Why do people hate the Proud of your Honor Student for Bumper Stickers?

[SaraJayne]

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Then I would be annoyed with my kids going to a school that didnt make honor roll a true accomplishment. I find it hard to believe that every kid is making 95 or above in all classes and has never had a detention. Maybe the course work needs to be reevaluated.

So I guess with your second statement, we should not acknowledge any accomplishment of ANY kind bc there are kids that do no fall into that category...so no acknowledling sports, music, theater or academic acheivements ever bc someone might get slighted?????

Different schools have different standards for honor roll.

 

[Mkrop]

Different schools have different standards for honor roll.

I am seeing that now, but then maybe people shouldnt dislike the stickers because unless it is your school, that may be a huge accomplishment at some schools.

And I will say it again that I would be annoyed if my kids' school did not have a high bar for honor roll to make it truly mean something.

And for those against public bragging, are you against it being published that your child accomplished X by someone else but you are not allowed to say it yourself?

I guess I am thinking of my own situation which I will admit I have struggled with...if it was bragging or not. So forgive me if I sound like I am bragging for a bit. DS14 won two scholarships to two private HSs. One was a huge deal. I thought the schools would contact his current school to let them know he won. Well neither did. I mentioned it to the principal mainly bc he could not sit for a 3rd test if he accepted scholarship #1. She then ran with it and published EVERYWHERE! DS14 got called up during assembly and received congrats for everyone. If I had not "bragged" Ds would never been acknowledged for his huge accomplishment. Then when scholarship #2 came in we have struggled with letting anyone know. Some know bc of how the results came home to the kids but there has not been the same fanfare.

So in the case above, I should have only congratulated my son, and only told close family and friends according to some...am I understanding that correctly?

 

[Tinijocaro]

I think it is poor taste for a parent to brag about their children publicly. If it comes from someone else, no problem. But coming from the parent, it's tacky-whatever happened to a bit of modesty in and humbleness in life?

Chances are good that if your kids are really that great in acedemics, sports, music..whatever, people already know about it.

I find it in very poor taste to hear parents bragging about their kids. Especially when they go on and on. Even though I have kids whose accomplishments could match and usually top theirs, I keep quiet about it. People know what my kids have done without me advertising it.

 

[luvmy3]

I am seeing that now, but then maybe people shouldnt dislike the stickers because unless it is your school, that may be a huge accomplishment at some schools.

And I will say it again that I would be annoyed if my kids' school did not have a high bar for honor roll to make it truly mean something.

And for those against public bragging, are you against it being published that your child accomplished X by someone else but you are not allowed to say it yourself?

I guess I am thinking of my own situation which I will admit I have struggled with...if it was bragging or not. So forgive me if I sound like I am bragging for a bit. DS14 won two scholarships to two private HSs. One was a huge deal. I thought the schools would contact his current school to let them know he won. Well neither did. I mentioned it to the principal mainly bc he could not sit for a 3rd test if he accepted scholarship #1. She then ran with it and published EVERYWHERE! DS14 got called up during assembly and received congrats for everyone. If I had not "bragged" Ds would never been acknowledged for his huge accomplishment. Then when scholarship #2 came in we have struggled with letting anyone know. Some know bc of how the results came home to the kids but there has not been the same fanfare.

So in the case above, I should have only congratulated my son, and only told close family and friends according to some...am I understanding that correctly?

He was acknowledged, he won the scholarship. Why does everyone else have to know, so they can congratulate him.

My kids are acknowledged for their accomplisments, when it says Honor Roll in that little box on their report card. That is good enough for us as parents, we don't need to let everyone know so that they can congratulate my kids

 

[Mkrop]

He was acknowledged, he won the scholarship. Why does everyone else have to know, so they can congratulate him.

My kids are acknowledged for their accomplisments, when it says Honor Roll in that little box on their report card. That is good enough for us as parents, we don't need to let everyone know so that they can congratulate my kids

Like I said I technically I did not brag (which is why I put it in quotes) bc I had to inform the principal as to WHY he could not take test #3, there are certain things that prevent you and you sign up via your school. So withdrawing from the test had to go through your principal.

Anyway I see nothing wrong with everyone knowing, even though it wasnt "announced" by me. It is a huge accomplishment. Kids are featured around here in the paper all the time for sports, for music accomplishments so why cant he or any other child be congratulated for their scholarship. Kids when I went to school wore special ribbons to indicate they made National Honor Society.

I am not trying to make this about my kid, I just feel there is a double standard when it comes to "celebrating and announcing" academic acheivements than there is to sports, music etc. I mean the leads in the play come out for the last applause bc it is a huge deal to earn that role, yes then they all come out but there is definitely a way to acknowledge the best in front of an audience. The sports athlete's signing or winning a scholarship to College A is always highlighted.

 

[EMHDad]

If we get a bumber sticker, we r putting it on. Like seeing them on other cars.

 

[pacrosby]

I am not trying to make this about my kid, I just feel there is a double standard when it comes to "celebrating and announcing" academic acheivements than there is to sports, music etc. I mean the leads in the play come out for the last applause bc it is a huge deal to earn that role, yes then they all come out but there is definitely a way to acknowledge the best in front of an audience. The sports athlete's signing or winning a scholarship to College A is always highlighted.

But generally speaking they are celebrated and announced.........one time. In the newspaper or at a student reception or whatever. Just like everything else. The bumper sticker is like the Ever Ready Bunny....it keeps announcing it over and over and over.

And you've never actually commented on the appropriateness of bumper stickers that might announce Junior's MVP nomination; or Suzie's first place in the championship baton twirling competition. Would you look at that and smile and think "oh, good for Junior/Suzie" or would you roll your eyes alittle?

Again....this thread is primarily talking about bumper stickers.

 

[Mkrop]

But generally speaking they are celebrated and announced.........one time. In the newspaper or at a student reception or whatever. Just like everything else. The bumper sticker is like the Ever Ready Bunny....it keeps announcing it over and over and over.

And you've never actually commented on the appropriateness of bumper stickers that might announce Junior's MVP nomination; or Suzie's first place in the championship baton twirling competition. Would you look at that and smile and think "oh, good for Junior/Suzie" or would you roll your eyes alittle?

Again....this thread is primarily talking about bumper stickers.

Well like with any thread on the DIS (even one I started) I think it has it subtopics or tangents

And I guess we will have to agree to disagree on the bumper stickers, I dont see them as announcing it over and over bc most times I am behind the car for mere minutes so it probably is the first time I would know that the kid is an Honor Roll student. And no I would have no issue if someone wants to put other types of accomplishments on their car...go for it!

I dont think I would personally put a sticker on my car but it doesnt faze me enough if the guy parked in front of me at Target wants to do it, and I dont hate the fact that he has it there. I dont get people caring what others have on their car unless it is a poltiical or relgious message they strongly oppose.

 

[pacrosby]

Well like with any thread on the DIS (even one I started) I think it has it subtopics or tangents

And I guess we will have to agree to disagree on the bumper stickers, I dont see them as announcing it over and over bc most times I am behind the car for mere minutes so it probably is the first time I would know that the kid is an Honor Roll student. And no I would have no issue if someone wants to put other types of accomplishments on their car...go for it!

I dont think I would personally put a sticker on my car but it doesnt faze me enough if the guy parked in front of me at Target wants to do it, and I dont hate the fact that he has it there. I dont get people caring what others have on their car unless it is a poltiical or relgious message they strongly oppose.

ok, so it's not like announing it over and over again to the same person but it is like making an ongoing statement. Just in case the driver behind you missed it yesterday. LOL

And with regards to your other statement.....now see I don't get why anyone cares about someone's political or religious bumper sticker. That's not 'bragging', that's making a statement about something they believe in. And free speech is a good thing

and fwiw: I also don't 'hate' the honor roll bumper stickers. They just make me snicker alittle and wonder about the person driving the car

 

[Mkrop]

LOL Now see I don't get why anyone cares about someone's political or religious bumper sticker. That's not 'bragging', that's making a statement about something they believe in. And free speech is a good thing and fwiw: I also don't 'hate' the honor roll bumper stickers. They just make me snicker alittle and wonder about the person driving the car

I wont argue with you there! Free speech is good

I dont technically care about other types of bumper stickers either but to me I could UNDERSTAND that more if the message goes agaisnt your beliefs. Hope that is clearer!

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

I think it is poor taste for a parent to brag about their children publicly. If it comes from someone else, no problem. But coming from the parent, it's tacky-whatever happened to a bit of modesty in and humbleness in life?

Chances are good that if your kids are really that great in acedemics, sports, music..whatever, people already know about it.

I find it in very poor taste to hear parents bragging about their kids. Especially when they go on and on. Even though I have kids whose accomplishments could match and usually top theirs, I keep quiet about it. People know what my kids have done without me advertising it.

Same here.

 

[luvmy3]

 

[luvmy3]

I think these are my favorites

 

[Acklander]

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So I guess with your second statement, we should not acknowledge any accomplishment of ANY kind bc there are kids that do no fall into that category...so no acknowledling sports, music, theater or academic acheivements ever bc someone might get slighted?????

I think the poster was talking about public acknowledgement, not just acknowledgement. There is a difference.
The bumper sticker is sort of like tooting your own horn, and sometimes that rubs people the wrong way. That's all. If your kid is THAT spectacular, people will know about it, you don't need to keep reminding people of it with a bumper sticker.

 

[krcit]

 

[Wendy31]

Ha! I love that one! I want it for me!

 

[chloelovesdisney]

I don't feel one way or another about bumper stickers. If it makes someone happy to put it on their car, no biggie to me.

 

[nmmom95]

I think it is poor taste for a parent to brag about their children publicly. If it comes from someone else, no problem. But coming from the parent, it's tacky-whatever happened to a bit of modesty in and humbleness in life?

Chances are good that if your kids are really that great in acedemics, sports, music..whatever, people already know about it.

I find it in very poor taste to hear parents bragging about their kids. Especially when they go on and on. Even though I have kids whose accomplishments could match and usually top theirs, I keep quiet about it. People know what my kids have done without me advertising it.

This is exactly how I feel about it.

 

[mrsg00fy]

I find those bumper stickers to be slightly annoying. I expect my kids to make honor roll.....I don't view it as an achievement. I certainly wouldn't be advertising it.

 

[A_Princess'_Daddy]

I see academics as different.

And just in case someone decides to be snarky and imply my child must not be on the honor roll, she is. I am proud of her hard work. But I don't see it as any more of an accomplishment than her good friend who busts her butt but still gets C's and B's. She works every bit as hard as DD and her B's are every bit as much of an accomplishemnt as dd's A's.

Sorry, but a B is not the same accomplishment as an A. That is why they are different grades. Your daughter's friend may indeed have worked just as hard, or even harder, but it is not the same accomplishment. I climbed a hill today, but it is not the same as climbing a mountain, just because it took effort.

You know those little metal fish that sometimes say "Jesus"or have a tiny cross, or are sometimes just the traditional Christian fish symbol? Well, Darwin fish are a version of that but instead they say 'Darwin' and the fish have little feet. I was a Biology major, concentrating in evolution and ecology, so it fits for me. I've also seen a version where a large 'Truth' fish is devouring a tiny Darwin fish, which I think is hilarious.

My husband has a little metal Flying Spaghetti Monster on his car.

I have to say that I find the Darwin Ichthus symbols somewhere between offensive and ignorantly insensitive, and I am in no way a dogmatic Christian; in fact, I am quite liberal and ecumenical in my faith and a firm believer in evolution. Perhaps because I was raised with a strong understanding of the historical meaning of the Ichthus, however, I find the Darwin lizard symbol hurtful and think it is insensitive to use it to "poke fun" at those of faith. Imagine the legitimate outrage if a Christian decided to indicate their Christian faith by putting a sticker showing a cross smashing a Star of David, or a Star of David morphing into a crucifix on their car. That is why I find the FSM logo much more amusing and not at all offensive; it isn't taking an important symbol to one faith and using it to poke fun at another faith, but rather is a unique symbol to those of a certain belief. Sorry for the rant, I've just always wanted to say that to somebody...