Won't let DD do BBB---Am I the only one?

[Mama Who]

You are purposely not getting my point. Most women don't have purple glitter eyeshadow or sparkly pink lip gloss on at work either. It is DRESS UP makeup, just like pirate makeup is DRESS UP and clown makeup is DRESS UP. PARENTS are making it into something it is not. A little boy painting on a beard makes him look "older" too, but no one is taking issue with that. I feel it is a double standard. I don't allow my child to wear the same makeup I do on a daily basis, but that is COMPLETELY different from her dressup makeup which I do aloow when we are playing at home, wether she wants to dress up as a princess, fairy, clown, pirate, cowboy, whatever. I don't see a difference.

No, you're purposely pretending your opinion is the only valid one and those of us who don't trick our little girls out like this just don't understaaaaaaaaaaand. We get it. We understand you think this is acceptable. We DISAGREE. That you cannot see a difference doesn't mean there isn't one and your inability to see it? Certainly not evidence of ME not understanding.

I get your point. I reject it. The joy of being my daughter's parent is that I'm allowed to do that. Go paint your own kids up and enjoy it. Just accept that that mess isn't going on my baby. As her mother, I have the privilege of protecting her innocence whether you think she needs it or not.

 

[jodifla]

It's always amazing to me the small things that parents are ready to battle over with their kids, or just deny them.

I'm a "yes" parent as often as possible. Life is better that way! As long as the basics are covered....your child works hard, is polite, behaves, has a decent diet.....then I say bring on the fun.

 

[jodifla]

No, you're purposely pretending your opinion is the only valid one and those of us who don't trick our little girls out like this just don't understaaaaaaaaaaand. We get it. We understand you think this is acceptable. We DISAGREE. That you cannot see a difference doesn't mean there isn't one and your inability to see it? Certainly not evidence of ME not understanding.

I get your point. I reject it. The joy of being my daughter's parent is that I'm allowed to do that. Go paint your own kids up and enjoy it. Just accept that that mess isn't going on my baby. As her mother, I have the privilege of protecting her innocence whether you think she needs it or not.

Trick out little girls? Lose their innocence???

My goodness.

 

[jacksmom]

Am I the only "mean" mom out there who won't let her daughter go to BBB because I don't like my 7 year old daughter out in public wearing makeup? I totally understand girls wanting to look like princesses, but I feel like I need to draw a line somewhere for my daughter at what is age appropriate. She just turned 7 and I'm not ready for her to be looking like a teenager!

I'm not saying anything against the parents who take their daughters to BBB, but my personal choice is to not let my daughter go. She's going to have to settle for a cute hairstyle at HBS!

Any other moms (or dads) out there who feel the same way?

I am sure that if your dd has her heart set on doing BBB, they could just give her a cute hair do and forgo the makeup at your request! BBB is a great experience so why let her miss it if she really wants to do it!

 

[Mama Who]

Trick out little girls? Lose their innocence???

My goodness.

"Battle over?" Really? Like I'd need to *battle* with my little girl over whether she'll wear make up?

 

[WantToGoNow]

I have never let my dd do it either because 1) there's way too much make up for a little girl, 2) the hairstyles do not look natural on a small child and lately I've read about little girls losing their hair from the tightness of some of the styles and 3) the cost is outragous and we would rather spend the money elsewhere.

That said, the day we go to CRT we always do her hair nice and last year we bought her a crown, princess sash and clip from the store next door and a FG that was standing outside sprinkled her with glitter. We had several comments from people that thought she went to BBB but without the makeup.

That said there was a style a few years ago - I don't know if they have it now or not that had a lot of eye shadow (blue), liner, lipstick and multi-colored hair extensions. I took a picture of my dd who was only 3 at the time staring at her and asking why she was dressed like that. To me she looked like a 16 year old that is rebelling - it was absolutely not flattering on a 6-7 year old child and I was in disbelief that a parent would allow it.

 

[princessmom29]

But maybe the girls the OP has seen ARE inappropriate.

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that's just the point. She doesn't get to decided what is appropriate for oyther people's children and shouldn't be passing judgment on them.

No, you're purposely pretending your opinion is the only valid one and those of us who don't trick our little girls out like this just don't understaaaaaaaaaaand. We get it. We understand you think this is acceptable. We DISAGREE. That you cannot see a difference doesn't mean there isn't one and your inability to see it? Certainly not evidence of ME not understanding.

I get your point. I reject it. The joy of being my daughter's parent is that I'm allowed to do that. Go paint your own kids up and enjoy it. Just accept that that mess isn't going on my baby. As her mother, I have the privilege of protecting her innocence whether you think she needs it or not.

Who is beaing nasty and defensive??? There is apparently no reasoning with you. Fell free to continue projecting your own sexual hangups onto other people's children but don't expect me to condone that behavior. I think making comments like these about other people's children is deplorable and completely unacceptable. Frankly, I cannot believe another parent would do so. I have seen a new low today.

MY point is NOT that you are not entitled to parent how you see fit. I am just trying to give some food for thought by asking why it is any different than other dress up makeup. YOU are the one who got nasty about it, not me. Apperantly I hit a sore spot. Just trying to make pepole think a little bit about their motivations for forbidding something. Sorry you are not comfortable with that. If you think smiple makeup can take away your child's innocence, I think you are so far ingained that you just don't want to think about the whys. There is really nothing more I can do except to ask that you stop making nasty comments about my child.

 

[jodifla]

"Battle over?" Really? Like I'd need to *battle* with my little girl over whether she'll wear make up?

Little girls turn into teens. You are setting the stage for these years with your attitude.

 

[JUJU814]

No, you're purposely pretending your opinion is the only valid one and those of us who don't trick our little girls out like this just don't understaaaaaaaaaaand. We get it. We understand you think this is acceptable. We DISAGREE. That you cannot see a difference doesn't mean there isn't one and your inability to see it? Certainly not evidence of ME not understanding.

I get your point. I reject it. The joy of being my daughter's parent is that I'm allowed to do that. Go paint your own kids up and enjoy it. Just accept that that mess isn't going on my baby. As her mother, I have the privilege of protecting her innocence whether you think she needs it or not.

You go girl! Well said

 

[princessmom29]

It's always amazing to me the small things that parents are ready to battle over with their kids, or just deny them.

I'm a "yes" parent as often as possible. Life is better that way! As long as the basics are covered....your child works hard, is polite, behaves, has a decent diet.....then I say bring on the fun.

sounds like we agree on a lot. I am a "don't sweat the small stuff" parent in general. School, behavior, wrok ethic, respect are worth the fight. A little bit of play makeup, questionable fashion and hair choices are definitely NOT.

 

[princessmom29]

Little girls turn into teens. You are setting the stage for these years with your attitude.

exactly, I am glad i won't have to be there when the rebellion finally hits!

 

[disfan07]

It was in my family. Face make up was flat out not allowed, period, end of discussion, until you were in high school. It was a firm rule and "playing" was not a reason to break it. The battle for a stick of cover up to hide pimples was EPIC.

Will I be that firm? No. Will I allow someone to slather adult style make up on my little girl? Also no. I prefer her beautiful face as is. I have yet to see a 6 year old who looks better with make up.

But she's not wearing it everyday. My 4 year old cousin doesn't look better with make up but she is girly girl thorugh and through and she likes to wear some make up occassionally. She's done BBB at DL and she likes to try makeup when her mom puts some on. It's dress up. It's playing. It's not a big deal.

I get not letting a 6 year old wear it on a regular basis. But for ONE time and for dress up. I don't get it and never will. I don't see what the harm is and I do think that not allowing it for that 1 time is over the top.

And I swear you have a differnt meaning to slather than what I have seen at BBB in both DL and WDW. They don't "slather" anything. It's pale and pastel colors. very light and perfect for little girls. Not adult style makeup in anyway.

 

[princessmom29]

I have never let my dd do it either because 1) there's way too much make up for a little girl, 2) the hairstyles do not look natural on a small child and lately I've read about little girls losing their hair from the tightness of some of the styles and 3) the cost is outragous and we would rather spend the money elsewhere.

That said, the day we go to CRT we always do her hair nice and last year we bought her a crown, princess sash and clip from the store next door and a FG that was standing outside sprinkled her with glitter. We had several comments from people that thought she went to BBB but without the makeup.

That said there was a style a few years ago - I don't know if they have it now or not that had a lot of eye shadow (blue), liner, lipstick and multi-colored hair extensions. I took a picture of my dd who was only 3 at the time staring at her and asking why she was dressed like that. To me she looked like a 16 year old that is rebelling - it was absolutely not flattering on a 6-7 year old child and I was in disbelief that a parent would allow it.

If she had on liner is was NOT done at BBB. They don't use it at all. The blue eyeshadow they have is very light, and you cannot really get it to look like a lot of anything. Someone either did it themselves or doctored it after the fact.

 

[stich1fan]

Personally if DD 4 asked now, I would do it. However, I would minimize the make up just because I don't think she would care for it and it might be a bit uncomfortable in the Florida heat. I think it is just a fun thing to do, not an everyday thing.

I don't think she will ask for another year or so at least. She love princesses and Disney but does not seem to really be interested in that yet.

I planned on taking her to the barber shop to get the Tinker Bell hair glitter and see how that goes first.

 

[Mama Who]

Who is beaing nasty and defensive??? There is apparently no reasoning with you. Fell free to continue projecting your own sexual hangups onto other people's children but don't expect me to condone that behavior. I think making comments like these about other people's children is deplorable and completely unacceptable. Frankly, I cannot believe another parent would do so. I have seen a new low today.

MY point is NOT that you are not entitled to parent how you see fit. I am just trying to give some food for thought by asking why it is any different than other dress up makeup. YOU are the one who got nasty about it, not me. Apperantly I hit a sore spot. Just trying to make pepole think a little bit about their motivations for forbidding something. Sorry you are not comfortable with that. If you think smiple makeup can take away your child's innocence, I think you are so far ingained that you just don't want to think about the whys. There is really nothing more I can do except to ask that you stop making nasty comments about my child.

Why, that would be YOU being nasty and defensive. Not a shock. I'm not the one having a hissy over other people not wanting to put make up on their small children or making this a "sexual hang up" issue. Sort of makes me wonder why you think this is a sex thing and why you want my kid painted up so badly.

I have never said anyone else should not do this. I've never said Disney should not offer it. I said I won't have it done to my child. That's all. You're the one getting hysterical about how terrible it is for me not to want my kid done up like this.

As for your allegation that I've said terrible things about other people's children, please go find them or apologize for telling such a scandalous lie. I have said not one thing about your child. Not one. To claim I did is a repugnant lie and that right there is the behavior that is "low."

 

[Mama Who]

Little girls turn into teens. You are setting the stage for these years with your attitude.

I'm curious, what exactly do you think will go so horribly wrong in her teen years if at the age of 6 or even 8 or 10 I tell her, "we do not put make up on small children in our family"? I mean, I understand that you think make up on little kids is acceptable, but do you really feel that if you don't allow it the kid will go completely out of control later?

The stage I am setting is that I am the parent and I decide what is age appropriate for my child. That there are certain milestones that she may want to reach before she is allowed and that limits are a part of life. It's not my job to give her everything she ever wants even if I think it's bad for her. That would seem to me to be a much worse attitude to take.

 

[dntd]

My DD has went to BBB and never even thought to care about the make up when the costumes are NOT all kid friendly! Skimpy costumes are a big no for my DD.I thought her makeup was tastefully done. I allow her to wear lip gloss and kid friendly nail polish, mind you who doesn't like peeps flavoured lip gloss

 

[dntd]

I don't see how this look is ok

But this one not.

She doesn't even remotely look like a teenager. The colours are very light, this was at the castle with in mins of her makeover as we barely made our reservation on time!She loved her hair, she was able to wear it the next day too.

 

[maxiesmom]

Why, that would be YOU being nasty and defensive. Not a shock. I'm not the one having a hissy over other people not wanting to put make up on their small children or making this a "sexual hang up" issue. Sort of makes me wonder why you think this is a sex thing and why you want my kid painted up so badly.

YOU are the one who is being nasty. With comments about 'Why you want my kid painted up". Light makeup is NOT "painted up". You have been told repeatedly that the parent is in control of how much makeup they will put on your child at BBB. But you want to ignore that fact! No one has said to go make your child look like a trollop, yet you are insinuating any amount of makeup on a child makes them look that way.

You have no idea what my nice looked like with her BBB makeover. And to make comments about her "done up in such a way" is over the line. Or should I post about how your poor girl probably looks so plain? Would you think that nice? It isn't, but that is how you are acting and sounding. As if it is ok to attack other people's kids because they are not parented the same way as you parent. That is pretty low.

You are entitled to your own opinion, but when you start making comments like you have, and it involves making it sound like other's people kids look like hookers, you are going to get very vocal disagreement.

You seem to have some problem with any kind of makeup for a costume, but full on face paint is ok. Can't you see how that makes no kind of sense at all?

 

[princessmom29]

those of us who don't trick our little girls out like this .

Go paint your own kids up and enjoy it. Just accept that that mess isn't going on my baby. As her mother, I have the privilege of protecting her innocence whether you think she needs it or not.

Why, that would be YOU being nasty and defensive. Not a shock. I'm not the one having a hissy over other people not wanting to put make up on their small children or making this a "sexual hang up" issue. Sort of makes me wonder why you think this is a sex thing and why you want my kid painted up so badly.

I have never said anyone else should not do this. I've never said Disney should not offer it. I said I won't have it done to my child. That's all. You're the one getting hysterical about how terrible it is for me not to want my kid done up like this.

As for your allegation that I've said terrible things about other people's children, please go find them or apologize for telling such a scandalous lie. I have said not one thing about your child. Not one. To claim I did is a repugnant lie and that right there is the behavior that is "low."

to make it simple for you, I have snipped the parts directed specificly at me that were nasty comments about MY child. She is not "tricked out" or "painted up" and I am not destroying her innocence. I don't see how you could have ment any of that as a positive refelection on my child???

I really don't care what you do with your child, and do not want to see her wear makeup(I refuse to use the term "painted up" in refernce to anyone's child. It is inappropriate.). She is your child. It really doesn't matter to me what you do. My posts were designed to make some folks think a little about WHY they are forbidding makeup. Your statement about protecting your DD's innocence is a prime example. It turns makeup into something sexual when, for little girls, it has no such connotation. It doesn't destroy ANYONE's innocence. It cannot. People do that, not things. That's why I think, at least part of the time, it is about the parent's hangup, and not about the child atall.

I don't see how this look is ok

But this one not.

She doesn't even remotely look like a teenager. The colours are very light, this was at the castle with in mins of her makeover as we barely made our reservation on time!She loved her hair, she was able to wear it the next day too.

Thanks forthe illistartion. Sometimes a picture is worth a 1000 words.

YOU are the one who is being nasty. With comments about 'Why you want my kid painted up". Light makeup is NOT "painted up". You have been told repeatedly that the parent is in control of how much makeup they will put on your child at BBB. But you want to ignore that fact! No one has said to go make your child look like a trollop, yet you are insinuating any amount of makeup on a child makes them look that way.

You have no idea what my nice looked like with her BBB makeover. And to make comments about her "done up in such a way" is over the line. Or should I post about how your poor girl probably looks so plain? Would you think that nice? It isn't, but that is how you are acting and sounding. As if it is ok to attack other people's kids because they are not parented the same way as you parent. That is pretty low.

You are entitled to your own opinion, but when you start making comments like you have, and it involves making it sound like other's people kids look like hookers, you are going to get very vocal disagreement.

You seem to have some problem with any kind of makeup for a costume, but full on face paint is ok. Can't you see how that makes no kind of sense at all?

I am glad somone else saw it as well!