Why Can't Parent's RSVP!

[GJM]

I invited 18 kids to DS party next Sat. The RSVP date was for today, I am still waiting for 9 parents to call. Why can't parent's just call - I always RSVP. Now I have to try and get the phone numbers for kids and find out if they are coming our not.

It's just so frustrating. Last year was great, my DS did Kindergarten in his daycare, for his birthday I had a magician come and do a show and make balloon animals. No RSVP to that party!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

You got 9 people to RSVP...you are on a roll woman. Wait till they get older, nobody calls.

 

[GJM]

So I guess that is good I got 9 to call! I hate to say the other kids aren't coming because I want to make sure they have a goodie bag.

I hate doing birthday parties!

 

[CEDmom]

Hi fellow Jerseyan . It's hard when you do a whole class party. Many parents just don't think it's a big deal especially if they don't even know your child. They fail to think how they'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot. I guess you don't have a school directory. Maybe you could send notes in and ask the teacher to put them in the kids homework folders.

Good luck and happy birthday to your DS.

 

[Tinijocaro]

I don't think the teacher should be asked to handle party invitations- they have enough to do. Also, it's generally frowned upon to do birthday invites through school- someone always feels left out.

 

[grinningghost]

You got 9 people to RSVP...you are on a roll woman. Wait till they get older, nobody calls.

They never called for me - ever. Not old, not young. People are really disrespectful idiots sometimes.

 

[aprilgail2]

I hate that! I always call within a day or two of getting the invite, this way I don't forget. December is a crazy month for people though, I know I have to say no to any kids birthday party in the month of Dec since we are very busy with Christmas stuff and don't have a spare weekend day from Thanksgiving until Christmas.

 

[GJM]

We actually invited all the boys from DS class - one kid he didn't want to but I just felt that was wrong to exclude someone. We have to give invites out before school, not in school. I thought about the note, but I'm thinking the parents still may not responsed. Of course my DS keeps telling me so & so is coming, well their parent didn't call to tell me.

I am going to call one of the class mothers and see if she can give me telephone numbers, not sure if they will give them out.

Just call me!

 

[Jenn Lynn]

This happened with DD's Birthday party as well. I had 5 kids out of 15 RSVP. I had to call the rest and all, but TWO said they were coming! Good thing I called!

 

[luvtogo12]

DS had a birthday party a few weeks ago. I sent out about 14 invites---2 responded and only three showed up. I had to pay for a minimum of 10 kids. I really did not care about having to pay for the ones who did not show as much as I cared about DS waiting and wondering if anyone else was coming.

I give one boy a ride home from school every day. I asked if he was coming and he said he would call over that weekend. I never heard from him and he did not show. When I picked him up on Monday I asked him why he did not call and he said "My mom said I did not need to call".

 

[Sherri]

I invited 18 kids to DS party next Sat. The RSVP date was for today, I am still waiting for 9 parents to call. Why can't parent's just call - I always RSVP. Now I have to try and get the phone numbers for kids and find out if they are coming our not.

It's just so frustrating. Last year was great, my DS did Kindergarten in his daycare, for his birthday I had a magician come and do a show and make balloon animals. No RSVP to that party!

This my friend is the age old question. This was always a sore spot for me. I always was good about responding either way within a day or two of the invite.
I always hated having to hunt down phone numbers, only to hear, oh yea they will be coming, I forgot to call.
Anyone who has ever thrown a party knows how important rsvping is, so it always blew my mind when some didn't respond by the date on the invitation.
Another thought for the future might be to also give your e-mail address as well, people seem to always find time to email.

 

[Sherri]

DS had a birthday party a few weeks ago. I sent out about 14 invites---2 responded and only three showed up. I had to pay for a minimum of 10 kids. I really did not care about having to pay for the ones who did not show as much as I cared about DS waiting and wondering if anyone else was coming.

I give one boy a ride home from school every day. I asked if he was coming and he said he would call over that weekend. I never heard from him and he did not show. When I picked him up on Monday I asked him why he did not call and he said "My mom said I did not need to call".

Okay, this just breaks my heart. Your poor little boy. And where exactly are the manners of the parents?

 

[Sherri]

I don't think the teacher should be asked to handle party invitations- they have enough to do. Also, it's generally frowned upon to do birthday invites through school- someone always feels left out.

Our school only allows this if all of the students are invited from the class.

 

[aprilgail2]

Our school lets you do it if you are inviting the whole class or the boys can do it if they just invite all the boys and the girls can do it if they just invite all the girls...in 2nd grade my daughter hasn't been to any parties that had boys tehre and hers was a girls only party too.

 

[MushyMushy]

Nobody RSVPs where I live either. I like to do it right when I get the invitation so I don't forget.

 

[mla2177]

I hate when people do this in general! My family and my DH family are the biggest offenders! Don't people realize we need to know how much food to get or favors! I had a cousin do this for my son's 1st birthday party. I did treat bags for the kids, so at the last minute she tells my Aunt she is coming with her two kids. The morning of the party I run out and buy more treat bags and stuff to fill it, and she never showed up!!!!! I think that is soooooooo rude!!!!

 

[Hillbeans]

I have to agree with some of the other posters. The last time I included an E-mail address on my birthday invites I got half of the responses in that form.

It seems to be a preferred way of communication for some people. I know I sometimes feel uncomfortable calling a "mom" I don't know however I always RSVP to a party no matter what it is or who it's for, even if we can't attend.

 

[shortbun]

You'll have to call the rest of them. Some more may trickle in in the next few days. I think you are doing well to have gotten half a week prior. It is a busy weekend next weekend. I'd call.

 

[GJM]

I like the idea of putting my email address on - wish I did that before I sent them out. I'm going to remember that for next year.

What age do the parties stop? My DS will be 7 this year and he is having a bowling party.

 

[Sherri]

I like the idea of putting my email address on - wish I did that before I sent them out. I'm going to remember that for next year.

What age do the parties stop? My DS will be 7 this year and he is having a bowling party.

In our family the parties keep on going and going. My dd had a party this year for her 14th birthday and every year prior. My ds had around 100 kids to his 14th b-day last year, this year asked if he could do the same. We said, You got to be kidding, right? This was right after he went over the cell phone text plan by $150.00 while we were on vacation. That was his party this year. I must say, I did miss not having one for him. Look out next year, it will be his big 16.