What would you do??

[buzz for boys]

ok guys im gonna apologise in advance for the length of this post and im going to try and keep it brief -
As some of you know I had a fairly bad falling out with a former friend at the kids school she is now getting in with a lady I kind of know that does loads of fundraising for childrens cancer - just before we fell out my ex friend told me she was going to try to get in with her so it helped her fundraising efforts for the disease that killed her son.
Only thing is she is now undermining the fundraising efforts for this lady hwo thinks she is helping her - she has told everyone at the school that the lady used some of the funds to fund a trip for the family to DLP. I also heard through the grapevine that she has said that childhood cancer is nothing and doesnt desreve the money that has been given

Do I warn the lady to watch her back ??? or will it just come across as stirring and sour grapes??? I have a fairly good inclining that I have been turned into a vllian by my so called friend and that the lady is totally took in.
Do I look the other way??? What would you do??

 

[Dimplenose]

My goodness your ex-friend really does need some help!

Unless you know the fundraiser really well then I'd just walk away. At the end of the day it will be your word against hers and as you suspect you may well end up appearing the villain.

I know it's hard not to get involved when the children she is helping will ultimately be the ones who miss out.

Concentrate your energy on Cam and the rest of your family.

 

[joolz1910]

I wouldn't get involved. She will deny it and you will look like a stirrer. You have no 'proof' as such and your other friends probably won't back you up when it comes to the crunch.

 

[Pegasus928]

To be honest this ex-friend of yours sounds like she is in need of some immediate psychiatric help - and I mean that seriously.
If you suspect that this woman has already been turned against you then maybe you could get someone else on your behalf to warn her about the stories that are being spread.
Hopefully people will soon get to find out that this other woman is bad news, and she will get the help that she needs before she makes anyone elses life a misery.

 

[buzz for boys]

To be honest this ex-friend of yours sounds like she is in need of some immediate psychiatric help - and I mean that seriously.
If you suspect that this woman has already been turned against you then maybe you could get someone else on your behalf to warn her about the stories that are being spread.
Hopefully people will soon get to find out that this other woman is bad news, and she will get the help that she needs before she makes anyone elses life a misery.

I do honestly think you are right but as the whole thing blew up in my face when I suggested she needed help ill keep that to myself. She is doing such a good job at the moment at being the fundraising super mom who lost her child - story even in a magazine this week and she on tv tomorrow - makes my blood boil so want to write in to everywhere with my experience of this 'inspirational mom '

We do have a mutual friend that has already seen through my ex friend and said she wouldnt be sitting in a room with sharp objects with her I thought about telling her but then I dont want to put her in the position that Im in if you know what I mean ??? All 3 of us have children who are battling cancer so i dont want to add anymore stress to anyone else. Dh says walk away but I feel bad standing back and watching it hppen to someone else. I also gather that my ex friend has involement with the ladys daughter and I know first hand that thats a bad idea especially as I know that she resents everything that this lady is doing. I must be mad to even contemplate saying anything its only going to give me a world of pain isnt it ??

 

[buzz for boys]

I wouldn't get involved. She will deny it and you will look like a stirrer. You have no 'proof' as such and your other friends probably won't back you up when it comes to the crunch.

I know youre right ill look the idiot standing on my own!!

 

[PJB71]

What an awful position for you to be in with everything else you have got going on its just not fair

I think if it was me as hard as it is you have to walk away and just hope that someone else sees it and tells the person doing the fundraising.

Dont give this ex-friend any more satisifaction by letting her upset you anymore than she has done already

sending you lots of