when you have gotten really really mad

[pumba]

at someone......How long have you held a grudge?

Is it worth the aggravation of talking to the person in question or just being quiet and ignoring the offense....

What do you think???????????

 

[helenabear]

If someone gets me really mad, I usually let them know about it. After that it usually doesn't take me long to calm down. As long as it isn't something very hurtful to me, I let it go pretty much immediately. I don't ever see the point in holding grudges. Now if it was hurtful, I will just put my guard up more so I won't be hurt by that person again. I've honestly never held a grudge, but I have been more reserved in sharing my feelings and personal life with people if I have been deeply hurt.

 

[Mskanga]

Let's just say....what my inlaws did to me last year was very hurtful....and I wrote them off! No I'm not holding the grudge, I'm just not giving them another chance to take advantage of me when they need or want something!

 

[DopeyRN]

Sometimes the hurt was unintentional....stupid, but unintentional. Sometimes the person is not worth making up with anyway. Only the person who was hurt can decide that.

I am not one to hold grudges. I try to look at it that we all make mistakes, speak without thinking. And maybe that person had something bad going on at the time. I really do try to believe all people are good, and because of that belief I have wound up hurt many times. Life is very short, we never know how much time we have left here. I learned that through my dad's death. I would hate to have something happen to someone, and never have the chance to say "I forgive you" or "I'm sorry"....

 

[kiddo]

well i guess it would just depend on who the person is.....

now if my best friend makes me mad and i confront her about it.... thats it. i'm over it.....

if my sister (Julie_Yet) makes me mad (which isn't very often) i can be mad at her for a long time.... and this will come as a suprise if she reads this post!

sometimes life and relationships are strange...

 

[Saffron]

As far as talking to the person about the offense, it depends on if you value the person/relationship and if what they have said/done is something that afffects your relationship with them, then yeah, I would want to talk to them about it. If it's no biggie and if it happened again in the future and you wouldn't be bothered by it, then I would just let it go.

 

[kinlaw6450]

seeing as how my MIL has completely gone over bored again...I think I'll be holding this grudge for a while. Too bad she keeps my kids after school otherwise I would stay as far away for as long as possible. I typically don't hold grudges unless its her.