what would you say? help a sister out.

[K-Shong99]

so...
today i was informed that my friend and the catcher for my softball team is pregnant.
she is only a few days older than me, making her sixteen.
okay, i understand that these things happen.
she is going to keep the baby, and i think she is happy to be having it in the first place.
but when she told me, it was like she wanted me to say, " hey! congrats! name it after me!" or something.
i just don't think she understands the baggage that this baby is going to bring.
of course, it isn't the kids fault; i am happy that she wants to keep it, along with help from her parents.
but the baby daddy is a JERK.
i know he is gonna bail on her as soon as she puts on a little bit of weight.
so, when i wasn't overly happy when she told me she was pregnant she got kinda offeneded, but come on, what would you have said?
i guess i just want to know if it would be rude for me to simply remind her that having a child isn't all rainbows and butterflies, or should i just keep my mouth shut?

 

[chisnpeke]

My friend got pregnant almost two years ago. She kept the baby. I just said I'll support you in whatever decision you make. She was 17 going on 18 at the time and about to graduate high school so it wasn't as bad as it could have been. I didn't congratulate her when she got pregnant, but I did when the baby was born.

 

[princesskelz]

i def. wouldnt congratulate any of my friends if they got pregnate.
being a preg. teen isnt something to be proud of.

 

[PirateSnowmen]

I would have done exactly what you did. I would have reminded her it's going to be a lot of work, but I would also tell her that I would support her.

 

[MrsSparrow..]

Probably been the same as you. I'd be really surprised at first and a bit disappointed in my friend. I'd probably think she was joking!

It is great she is so optimistic and keeping the baby though.

 

[Cinderelli16]

I'd definatly be acting the same way as you right now.
If one of my friends got pregnant at this age, I would be VERY disappointed in them. Would I be supportive of her, and help her out? Yes of course. But I certainly wouldn't be jumping for joy.

I don't think this girl really understands what she got herself into. Babies are SOO much work, and being in charge of it's life is a HUGE responsibilty.

I hope the best for her and her baby.

 

[pigletgirl]

A girl from my soccer team got pregnant my junior year of HS, and we supported her 100% of the time even if we didn't approve. That didnt matter. The focus was on the well-being of her and the baby.

Please don't be rude or say anything inappropriate to her. She's extra sensitive right now.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

so...
today i was informed that my friend and the catcher for my softball team is pregnant.
she is only a few days older than me, making her sixteen.
okay, i understand that these things happen.
she is going to keep the baby, and i think she is happy to be having it in the first place.
but when she told me, it was like she wanted me to say, " hey! congrats! name it after me!" or something.
i just don't think she understands the baggage that this baby is going to bring.
of course, it isn't the kids fault; i am happy that she wants to keep it, along with help from her parents.
but the baby daddy is a JERK.
i know he is gonna bail on her as soon as she puts on a little bit of weight.
so, when i wasn't overly happy when she told me she was pregnant she got kinda offeneded, but come on, what would you have said?
i guess i just want to know if it would be rude for me to simply remind her that having a child isn't all rainbows and butterflies, or should i just keep my mouth shut?

You were realistic not rude. She's going to realize soon that your right.