When life gets you down...

[leadfootlevi]

What do you do? I just can't seem to get out of this funk I'm in. It stinks!

I'm seriously considering therapy of some sort...the professional kind, not retail. The budget cannot handle retail therapy. But, I feel like I'm just whining to someone. It's not like I expect a complete stranger to solve all of my life's problems, I just want someone to talk to. To give me a fresh/unbiased perspective on my life. See, I'm even posting here on the DIS budget board. Kinda' sad.

Bah...

 

[usnuzuloose]

You are not alone, especially at this time of year. Is there one thing that is upsetting you? Or if it is a big issue then sometimes therapy can be just what you need. I am going through some things myself. And believe you me I will be in for quite a while. Put a smile on your face and look around the house and see what can give you a smile today. Merry Christmas!! I Care!

 

[disneyfun2007]

 

[minnie1928]

There's nothing wrong with trying therapy. My mom has used it sporadically for the last 10+ years and has great success with it.

 

[pearlieq]

I'm seriously considering therapy of some sort

I would definitely encourage you in this. If you had diabetes or high blood pressure you'd go to the doctor and get treatment for it. This is no different.

Take good care of yourself. It does get better.

 

[njmom47]

I am a 100% believer in therapy!
I have gone on and off for the past 20 years (mostly off, I'm not crazy, lol) but my insurance pays well for mental health, and I do utilize those benefits. No one says you have to be on it forever; this last time I went for 3 visits to help me through a tough situation. I took away a "lesson" a week (that works best for me), and that helped me for the time being. Also, if you are prescribed meds, no one says you have to stay on THEM forever either.
I agree with someone showing you a different perspective.

 

[jmkst58]

i was on a COMPLETE wrong path 6 years ago. i found a PERFECT therapist that has helped steer me back. My marriage was completely over and now it is completely saved because of it. I am happier as ever being a wife and mother. If I could turn around my ridiculously failed marriage- i do know that there is hope for every single person everywhere. It took some time. i had a lot of changes to make. It did take 6 years of work to save my marriage but I'm now a believer that ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. Absolutely any and every thing is possible.

Therapy can work. I can say that.

 

[SplashMo]

Going for a walk each day can be helpful. Nothing wrong with therapy.

Best Wishes to you! - Splash

 

[ancestry]

I agree that therapy/counseling can be a positive thing.

Your posts sounds a lot like something I could have written a while ago. One thing that I really had to work on in my life was acceptance. I had so many situations in my life that were making me miserable but that I really had no control over. Focusing on trying to find some peace and acceptance really went a long way to helping me feel better. Another thing that helped was being able to fully determine which situations I had the ability to change and which situations I needed to accept in order to find peace. Sometimes making those determinations can be quite difficult.

 

[leadfootlevi]

Thanks everyone!

One of the hardest things for me is my DH. He seems to LOVE misery. I do not. Usually I can find something to be positive about, even in my darkest times. He seems to focus all of his thoughts on what's negative. Almost every phone conversation is about how something or another is wrong. We've done marriage counseling and it was just a giant B*tch session. I would never go back to that guy. His intentions were good, but when he said "You guys need to figure this out" I knew he wasn't for us. I've set up a meeting with our pastor (just for me - DH doesn't want to go and has even threatened to no longer go to church if I do. I guess he doesn't want Pastor to know we have problems.). I think of myself as a generally positive person, but living with his negativity and trying to be Christian is really taking a toll on me.

 

[quentina]

What do you do? I just can't seem to get out of this funk I'm in. It stinks!

I'm seriously considering therapy of some sort...the professional kind, not retail. The budget cannot handle retail therapy. But, I feel like I'm just whining to someone. It's not like I expect a complete stranger to solve all of my life's problems, I just want someone to talk to. To give me a fresh/unbiased perspective on my life. See, I'm even posting here on the DIS budget board. Kinda' sad.

Bah...

Do you work? If so, see if your company sponsers an employee assistance program. If so, you can call and speak to a counselor at no cost to you. Good luck, hope you feel better soon!!

 

[California Jenn]

Sending hugs your way. I agree with the other posts that talking with someone can help - whether it is in therapy or your pastor like you are considering. But also getting outside; talking a walk; talking to a good friend are other things that can help with the funk.

 

[KKB]

But if your budget is tight, perhaps you could try some "at home" options.
First, I recommend a "gratitude" diary. EVERY night I sit down & create a page of all the things in my life that I am grateful for. From the obvious (my family, that I have a job) to the trite--Starbucks coffee, reading the paper every morning.
Second, when I have gotten in a serious funk, the thing that has always lifted me out was to read about or see a story on TV about someone who has it SO worse than me. I remind myself that I am not living in a war zone where I fear for my children playing outside. I am reading today about one young lady who has gone missing from her college campus & another who was beaten to death by her boyfriend--I hurt for those mothers, and am thankful beyond belief that my children are safe.
My techniques might not help one bit. But I am amazed at how often I have broken into tears of relief when I am confronted with those who are in MUCH MUCH tougher situations than I.
Good luck. Sending prayers your way.

 

[eliza61]

If it's a serious depression, I agree with the others on therapy but if it's a minor blue period.

Here are some suggestions:

1) tune out. One day a week, I try to disconnect. no news, no talk shows. Not even the dis. Have you noticed even here on a site dedicated to Disney, it can be one big "*&^chfess? (I'm guilty). one day tune out from it all.

2) Church. I know it sounds corning but my faith sustains me and when you find a nice congregation, it just seems like for a short period, lifes stress are not as bad.

3) count your blessings. Once again it sounds really corny but some times it works. I lost my dad this past may and it's been very hard but when it really makes me sad, I remember that he died peacefully in his sleep. He was never sick (except for some arthritis), had tons of friends and family. He lived through wars, discrimination, poverty and losing his wife and he got to see his beloved Yankees win a couple of world series. So it makes me feel better when I remember he had a good life.

 

[mainstreetmagic]

You've gotten some great advice. Feel better!

 

[semo233]

Most health insurance provides for some mental health visits and Employee Assistance Programs usually have a limited offering, but they are both options.

Keeping a thankful journal is a great idea! I do it before I go to bed each day and come up with at least 5 things to be thankful for that day. There are some days that I'm thankful I didn't burn dinner and there are other days that my thanks is more profound. The point is to end the day on an up-note.

Every morning, I write down 5 things that I am looking forward to! This helps me start my day on an up-note.

Once I developed this habit, I found myself saying thanks for things throughout my day! Make sure you express your thaks to someone else and share the joy and smiles!!

One other thing that helps me keep a focus when my life lacked one, was the book "The Traveler's Gifts" by Andy Andrews. It is an easy read and I use the "gifts" every day. I had them printed out and hanging on my wall in my office and many co-workers commented on them and what a positive message they have.

Good Luck with finding your peace.