Who do you know that has died suddenly this year....

[Disneyland1084]

or any other year? Three weeks ago, a former neighbor who moved a year ago died suddenly of a massive heart attack at 55. My family went camping with him a few times, and would go ATV riding together, but we weren't close to him. I was still shocked to hear about his passing and feel sorry for his 2 sons. He was a smoker and diabetic who didn't manage his health well. I was still shocked and thought "How could it be?" I just saw him 6 months ago at the DMV where he worked. I was friends with his girlfriend, who died two years ago of complications from weight loss surgery, early 50's.

 

[disneychrista]

My uncle this past July. He had recently been diagnosed with cancer. The cancer had spread to his lungs and brain. He didn’t even find out it had spread until the day he passed.

 

[CynBeth]

My dad passed many years ago when I was 15 and he was 45 for the same reason as Disneyland’s neighbor. I lost a friend unexpectedly a little over a month ago not sure the reason. She was 70 and getting over pneumonia but was still not feeling well and had planned to see her doctor. A few days after I last saw her on a Zoom meeting for a group we were both in at our place of worship one of her family members went to check on her as she lived alone with her cats and found her.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

It was and wasn't sudden.

My husband's coworker his son was diagnosed with DIPG which is a terminal childhood cancer.

Based on the wife's (she was the step-mom for him) FB posts I knew some bad news was coming, the bad news being the experimental treatments stopped working and he wasn't progressing well. A month after that update he passed away

I think the sudden part was because he was diagnosed in May 2023 and passed away October 2024 which is longer than the average expectancy once diagnosed for this particular cancer (average is usually 9 to 11 months) so you knew it was happening eventually but you kept up hope in some way as he was still doing treatments (flying to CA to do them), still trying to be a kid.

Unfortunately we were out of the country when they had the funeral so we couldn't attend but their posts and tenacity in hope has been a big inspiration for many.

 

[smrt1]

My dad, about two months ago. He wasn’t in the best health, but he didn’t really have anything wrong with him like cancer or some other major illness. Last time I talked to him was on the phone around 6:30 at night. About three hours later he was on life support. He was gone two days later. I still can’t believe it. He was a big Disney fan and he and my mom bought into DVC almost at the beginning. He loved taking kids and first-timers to WDW.

 

[tvguy]

Yes. This year and in years past. Folks that had not been sick. And the most recent ones, if the families ever found out the cause of death, they did not make it public.
A co-worker's adult son fell over dead years ago while eating breakfast. Coroner could not find a cause, co-worker paid for a private autopsy and tests and no cause was ever identified. He never got the closure he was seeking.

 

[barkley]

the spouse of an old friend. kissed her husband good night and woke to find he had passed in his sleep-very early 50's, no history of heart issues. same thing happened to a a co-worker. just a few weeks shy of giving birth she went up to get into bed with her dh only to find him passed-again no history of heart issues/he was in his early 30's

 

[princesscinderella]

My mom passed suddenly last year at 66, they believe she had sudden cardiac arrest. She did not have a heart attack as determined by her autopsy. They waited to give the determination after her toxicology which we knew would come back with nothing as she hated taking any kind of medication. Now we are dealing with my dad and him starting to date a woman and he is lying and telling different stories to me and my sisters. He is acting like a completely different person so it’s been weird too.

 

[leebee]

A friend was killed in a car accident three months ago. She, her husband, and their dog were headed for a weekend trip. They were stopped in highway construction traffic when they were slammed from the rear by an SUV; five vehicles in total were involved in the accident. She and the dog were killed, her husband broke his back and will be in rehab for months. We just had her memorial service last week as the family was waiting for her husband to be well/mobile enough to attend.

 

[Kitty 34]

Our neighbor and very good friend died this weekend. He was 61. We're still reeling over this.

 

[smrt1]

My mom passed suddenly last year at 66, they believe she had sudden cardiac arrest. She did not have a heart attack as determined by her autopsy. They waited to give the determination after her toxicology which we knew would come back with nothing as she hated taking any kind of medication. Now we are dealing with my dad and him starting to date a woman and he is lying and telling different stories to me and my sisters. He is acting like a completely different person so it’s been weird too.

Sorry to hear. Does it bother you that your dad is dating, or is it the fact that he is lying about it?

 

[leebee]

Sorry to hear. Does it bother you that your dad is dating, or is it the fact that he is lying about it?

I'm sorry to hear about your mom, and your dad.
After my dad died, my mom got weird and started lying to us about where she was going and who she was with. I was 18 or 19 at the time and could see straight through her. I wasn't sure how I felt about her dating, but I was furious about the lying, especially as she'd leave me in charge of my younger siblings while she was "off" (they were 14, 9, and 8). We finally caught her (innocently enough; she said she was away for her high school reunion with my aunt so I took the kids up to our cottage for the afternoon.. and there she and the boyfriend were). I know we were NOT happy with her dating this guy (there's other stuff), but I was ROYALLY angry that she was lying to us. If you and your sisters know that your dad is lying, I'd suggest talking to him together and tell him you love him, you can deal with him having another relationship (note I didn't say you were fine with it), but he HAS to stop lying to you all about things. Does he think you don't talk to each other or something? Good luck; it's always challenging when the family dynamic changes.

 

[princesscinderella]

Sorry to hear. Does it bother you that your dad is dating, or is it the fact that he is lying about it?

I'm sorry to hear about your mom, and your dad.
After my dad died, my mom got weird and started lying to us about where she was going and who she was with. I was 18 or 19 at the time and could see straight through her. I wasn't sure how I felt about her dating, but I was furious about the lying, especially as she'd leave me in charge of my younger siblings while she was "off" (they were 14, 9, and 8). We finally caught her (innocently enough; she said she was away for her high school reunion with my aunt so I took the kids up to our cottage for the afternoon.. and there she and the boyfriend were). I know we were NOT happy with her dating this guy (there's other stuff), but I was ROYALLY angry that she was lying to us. If you and your sisters know that your dad is lying, I'd suggest talking to him together and tell him you love him, you can deal with him having another relationship (note I didn't say you were fine with it), but he HAS to stop lying to you all about things. Does he think you don't talk to each other or something? Good luck; it's always challenging when the family dynamic changes.

It’s the lying that the worst. I’m ok that he has a girlfriend it’s the 360 degrees personality change. He and my mom basically lived as shut ins not going out to restaurants or doing anything outside of going grocery shopping. He has been disabled for years and has used it as the excuse. Now he’s asking about taking her to Disney, since she’s never been. It’s just a lot.

 

[Neapolitan Ice Cream]

A dear neighbour died 4 days ago

 

[RUDisney]

My Mom, in April. She was 79 yo, going on 50.

 

[VandVsmama]

My mom passed suddenly last year at 66, they believe she had sudden cardiac arrest. She did not have a heart attack as determined by her autopsy. They waited to give the determination after her toxicology which we knew would come back with nothing as she hated taking any kind of medication. Now we are dealing with my dad and him starting to date a woman and he is lying and telling different stories to me and my sisters. He is acting like a completely different person so it’s been weird too.

My dad did the same. 14 yr ago, my mom died at in her early 60s from pancreatic cancer. 3 months after that, he started dating 1 of her good friends on the sly. He lied about it a lot at first, got mad at us when he got caught. The woman was still married at the time. He even tried to add her as a domestic partner to his health benefits at work at the time. He then asked her to marry him, she accepted, then he wouldn't tell my sister or I what the wedding date was. We found out after the fact that they got married on the 1 yr anniversary of my mom's death.

In the year and a half after my mom died, he also got rid of literally all of our family mementos and photos, shipped all of it to my house. He basically erased all the memories of our family from his house.

Since my mom died, my dad is a different person. He's not a nice guy. Is also self-absorbed, bitter, passive-aggressive, and manipulative. His wife is also not a nice person. I don't understand why my mom was friends with her.

Couple of pieces of advice to consider, given your situation w/your own dad:

1. don't expect him to behave any better. Don't expect it to improve.
2. Figure out what your own personal boundaries are. Be prepared to enforce them with your dad.
3. when you enforce your boundaries with your dad, expect him to get mad and possibly have a tantrum about it.
4. when he gets mad and has a tantrum, put him in a time out for whatever amount of time you feel is necessary.
5. grandparenting is a privilege, not a right. He shouldn't be allowed to behave poorly in front of your children (if you have children).
6. You are an adult just like he is. And you have a right to decide what behavior you are and are not willing to put up with.
7. Just because you ask him to stop lying to you doesn't mean he actually WILL stop lying. Expect that it actually might increase and he'll just get better at covering up his lies.
8. Don't cave to pressure from other extended family members who might try to pressure you into just putting up with his nonsense because he's your dad.

Feel free to PM me if you want to chat further.

 

[VandVsmama]

An awesome colleague at work died a couple of weeks ago all of a sudden. He was a really great guy. Last week at work, they had a little service for him and presented his wife and his mom with a book of memories that everybody put together to remember him. I'm really sad about his passing. He's always made working here super fun and positive. The company has started an annual leadership award in his memory, which is really nice.

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

Close friend Jim Carson, on Los Angeles rock radio for over 50 years.
A really fantastic guy.

Probably gave away more Disneyland tickets than anyone.

 

[princesscinderella]

My dad did the same. 14 yr ago, my mom died at in her early 60s from pancreatic cancer. 3 months after that, he started dating 1 of her good friends on the sly. He lied about it a lot at first, got mad at us when he got caught. The woman was still married at the time. He even tried to add her as a domestic partner to his health benefits at work at the time. He then asked her to marry him, she accepted, then he wouldn't tell my sister or I what the wedding date was. We found out after the fact that they got married on the 1 yr anniversary of my mom's death.

In the year and a half after my mom died, he also got rid of literally all of our family mementos and photos, shipped all of it to my house. He basically erased all the memories of our family from his house.

Since my mom died, my dad is a different person. He's not a nice guy. Is also self-absorbed, bitter, passive-aggressive, and manipulative. His wife is also not a nice person. I don't understand why my mom was friends with her.

Couple of pieces of advice to consider, given your situation w/your own dad:

1. don't expect him to behave any better. Don't expect it to improve.
2. Figure out what your own personal boundaries are. Be prepared to enforce them with your dad.
3. when you enforce your boundaries with your dad, expect him to get mad and possibly have a tantrum about it.
4. when he gets mad and has a tantrum, put him in a time out for whatever amount of time you feel is necessary.
5. grandparenting is a privilege, not a right. He shouldn't be allowed to behave poorly in front of your children (if you have children).
6. You are an adult just like he is. And you have a right to decide what behavior you are and are not willing to put up with.
7. Just because you ask him to stop lying to you doesn't mean he actually WILL stop lying. Expect that it actually might increase and he'll just get better at covering up his lies.
8. Don't cave to pressure from other extended family members who might try to pressure you into just putting up with his nonsense because he's your dad.

Feel free to PM me if you want to chat further.

Thanks for this, its all so new so my sisters and I are taking it a day at a time and trying coordinate what we are each being told separately to get a whole picture.

 

[SandyinMonterey]

My best friends husband. He went into hospital for a common procedure and developed complications.