the side a Make-up artist, I used to tell the mothers who didnt want make-up on their children at showtime that it was their choice but that on the DVDs of the show they will see how it will effect there faces from the lighting...We need to see those beautiful smiles and lite up eyes when they dance as expression is a big part of a show!!!!
Anyways I really dont think that allowing a child to have stage make-up,or fancy dress Make-up or even BBB is going to effect what the children want to then wear outside of there homes,Its for a special occasion,to make your child feel like a princess as sometimes just getting the dress isnt enough,I totally understand the price is very expensive,i tlked to a mother who took her child for the big package where you got the pictures and it was $$$ But if you cant aford the BBB packages then its an Amazing idea to do it yourself in your room and make it just as special.......so i suppose my point is
If your at Disney world(and i could be the only time you get to do it whilst your child is young) then i would want my child to feel special by either doing the BBB or buy getting a dress from a shop before you come and buying a can of glitter spray and some play make-up and giving your little Princess the Princess treatment!!!!! I only hope one day i get a little girl that i can treat in this way and watch their face light up when people walk past and go WOW how beautiful do you look(its not meaning they are not beautiful with out make-up) its just feeling extra beautiful at Disney!So wether its your belief at home or not think about it as a Once in a lifetime treat for your already Beautiful child!
P.s to the 16 yr old who did the BBB and then had the Face paint you looked Stunning, it was a very pretty Facepaint

 

[Mama Who]

I don't thionk anyone is saying a 6 year old looks better with makeup. I don't know where you got that?? It is not abut a little girl wearing makeup for everyday, but as part of a coustume. Why can't the two be seperated, just as iti s for boys?? For me, it is the same as allowing a child to dress up like a clown and wear clown makeup, or a pirte with stubble or a scar applied with makeup. It is a double standard to allow one and not the other.

I will allow face paint for either gender. I will allow costumes for either gender. I don't know what you mean by "just as it is for boys." My rules are for both of my kids. My son wasn't allowed to wear eye shadow at six either. He may not wear a miniskirt to church or high heels before high school. No double standard here. You're projecting. I do not agree that face paint and make up are the same at all. IME most women don't have sparkly butterflies on their cheeks at work.

 

[maxiesmom]

I will allow face paint for either gender. I will allow costumes for either gender. I don't know what you mean by "just as it is for boys." My rules are for both of my kids. My son wasn't allowed to wear eye shadow at six either. He may not wear a miniskirt to church or high heels before high school. No double standard here. You're projecting. I do not agree that face paint and make up are the same at all. IME most women don't have sparkly butterflies on their cheeks at work.

It is makeup worn as part of a costume though. It is way different than just slathering makeup on a 7yr old as part of the normal routine. Most of the girls who do BBB are in costume, so the makeup is part of the costume. You don't seem to be grasping that for some reason.

Also, you are in control of how much makeup the Fairy Godmothers In Training put on your child. We did a very subtle makeup on my niece. A touch of light pink shadow, blush, and lip gloss. It looked very nice and went well with her Cinderella costume.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I wouldn't have a problem with it.Although I haven't let my DD's do it they have begged me to let them go the last 3yrs we have gone and have already started in on letting them go this year. What I do have a problem with is why take them when I am a licensed hair stylist and pay someone else to put their hair up when I can do the same thing. The last 2 yrs we have gone I have bought different color glitter sprays and glitter powders and put their hair up myself and sprayed it with the glitter and put a little glitter powder on their cheeks. This year I will do the same thing.

I quoted you because I know exactly how you feel. I am also a licensed hair stylist and "fancy" hair is my specialty. The thing is though- no matter how awesome I do their hair they want the experience of a fairy godmother. They want to sit in the special chairs. They want the pixie dust "at Disney" not the stuff the Mom buys etc. I too was surprised when my oldest dd asked to go to BBB. I asked why when Mommy does your hair so much nicer etc.? I got the answers above. Sometimes kids just want the experience that is not Mom. Sad as it is it is true. I don't blame them. Who doesn't like a makeover?

 

[Sleepyhappyandgrumpy]

I too think that BBB is over the top in price and looks. I would be more concerned though with the reports of little girls hair FAA ing out and creating bald patches from the too tight hair styles.

Ha ha. That's what I was thinking too. The hair looks painful!

I won't let my DD do it just because I don't like the look. I don't have a problem with it for any other reason. Fortunately it isn't an issue because she is not at all interested. But the price = ouch!

That said, if she was *dying* to do it, I might be convinced. Or resort to bribery.

 

[princessmom29]

I will allow face paint for either gender. I will allow costumes for either gender. I don't know what you mean by "just as it is for boys." My rules are for both of my kids. My son wasn't allowed to wear eye shadow at six either. He may not wear a miniskirt to church or high heels before high school. No double standard here. You're projecting. I do not agree that face paint and make up are the same at all. IME most women don't have sparkly butterflies on their cheeks at work.

You are purposely not getting my point. Most women don't have purple glitter eyeshadow or sparkly pink lip gloss on at work either. It is DRESS UP makeup, just like pirate makeup is DRESS UP and clown makeup is DRESS UP. PARENTS are making it into something it is not. A little boy painting on a beard makes him look "older" too, but no one is taking issue with that. I feel it is a double standard. I don't allow my child to wear the same makeup I do on a daily basis, but that is COMPLETELY different from her dressup makeup which I do aloow when we are playing at home, wether she wants to dress up as a princess, fairy, clown, pirate, cowboy, whatever. I don't see a difference.

 

[princessmom29]

It is makeup worn as part of a costume though. It is way different than just slathering makeup on a 7yr old as part of the normal routine. Most of the girls who do BBB are in costume, so the makeup is part of the costume. You don't seem to be grasping that for some reason.

Also, you are in control of how much makeup the Fairy Godmothers In Training put on your child. We did a very subtle makeup on my niece. A touch of light pink shadow, blush, and lip gloss. It looked very nice and went well with her Cinderella costume.

this is exactly what i was trying to say. Why should it be forbidden just because it is a part of a princess costume rather than a pirate??

 

[bumbershoot]

no, I have a problem with the judgment YOU are passing by saying that the little girls wearing makeup look inapproiate. I do think that is different than saying that you personally don't care for it or don't choose it for your child.

But maybe the girls the OP has seen ARE inappropriate. Maybe they have it slathered on. I have seen some girls at Disneyland from their BBB who have way too much on. (I also do not like the hair pulled back like that one little bit, and if I had a girl I wouldn't want the BBB hairstyles that start with hair being pulled back)

Unless you've seen the girls the OP has seen, it's hard for you to really judge her judgment that it's too much makeup.

For the most part I think the girls that you are seeing that are REALLY made up were not from BBB but rather done at home.

On the other hand, this is very possibly true. Someone might be enhancing the BBB makeup.



OP if you like the rest of it, just do it without the makeup. Or go and get her face painted like the teenager earlier in the thread; that's a really cool facepaint job, and if I were a kid I would have LOVED that with some sort of princess dress (alas my princess dress consisted of a nightgown and was only to be worn at home!).

 

[jodifla]

Am I the only "mean" mom out there who won't let her daughter go to BBB because I don't like my 7 year old daughter out in public wearing makeup? I totally understand girls wanting to look like princesses, but I feel like I need to draw a line somewhere for my daughter at what is age appropriate. She just turned 7 and I'm not ready for her to be looking like a teenager!

I'm not saying anything against the parents who take their daughters to BBB, but my personal choice is to not let my daughter go. She's going to have to settle for a cute hairstyle at HBS!

Any other moms (or dads) out there who feel the same way?

Not a big fan of the BBB. Seems like overkill, and too expensive. But if it were my daughter and she wanted to do it, I certainly let her.

It's just pretend, a chance to have a fun experience for the day, to look like a princess.

 

[Mama Who]

It is makeup worn as part of a costume though. It is way different than just slathering makeup on a 7yr old as part of the normal routine. Most of the girls who do BBB are in costume, so the makeup is part of the costume. You don't seem to be grasping that for some reason.

Also, you are in control of how much makeup the Fairy Godmothers In Training put on your child. We did a very subtle makeup on my niece. A touch of light pink shadow, blush, and lip gloss. It looked very nice and went well with her Cinderella costume.

I understand that you have made some distinction between eyeshadow on little girls and eye shadow on little girls at Disney but that distinction is not one all of us recognize as valid. I "grasp" what you believe just fine, I just don't believe it.

And darn tootin' I'm in charge of how much make up gets put on my baby girl. That amount is "none." If you think make up on your niece looks "nice" that's really between you and her parents. My daughter will not be done up in such a way and that's not a reflection of some failure to understand on my part.