Bed Head after party.
I try not to blow dry every day because that only makes it worse, LOL. When I DO blow dry, I do it in layers. Go spend $20 and get your hair blown out at a salon and pay very close attention to how they do it. You have to go to a good salon though. I can now get my hair to lay flat and smooth just like my stylist does it. It takes me quite a long time though. I only do it for special occasions.
Also, do not pull your hair into a tight ponytail, especially when wet, you can damage your hair which will only make the frizzies worse. Use those alligator clip things and put it up loosely if you want it up.
My hair is THICK, DRY and extremely frizzy so I feel your pain. I HATE the humidty, I look like a freak, LOL.