when it's gone too far...

[cjnix29]

Ok...I have become crazy about never paying full price for anything. I have to have a coupon, or discount code or something. My husband sent me flowers today. Totally surprised me and very sweet. He ordered them online, and I had this twinge of getting mad (not really mad, but can't think of the right word), that he paid full price for them! am I alone?!

 

[Mickey1Fan]

Loving gestures are wonderful and should be enjoyed without a $ amount attached.

Enjoy the flowers and thank you husband without any 'but you could have....' statements.

 

[RadioFanatic]

nope. I've told my dh to please stop sending me flowers that I find out were $80 when it crops up on our statement. I told him I would prefer he buy them from a grocery store for a million times less than that!

 

[taylor3297]

Don't worry about the cost! He did something sweet without any reason except that he loves you. If you make a statement about how he could have saved money, it sounds like you didn't appreciate the gesture. Be thankful you dh does things like this. Mine will only buy me gifts on special occassions, and even then I have to tell him what I want.

 

[dawson5]

I appreciate it when he does it but my only complaint is give me something I can put in the ground. I love it when he does it but I want that joy to last for longer than a week.

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

I get a bit obsessed sometimes, too. what a sweet guy!

 

[DawnM]

I can't even enjoy flowers....I am far too practical. If you are going to spend $80, get me something I can enjoy more than just a week (unless it is Disney passes!).

A potted plant would be fine.

Dawn

 

[Maddie2]

I completely understand!! DH and I have had this discussion. A flower at regular price purchased from the local florist is fine .... a bouquet is not fine.

As far as the gesture of it ... one is the same as a dozen to me. It truly is the thought and remembrance that means the most.

 

[cjnix29]

I totally appreciate that he did it, and I really needed the pick me up! I wasn't really upset about it...just one of those gut check...oh, I could have used a coupon moments! (or he could have bought me a vera bradley! LOL)

 

[deerhart]

given the time of year, alot of the online florists have great deals on their flowers (especially roses).

So maybe he was sentimental AND practical at the same time.

My dh tries a different approach when I get on him about buying something, he usually tells me it could be worse he could have chosen the more expensive option

Sweetie I KNOW they are $200.00 headphones, but at least they weren't the $350.00 ones I REALLY wanted.

 

[msmayor]

I would never, ever criticize my husband for giving me a gift or suggest that he should have bought something cheaper...especially one that is a surprise. Its given out of love, and he knows the price when he's paying for it.

I think it takes some of the joy out of giving the gift if you "correct" the one doing the giving with a "you should have done this instead".

 

[cjnix29]

I didn't say anything to him about it....it was a personal moment. Laughed at myself for even having the thought! My husband does the justification too....but for him...it's usually with the "family gift".....Honey...I really do need the 52" tv, it's a family gift, we all will use it, so it can't count as a birthday, Christmas, or any other gift for me, because it is for the family.

 

[sk!mom]

I would never, ever criticize my husband for giving me a gift or suggest that he should have bought something cheaper...especially one that is a surprise. Its given out of love, and he knows the price when he's paying for it.

I think it takes some of the joy out of giving the gift if you "correct" the one doing the giving with a "you should have done this instead".

ITA--I figure that my DH is an adult and employed. Therefore, he can make decisions about spending money. I certainly wouldn't like it if he questioned me every time I bought something.

However, When DD started dancing 10 years ago, I made a point of having him stop at the grocery store to buy a beautiful bouquet that I would then add a big bow too. We would then compliment each other on our thriftiness. That got him in the habit of stopping at the grocery store for flowers. The bonus for me is that I get them much more often now that he's in that habit.

I love flowers and would never complain!

 

[cjnix29]

and really...my whole point in starting this thread was to find out how many of us go too crazy sometimes with the whole coupon thing? how many of us does it drive crazy, no matter WHAT the purchase is, that you paid full price for it.

 

[Chelley00]

I'm not a fan, and it's very hard not to be upset with DH does something like this, because we live on a very strict budget, having 4 kids in private school and I only work part time. DH refuses to do bills or glance at our budget, so he has no idea that spending $80 on flowers has to come out of our grocery budget, or something like that. I appreciate the thought, but I only budget money for birthdays to do things like that, and if he does it at another time, it totally screws my budget

Plus, I don't like roses. I think they smell like a funeral home

 

[taylor3297]

and really...my whole point in starting this thread was to find out how many of us go too crazy sometimes with the whole coupon thing? how many of us does it drive crazy, no matter WHAT the purchase is, that you paid full price for it.

I use a coupon if I have it. If it is something that I would really like to have but don't need, then I try to wait for it to go on sale. If I leave a store and it is still bothering me that I didn't buy the item on the spot, then I go back and get the item even if it isn't on sale.

 

[gabriellyn]

Ok...I have become crazy about never paying full price for anything. I have to have a coupon, or discount code or something. My husband sent me flowers today. Totally surprised me and very sweet. He ordered them online, and I had this twinge of getting mad (not really mad, but can't think of the right word), that he paid full price for them! am I alone?!

I totally get what you are trying to say here - and yes, I have thought the same thing myself!!! On our second WDW trip DH SURPRISED me with some gold Mickey jewelry while we were having dinner at Mama Melrose's. I was so totally shocked and thrilled, but at the same time I thought "holy smokes, I am sure it wasn't on sale!" Not that I appreciated the gift any less, it was just such an automatic thought!

It's nice to have such a wonderful DH!

 

[RumpleMom]

I completely understand the sale/coupon thing.

There is a commercial on TV about a phone- you can be talking on the phone and access the Internet. The husband is talking to his wife on the phone and she says, "I can't believe our anniversary is next week. DH switches to Internet and orders a bouquet of roses. I can't tell you the name of the phone, but I could see that the roses cost $142.99! I told DH do not ever spend that kind of money on flowers. He assured me that he never would.

We just save our "craziness" for adding on DVC points.

The important thing is that you and your spouse can agree on how money is spent the vast majority of the time, and enjoy the very rare splurges.

 

[deerhart]

I refused to look at the debit to our account when dh bought my anniversary band last year. I just complete ignored the number coming out of my account and went along my way

It took some deep breaths to do so but I made it

 

[Evi]

I'll join in but laugh with you. My Hubbie used to buy me these bouquets from a local florist and they would start to die within 1-2 days. Finally one day I brought one in and showed it to them after 1 day of having them and they gave me a store credit for $150-. I was torn because I thought it was so sweet of him to buy me such gorgeous flowers but I was also mad because they were obviously already opened flowers and were not lasting for the price he paid (ok I expect my flowers to live for at least 1 week). Also I have a friend whose a florist and takes me to flower market where 2 dozen roses freshly flown in from colombia still in original packaging walk into the cooler fresh lol. the giant red or any color your heart could ever desire go for between 20-25 dollars. Even orchids cost under 30$ so I've asked him to stop getting flowers from that shop. Unfortunately somehow he interpreted that to mean don't buy flowers.

So lesson learned watch what you ask for love your flowers and kiss your hubbie lol

I also still buy flowers now I just buy what I like and kiss him when he comes home and tell him thank you for the flowers lol.