Won't let DD do BBB---Am I the only one?

[brookmey]

Am I the only "mean" mom out there who won't let her daughter go to BBB because I don't like my 7 year old daughter out in public wearing makeup? I totally understand girls wanting to look like princesses, but I feel like I need to draw a line somewhere for my daughter at what is age appropriate. She just turned 7 and I'm not ready for her to be looking like a teenager!

I'm not saying anything against the parents who take their daughters to BBB, but my personal choice is to not let my daughter go. She's going to have to settle for a cute hairstyle at HBS!

Any other moms (or dads) out there who feel the same way?

 

[MarriedToAPrince]

I don't have an issue with it. We let our DD doing the Castle Package for her 3rd birthday and she didn't look anything like a teenager with makeup on. It is clearly for little girls and doesn't look anything like real makeup.

 

[MickeyHereWeCome!]

You could ask them not to put on any makeup. My dd (8 at the time) is not a girlie girl! The only princessy thing she let us do is the BBB. But, when it came time for make-up, she didn't want any. The FG my surprised, but gladly obliged. That's always an alternative if you don't want the make-up. I think they can do a little sequin on her cheek or something fancy that's not make-up.

It really is a lot of fun! I'll miss those days now that dd is too old for it (her words).

 

[ToddyLu]

I would agree that it is just make believe and dress up like Halloween. All the princesses have a little makeup and hair, but definitely not over the top. My mother didn't let me wear any makeup until 15--but she would have let me do BBB. To me it ins't makeup that put teenagers over the edge it is the clothing--too tight and too short--that isn't done at BBB. I understand your reasoning but I think once for the day at Disney would be done in the right contex. I mean you could do BBB and then you do very little makeup--it could be more about the dress and hair. Sometimes I wish my Mom would have spent a little more time allowing me to do really girly things, just once in a while. That just wasn't on the radar in the late 70's. Heck I had to beg for my first bra---it was way past time before she bought me one. I just don't think she realized that we were shaped different and I was way too developed way to early. I was ready to go at 9 or 4th grade, she was 13 when she hit puberty.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Nope DD has done BBB twice. Once when she was 5 and another time at 6 yo. IMOP, WDW is a time for magic and make believe and BBB is just part of that illusion.

The FGIT don't put that much make-up on the little girls. And its not like DD comes home from the trip and expects to wear make-up to school. She knows its all part of the magic of WDW, the transition of her into a fairy-tale princess.

Sorry I'm in the its not that big of a deal, camp.

 

[grandmadebby2]

I don't think the makeup there is heavy at all. When my granddaughters do dance recitals they have to wear stage makeup and it is much heavier than BBB. It's all for fun and magic but if a parent feels it might confuse their child I can see saying no.

 

[Mama Who]

We won't allow make up on our little girl either. We'll probably let her do BBB for the hair and glitter but she is not getting her face made up. I saw some lovely BBB looks and some truly over the top ones. I think there's a range and you can get your daughter "princessed up" in a way that you find tasteful. The caked on blue eye shadow is optional.

 

[princessmom29]

I definitely don't have a problem with it. I just cannot see projecting adult hnagups onto a child. It is not like they are making them up like streetwalkers. They use soft, girly type colors clearly meant for little girl dressup. No mascara, eyeliner, red lipstick ect. It has nothing to do with making them look older and everything to do with playing dressup. I say let them be little girls and have a little fun! Of course, I also don't have a problem allowing stage makeup for performances either. It is a necessary part of dancing. That doesn't mean I want to make my 7 year old a teen ager, and neither does letting her do BBB.

 

[littlejen22]

Honestly I think it is ok to tell you daughter that Disney is special and she can do BBB, it does not have to carry over to " real" life. wDW is not where I personally would draw the line if I thought she would love it and I had the money.

 

[pinktink83]

I am pretty darn strict about my 8yo DD being too "grown up". She isn't allowed to get her ears pierced until she is 12, she wears 1 piece bathing suits, most of her skirts/shorts/dresses are to the knee (or close to it, and if its not she usually wears leggings under it), no highlights in hair until jr high, etc. I don't even let her wear clear lip gloss, or colored for that matter. In fact, we don't even do colored chapstick, lol. She is not allowed to put makeup and wear it to school or out and about.

HOWEVER, the only times I do allow makeup is Halloween and dance recitals because I consider it a costume. So yes, I would allow her to do the BBB with makeup. It would be considered a "costume" to me, and its only for 1 day.

I don't think you are being unreasonable though. You can definitely ask for light application, and/or just blush and lip gloss and eyeshadow (no mascara, eyeliner, lip liner/lipstick, etc). That way it would be pretty light and be wiped off in a couple hours anyway, lol. But she would still get to feel "princess-y" for the rest of the day! Or she could always get her face painted instead! They do some really swirly, glittery fairy eyes/wings, etc that look even neater than plain ole makeup. DD got it done last time we went (she was 5) and I didn't have an issue with it. And to be honest, it was half melted off by the afternoon, and smeared by her hands anyway.

edit to add: I do draw the line at younger ages though, I probably wouldn't consider it for a 3-4yo)

 

[Minniemouse07]

I agree w/ you.

Dd will be 10yo this summer and will be traveling to WDW for her 6th trip.

She wore multiple princess dresses to meals and in the parks that we brought from home (picked them up for less $$ on sale at TDS) and was perfectly happy with them.

I don't purchase play make up for dd and was not comfortable w/ the makeup portion of BBB. I know we could have skipped it, but then I couldn't bring myself to pay $55 for dd to get her hair and nails done...while tossing the makeup in the trash.

I would have considered it if they had a hair and nails package, but they don't.

FWIW, dd had a blast doing the children's Pirate cruise (and it is cheaper!) and for her 7th birthday trip I sucked it up and gave her a choice between another pirate cruise or BBB....she picked the pirate cruise!

She'll be taking her younger brother on his first pirate cruise during our trip this summer and we were talking about the new Pirate League and their Mermaid stuff. Dd turned to me and told me that it was much more fun to BE a pirate than to get dressed up as one!

ETA... Dd did go to the Harmony Barber Shop and had her pony tail glittered/decorated. She HATED it. Said the pony tail was too tight and the hair spray was super itchy. Wanted me to brush it out of her hair less than an hour after getting it done! I was SO glad we didn't spend >$50 on BBB!

 

[AUdisfan]

I don't let my daughter do it either. I just don't like the way it looks and I'm not going to pay that much money for it when I don't like it. No offense to people who do like it, I just don't. Instead, I do her hair in a "fancy" style and we go to the barber shop on Main St. to get the confetti in it when her brother gets his hair cut.

 

[JUJU814]

OP..you're not the only one. I personally do not care for the entire BBB scene and really think it's over the top.

It's not really just the makeup though.

We bring our own princess dress and do my dd's hair all pretty and let her put lipgloss on etc. We make a big deal out of it at the hotel. The last few trips my oldest, who is 12 years older than my little girl, and just ADORED by her, got her all dressed up at the resort. It was much more exciting for dd because it was her "big sister".

I just really don't find the "BBB look" that cute at all. The hair is pulled really tight, and I've seen a lot of heavy makeup. The majority of the ones I've seen at the parks do look, to me (and my husband and other folks we've talked to in passing) like they've been made up too much and look older. It's also very expensive.

I don't think it's at ALL "mean" to not allow your child to do the BBB. Goodness..you're taking them to Disney and making special memories. It almost seems like that's just not enough anymore. We've always got to make it bigger and better.

One does NOT "need" the BBB to make it a special time.

There was a time when I wanted my little angel to have the "experience" of going to the BBB, but I realized it was more me that wanted it than my child. I really believe that's often the case with many moms.

Anyway, you're not alone. I don't care for it at all.

I was just walking by the one at Downtown Disney this past Sunday when I was getting presents to bring home to the kids, and it was a mob scene. There were a LOT of tired cranky kids (and adults) there. (although I've NEVER seen DTD so crowded as that day!)

 

[iheartdisney]

I was turned off from BBB when I saw the ad on the shuttle bus, "Turn your pumpkin into a princess."
My princess isn't a pumpkin. Do insults really work to pry money from other's pockets? Becasue that one just zipped mine closed forever!

 

[danetter]

I wouldn't have a problem with it.Although I haven't let my DD's do it they have begged me to let them go the last 3yrs we have gone and have already started in on letting them go this year. What I do have a problem with is why take them when I am a licensed hair stylist and pay someone else to put their hair up when I can do the same thing. The last 2 yrs we have gone I have bought different color glitter sprays and glitter powders and put their hair up myself and sprayed it with the glitter and put a little glitter powder on their cheeks. This year I will do the same thing.

 

[PolyndianPrincessJes]

I was turned off from BBB when I saw the ad on the shuttle bus, "Turn your pumpkin into a princess."
My princess isn't a pumpkin. Do insults really work to pry money from other's pockets? Becasue that one just zipped mine closed forever!

I don't think it was meant as an insult but a play on words. You know how "pumpkin" can be used as a nickname? In fact, I had a friend in elementary school ask our teacher to call her pumpkin "like her daddy" does. I guess I can see where someone could possibly maybe slightly be offended, but I would never have thought it was an insult.

DNiece travels to WDW with us (DS isn't interested in BBB ), and we've never done it. Mostly because I can do a better job in the room, but she's never asked about it. I don't even know if she knows it exists. Also, the hairstyles, more than the makeup, turn me off. They don't look very princessy to me, but I can understand why they stick to a basic style with a couple variations. I really don't care for the hair pieces, either. I do think the little tiaras are cute! If DNiece asked to do it, though, we'd let her.

 

[disfan07]

I was turned off from BBB when I saw the ad on the shuttle bus, "Turn your pumpkin into a princess."
My princess isn't a pumpkin. Do insults really work to pry money from other's pockets? Becasue that one just zipped mine closed forever!

Really???? You do realize that pumpkin is a nickname right? They're not calling your kid a pumpkin. They are using a play on, what I thought was a very common and well known, nickname.

 

[teacup princess]

I didn't have a problem with it but I could see where some parents might. I'm sure if you asked them not to apply the makeup they would oblige. They give the little makeup kit to you after they are done so you could just ask to take it with you and then bring it home for dress-up if you allow that. I actually thought the colors were quite soft other than the blush which can be heavy depending on how applied.

 

[21hearts]

No your not. My DD1 has really sensitive skin and while at our house I put some lip gloss on her and she broke out from it! I was so surprised I didn't think a little would do that to her.. I also felt like a bad mommy. So our DD1 won't be doing it. But we have dressed her up like a princess and I put her hair up into what she calls a "fancy up" and she loved it. So we do our own version of BBB.

 

[SaraMc]

Your not alone. While Im sure DD will want to do BBB when we go next year. If she does do it, its under strict rules. Not that we are very traditional but. Its that I really don't like most of the looks BBB offers. The fake hair extensions look really cheesy an so not princess like at all. However the bun with the tiara I would be ok with. As for the make up, moderation, she's only 3.
However its up to her if she even wants to do it. We tried to book Pirates league for DS and the day before he told us he didn't want to do it anymore. Even on the day of the PL he still was adamant that he didn't want to do it.