Why do you homeschool?

Why do you homeschool your kids?

  • Religious conviction

  • Safety issues at local school

  • Special needs of child

  • Discipline issues

  • Other--PLEASE elaborate


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Repeat after me: This is NOT a debate. This is NOT a debate. This is NOT a debate.

Now that we've got that worked out....

I'm wondering why those of you who homeschool your children chose to do it?

Homeschooling is very popular here in Virginia but most of the people I know who do it do so for religious reasons. I'm wondering what the other reasons are that people will choose this route for their kids' educations. Several people have asked me (my mother included) if I planned to homeschool and were surprised I wasn't seriously considering doing it. I have my degree in education, so they just think I would do it since I'm a stay-at-home-mom. I personally think I got a lot out of attending school (private) and think my kids will, too. If I ever worry for their safety or can't live where the quality of the education is good, then I would of course home-school if I couldn't find a better alternative.

So I'm just wondering...what made you decide to homeschool? I know this is a very personal and individual choice, but I'm hoping you'd share your thoughts and reasoning with me. And please elaborate on the general choices I gave above.

Repeat after me: This is NOT a debate. This is NOT a debate. This is NOT a debate.

I will request for this thread to be closed if it turns into a debate.
 
i homeschool my DS (7yrs old). he is a little advanced and the district i was in wasn't very good. he will be doing 4th grade work in a couple of months. he did go to school in kindergarden. i was unhappy with the school. loved his teacher though.
 
No kids yet, but I will probably homeschool if/when they do come into the picture. But that's only if a satisfactory private school isn't available. My reasons are not religious though.
 
I will probably homeschool. (I'm doing research on it now.)

Not for religious reasons.

Annemarie
 

My SIL homeschools both of my nieces because she can't get along with the adults in the public school system. The kids were taken out after (mom had) fights with bus drivers, teachers, administrators, etc.
It breaks my heart to see how sad and socially stunted the two girls are becoming.:( :( in this environment.

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I don't have (nor will I have) any kids. From what I understand about homeschooling, anyone can choose to do this. My question is, what if the parent doesn't know how to do the school work themself? How do/can they teach the child? My cousin homeschooled her child basically just because she didn't want to get up and get her child ready to go to school. She barely eeked by at school herself, so I'm sure she could not "teach" her child properly.

Please don't flame me. I'm just curious on how the homeschooling works when the parent is not "qualified".
 
My DS is 1 1/2. I'm pretty sure I'll be sending him to school, but I wouldn't cross out the option of homeschooling if something came up. I'd do it because I know I could give him a completely personalized education and make it very interactive. For example, have math lessons at the grocery store, go to the library for reading, visit a museum for history, and yes I could also be putting things in a religious perspective for him, although that would not be a main reason for homeschooling. I do not believe he'd be socially lacking as there as many other venues for that. I'd only do this up to middle school, however.
 
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Originally posted by dorisdvu
I don't have (nor will I have) any kids. From what I understand about homeschooling, anyone can choose to do this. My question is, what if the parent doesn't know how to do the school work themself? How do/can they teach the child? My cousin homeschooled her child basically just because she didn't want to get up and get her child ready to go to school. She barely eeked by at school herself, so I'm sure she could not "teach" her child properly.

Please don't flame me. I'm just curious on how the homeschooling works when the parent is not "qualified".

Well personally, I have my BA. I also went through the education curriculum in college. I came very close to actually being a teacher, including doing my student teaching. I feel confident enough in my abilities.
 
Spend more time together as a family.

Spend more time with children when they are rested and fresh rather than tired and cranky from school.

Avoid having to struggle to get children to do the tedious busywork that is so often sent home as homework.

Allow children time to learn subjects not usually taught in their school.

Allow children to have time for more in-depth study than what is allowed in school.

Allow children to learn at their own pace, not too slow or too fast.

Allow children to work at a level that is appropriate to their own developmental stage. Skills and concepts can be introduced at the right time for that child.

Provide long, uninterrupted blocks of time for writing, reading, playing, thinking, or working so that the child is able to engage in sophisticated, complex activities and thought processes.

Encourage concentration and focus - which are discouraged in crowded classrooms with too many distractions.

Encourage the child to develop the ability to pace her/himself - this is prevented in a classroom where the schedule is designed to keep every child busy all the time.

Spend a lot of time out-of-doors. This is more healthy than spending most weekdays indoors in a crowded, and often overheated, classroom.

Spending more time out-of-doors results in feeling more in touch with the changing of the seasons and with the small and often overlooked miracles of nature.

Children learn to help more with household chores, developing a sense of personal responsibility.

Children learn life skills, such as cooking, in a natural way, by spending time with adults who are engaged in those activities.

More time spent on household responsibilities strengthens family bonds because people become more committed to things they have invested in (in this case, by working for the family).

Time is available for more nonacademic pursuits such as art or music. This leads to a richer, happier life.

Children will not feel like passive recipients of subject matter selected by their teachers. They will learn to design their own education and take responsibility for it.

Children will realize that learning can take place in a large variety of ways.

Children will learn to seek out assistance from many alternative sources, rather than relying on a classroom teacher to provide all the answers.

A more relaxed, less hectic lifestyle is possible when families do not feel the necessity to supplement school during after-school and week-end hours.

Busywork can be avoided.

Learning can be more efficient since methods can be used that suit a child's particular learning style.

Children will avoid being forced to work in "cooperative learning groups" which include children who have very uncooperative attitudes.

Children can learn to work for internal satisfaction rather than for external rewards.

Children will not be motivated to "take the easy way out" by doing just enough work to satisfy their teacher. They will learn to be their own judge of the quality of their own work.

Children will be more willing to take risks and be creative since they do not have to worry about being embarrassed in front of peers.

Children will be more confident since they are not subject to constant fear of criticism from teachers.

Peer pressure will be reduced. There will be less pressure to grow up as quickly in terms of clothing styles, music, language, interest in the opposite sex.

Social interactions will be by choice and based on common interests.

Friends can be more varied, not just with the child's chronological age peer group who happen to go to the same school.

Field trips can be taken on a much more frequent basis.

Field trips can be much more enjoyable and more productive when not done with a large school group which usually involves moving too quickly and dealing with too many distractions.

Field trips can be directly tied into the child's own curriculum.

Volunteer service activities can be included in the family's regular schedule. Community service can be of tremendous importance in a child's development and can be a great learning experience.

Scheduling can be flexible, allowing travel during less expensive and less crowded off-peak times. This can allow for more travel than otherwise, which is a wonderful learning experience.

Children will be less likely to compare their own knowledge or intelligence with other children and will be less likely to become either conceited or feel inferior.

Religious and special family days can be planned and celebrated.

More time will be spent with people (friends and family) who really love and care about the children. Children will bond more with siblings and parents since they will spend more time together playing, working, and helping each other.

Feedback on children's work will be immediate and appropriate.

They won't have to wait for a teacher to grade and return their work later to find out if they understood it.

Feedback can be much more useful than just marking answers incorrect or giving grades.

Testing is optional. Time doesn't have to be spent on testing or preparing for testing unless the parent and/or child desires it.

Observation and discussion are ongoing at home and additional assessment methods are often redundant. Testing, if used, is best used to indicate areas for further work.

Grading is usually unnecessary and learning is seen as motivating in and of itself. Understanding and knowledge are the rewards for studying, rather than grades (or stickers, or teacher's approval, etc.).

Children can be consistently guided in a family's values and can learn them by seeing and participating in parents' daily lives.

Children will learn to devote their energy and time to activities that THEY think are worthwhile.

Children will be able to learn about their ethnicities in a manner that will not demean. Children will be able to understand multiculturalism in its true sense and not from the pseudo-multicultural materials presented in schools which tend to depict others from a dominant culture perspective.

Children will not learn to "fit into society," but will, instead, value morality and love more than status and money.

Children do not have to wait until they are grown to begin to seriously explore their passions; they can start living now.

Children's education can be more complete than what schools offer.

Children who are "different" in any way can avoid being subjected to the constant and merciless teasing, taunting, and bullying which so often occurs in school.

Children with special needs will be encouraged to reach their full potential and not be limited by the use of "cookie cutter" educational methods used in schools.

Low standards or expectations of school personnel will not influence or limit children's ability to learn and excel.

Children will be safer from gangs, drugs, and guns.

Parents will decide what is important for the children to learn, rather than a government bureaucracy.

Family will not be forced to work within school's traditional hours if it does not fit well with their job schedules and sleep needs.

Peggy
 
Originally posted by peg2001
Spend more time together as a family.

Spend more time with children when they are rested and fresh rather than tired and cranky from school.

Avoid having to struggle to get children to do the tedious busywork that is so often sent home as homework.

Allow children time to learn subjects not usually taught in their school.

Allow children to have time for more in-depth study than what is allowed in school.

Allow children to learn at their own pace, not too slow or too fast.

Allow children to work at a level that is appropriate to their own developmental stage. Skills and concepts can be introduced at the right time for that child.

Provide long, uninterrupted blocks of time for writing, reading, playing, thinking, or working so that the child is able to engage in sophisticated, complex activities and thought processes.

Encourage concentration and focus - which are discouraged in crowded classrooms with too many distractions.

Encourage the child to develop the ability to pace her/himself - this is prevented in a classroom where the schedule is designed to keep every child busy all the time.

Spend a lot of time out-of-doors. This is more healthy than spending most weekdays indoors in a crowded, and often overheated, classroom.

Spending more time out-of-doors results in feeling more in touch with the changing of the seasons and with the small and often overlooked miracles of nature.

Children learn to help more with household chores, developing a sense of personal responsibility.

Children learn life skills, such as cooking, in a natural way, by spending time with adults who are engaged in those activities.

More time spent on household responsibilities strengthens family bonds because people become more committed to things they have invested in (in this case, by working for the family).

Time is available for more nonacademic pursuits such as art or music. This leads to a richer, happier life.

Children will not feel like passive recipients of subject matter selected by their teachers. They will learn to design their own education and take responsibility for it.

Children will realize that learning can take place in a large variety of ways.

Children will learn to seek out assistance from many alternative sources, rather than relying on a classroom teacher to provide all the answers.

A more relaxed, less hectic lifestyle is possible when families do not feel the necessity to supplement school during after-school and week-end hours.

Busywork can be avoided.

Learning can be more efficient since methods can be used that suit a child's particular learning style.

Children will avoid being forced to work in "cooperative learning groups" which include children who have very uncooperative attitudes.

Children can learn to work for internal satisfaction rather than for external rewards.

Children will not be motivated to "take the easy way out" by doing just enough work to satisfy their teacher. They will learn to be their own judge of the quality of their own work.

Children will be more willing to take risks and be creative since they do not have to worry about being embarrassed in front of peers.

Children will be more confident since they are not subject to constant fear of criticism from teachers.

Peer pressure will be reduced. There will be less pressure to grow up as quickly in terms of clothing styles, music, language, interest in the opposite sex.

Social interactions will be by choice and based on common interests.

Friends can be more varied, not just with the child's chronological age peer group who happen to go to the same school.

Field trips can be taken on a much more frequent basis.

Field trips can be much more enjoyable and more productive when not done with a large school group which usually involves moving too quickly and dealing with too many distractions.

Field trips can be directly tied into the child's own curriculum.

Volunteer service activities can be included in the family's regular schedule. Community service can be of tremendous importance in a child's development and can be a great learning experience.

Scheduling can be flexible, allowing travel during less expensive and less crowded off-peak times. This can allow for more travel than otherwise, which is a wonderful learning experience.

Children will be less likely to compare their own knowledge or intelligence with other children and will be less likely to become either conceited or feel inferior.

Religious and special family days can be planned and celebrated.

More time will be spent with people (friends and family) who really love and care about the children. Children will bond more with siblings and parents since they will spend more time together playing, working, and helping each other.

Feedback on children's work will be immediate and appropriate.

They won't have to wait for a teacher to grade and return their work later to find out if they understood it.

Feedback can be much more useful than just marking answers incorrect or giving grades.

Testing is optional. Time doesn't have to be spent on testing or preparing for testing unless the parent and/or child desires it.

Observation and discussion are ongoing at home and additional assessment methods are often redundant. Testing, if used, is best used to indicate areas for further work.

Grading is usually unnecessary and learning is seen as motivating in and of itself. Understanding and knowledge are the rewards for studying, rather than grades (or stickers, or teacher's approval, etc.).

Children can be consistently guided in a family's values and can learn them by seeing and participating in parents' daily lives.

Children will learn to devote their energy and time to activities that THEY think are worthwhile.

Children will be able to learn about their ethnicities in a manner that will not demean. Children will be able to understand multiculturalism in its true sense and not from the pseudo-multicultural materials presented in schools which tend to depict others from a dominant culture perspective.

Children will not learn to "fit into society," but will, instead, value morality and love more than status and money.

Children do not have to wait until they are grown to begin to seriously explore their passions; they can start living now.

Children's education can be more complete than what schools offer.

Children who are "different" in any way can avoid being subjected to the constant and merciless teasing, taunting, and bullying which so often occurs in school.

Children with special needs will be encouraged to reach their full potential and not be limited by the use of "cookie cutter" educational methods used in schools.

Low standards or expectations of school personnel will not influence or limit children's ability to learn and excel.

Children will be safer from gangs, drugs, and guns.

Parents will decide what is important for the children to learn, rather than a government bureaucracy.

Family will not be forced to work within school's traditional hours if it does not fit well with their job schedules and sleep needs.

Peggy

AMEN! Couln't of said it better myself. I homeschool DS(7). DS did go to Kindgergarten and it just didn't work out for us. DS is way ahead for his age (doing Grade 3 now instead of Grade 2) and is a very stubborn child.
 
Originally posted by dzneelvr
It breaks my heart to see how sad and socially stunted the two girls are becoming.:( :( in this environment.

See:

http://www.familyeducation.com/article/0,1120,58-17910,00.html


Here's an excerpt:

In July 2000 the Discovery Institute, a Seattle-based think-tank published an extensive report on homeschooling written by Senior Fellow Dr. Patricia Lines. She describes several controlled studies comparing the social skills of homeschoolers and nonhomeschoolers.

The homeschoolers scored as "well adjusted". In one study, trained counselors viewed videotapes of mixed groups of homeschooled and schooled children at play. The counselors didn't know the school status of each child. The results? The homeschooled kids had fewer behavioral problems. Dr. Lines' conclusion? "There is no basis to question the social development of homeschooled children."

Peggy

Edited to remove the rolling eyes. I apologize.
 
Originally posted by dorisdvu
I don't have (nor will I have) any kids. From what I understand about homeschooling, anyone can choose to do this. My question is, what if the parent doesn't know how to do the school work themself? How do/can they teach the child? My cousin homeschooled her child basically just because she didn't want to get up and get her child ready to go to school. She barely eeked by at school herself, so I'm sure she could not "teach" her child properly.

Please don't flame me. I'm just curious on how the homeschooling works when the parent is not "qualified".

I'm pretty sure the qualifications depend upon individual state laws. It is for VA. I haven't decided about the issue, as I stated I am researching. There are pros and cons to homeschooling as with anything. There are good and bad examples of homeschooling that can be found, as with anything too. If you are really interested, you should look up homeschooling on the internet. There is an abundance of information.

Annemarie
 
That was a great link, Peggy....:D
 
I looked into homeschooling because of a religious conviction. The reasons why I want to do it, however, look a lot like Peggy's list.

It's not that I think that schools are bad, and it's certainly not that I think teachers are bad. I think that most teachers love children and want to do all they can do to help them succeed. It's just that what they can do is so limited by time, regulations, other students, and so many external factors that I just don't think that any school can provide the experience that DH and I can provide.

We want our children to really be able to sink their teeth into their education. We plan to limit text books and multiple choice tests as much as possible and instead use real books written by authors who are passionate about the subject matter and use creative projects for the children to demonstrate that they've mastered the content. We won't move on when a child "passes" a test because we want them to really get it. Likewise, we won't stay on a subject for extra days because other children don't get it or because there are more lessons on it in the book.

In short, no one loves my kids like my husband and I do. I don't expect them to. No one else will give up everything to ensure that they get a quality education. They're my kids, and their future success depends on me. I'm not willing to turn their education over to someone else when so much is riding on it.
 
Other.... We live in an area where the schools are horrible. GA ranks 49-51 in education(depending on what test is looked at). The Ele school district we live in is rank one of the worst in the state.


dzneelvr ... did you ever consider that the reason she didn't get alone with the school staff is because she was fighting for what her children needed and were not getting?

Believe me I've been there. When the Ped ruled out ADD the principal insisted that I put DS on Ritalin because "it is easier to medicate them and hope it works, than it is to test them" (yes those were his words). Of course this was after he tried to tell me the school isn't responsible for testing for learning disabilities. I had to remind him that the mother of one of DS's classmates did the testing for the district.

Luckily the Ped was right on all accounts. DS didn't have any problems other than a going to a horrible school.


dorisdvu... Is that what she told you, or is that what you have concluded just because you don't like the fact that her kids don't have to be on a bus at 6:45. Do you really think it is easier to teacher your kids all day long, instead of putting them on a school bus?
 
Originally posted by kadaten
I'm wondering why those of you who homeschool your children chose to do it?


My ex-girlfriend was homeschooled because of her insane dad.

She said she hates it to this day and wishes it wasn't like it was :(
 
I was the one who asked my parenst to be homeschooled. I wasn't being challenged and was bored out of my mind. There weren't teaching me anything and I wanted a change.
 
poohkie.... I would pm you but thought you might think it weird. I wanted to find out if we might know you, maybe through LLG. I know that several families with teen have joined lately, but we haven't met many of them. If you're not in LLG and would like to join a support group that is organizing teen activities please look at their website

http://llghomeschool.org/
 
What we do is dual enroll - the boys are at school part of the day (taking advanced classes) and are at home part of the day.

Basically we take what acceleration the school offers and fill in the gaps at home. Both of the boys (8th and 6th now) will have enough high school credits to graduate as sophomores. The regular school curriculum is just not enough for them.

They are involved in every decision we make... and they do have choices. Our 8th DS is currently taking an AP online Microeconomics course and loving every minute of it. He took the ACT this year for the third time... and scored a 27.

They will stay enrolled as public school students until their "senior" year, as both are athletes and looking to continue that into college. Their classwork will be a combination of online courses, high school courses and college courses. Can you say scheduling nightmare?!??! LOL!

So anyhow... we homeschool because it's the right choice for our sons. They were bored to death and very frustrated to be spoon fed information year after year.

As for the challenge of teaching... you would be amazed at the resources available. DH and I both have college degrees, though, which helps. Saxon Math, for example... offers a solutions manual where every problem in every lesson is worked start to finish. Well worth $30!!!
 

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