What would you do if this was your daughter?

[Brer Bear]

You know in this age of internet controlled and viewable cameras it would be really easy to wire a house up for "remote" survelliance. Got a friend who is a wiz at computers...you can set them up to record on a hard drive at home, but be viewed live or time lapse at any location with internet access.

My 15 year old already thinks our house is wired with cameras....It's not, but I'm not busting that bubble! HE HE!

 

[mamaloya]

If you think 25 days with 1 friend is too long, you may try to mix things up a bit. Have her drive down with you. A few days later have a friend fly in and take the Magical Express to the campground. She can stay a few days or so and then fly out. If there is still time or another friend to come, have another one fly in for a few days. She can play tour guide and show them around. I am sure she would not mind going on her favorite rides over and over again.

Or, she only has one friend fly in a week into the trip, stay a week and then return home. You will still get family time, but she still has time with a friend. If you have room, you may be able to have 2 friends fly in and have them all stay in a tent on the site complete with a couple of air mattresses and power outlets. My son and nephew had quite the setup with a power strip for all their devices and another cord devoted solely to a heater. Of course, in the summer it would be a fan. You could even bring one of those portable air conditioners for the tent. She might actually enjoy having her own "room" with or without friends.

Have a great trip!!

 

[mrsgus06]

Wow 4 girls....

Yep, I am trying to compete with BDR, except his are older!

 

[mamaloya]

I have 4 girls and 2 boys. I would take boys over girls ANY day!!!!

 

[cruising spud]

Where we live, the school year ends at the end of June and starts again at the end of August. Realistically, twenty-five days would be almost half of my daughter's vacation time. I would probably shorten the trip.

 

[magnolia-belle]

Yep, I am trying to compete with BDR, except his are older!

 

[stacktester]

I say shoot her.

I have not run into that problem yet. I also let them bring a couple of friends during the summer. I also try to keep in touch with people they meet during other summers (Stacktester's dd, Anniston, is one) and include them in my plans.

When they do start rebelling, I will give them the choice of going with me or staying here with their father. He has to work so he stays here. Oh, they also get the choice of staying with Gramps and Grandma (are you reading this Gramps?) I guess I need to break the news to hubby that they will eventually be staying here and I get all summer away, BY MYSELF!

Mine is only 10 and it's been harder to get her to go on certain trips. No more Daytona 500's and her new 4 wheeler sits in the garage. Thank god for WDW and FW. So far no problem getting her there lol. Everybody says bring a friend. Her cousin who is 9 came a couple times and she was pretty excited. When I told her I only booked 6 nights over 4th of July she acted like I was crazy. She said that few days will just fly by and we need more so we're doing 10. Since she's 16 bring a friend and a golf cart and maybe that will do the trick.

 

[mrsgus06]

I have 4 girls and 2 boys. I would take boys over girls ANY day!!!!

I have 2 boys that go along with the 4 girls too! I'm right there with ya! Girls have so much drama going on in their lives and the boys just try to ignore their sisters.

 

[BigDaddyRog]

I have 2 boys that go along with the 4 girls too! I'm right there with ya! Girls have so much drama going on in their lives and the boys just try to ignore their sisters.

Its me whos trying to compete with YOU MrsGus!!! Yes, I have 4 girls, but only 1 boy in the house(grandson)...so ya got me beat by a boy!!!!

 

[clkelley]

At 16, my boys were so involved in stuff at home (mostly baseball, school ball, summer ball, fall ball) that there was no way we could take them anywhere for 25 days!! However, for the weeklong trips we did take them on (usually T'giving week), from about the time they were 15, we pretty much gave them free reign of the parks and transportation system, and made them appear for a command performance for 1 sit down meal per day. As a matter of fact, I think one trip, we could have gotten away with buying them Disney Quest tickets only. Except for the meals, (and one E-Ride night), I think they spent the entire trip in that place.

Our last trip as an entire family, we let them bring the girlfriends along, and that worked out well, (except that I was stuck in a value room with two teenage girls!!)

Now, we're lucky if they can join us for a day or two and never both together.

 

[PolynesianPixie]

I can (usually) handle the drama of my 3 girls and ALL their friends. I guess because I understand it so well

I have 7 nephews and they drive my batty! All that fighting and shouting! I mean, I love'em to death and all, but I can only take so much before I feel the need for a hot bath

 

[bord1niowa]

We had 4 girls and 1 boy here too and we thought the boy was bad! hahaha The things we are finding out about what went on with the girls....Oh My! Our youngest is 17 now so it's almost over. She wasn't keen on going to WDW this year, a boyfriend is in the picture. But now since he will be coming, everything is great again and she's all for going. They're not going to get much "alone time" as there will be 9 of us going....hahaha.

 

[nana2tots]

Dang breick Did you win the Lottery or what? LOL, I can't image ever having that many days to loaf around, God, adopt me and my 2 Granddaughters .Plezzzzzzzz

 

[stacktester]

I have 2 boys that go along with the 4 girls too! I'm right there with ya! Girls have so much drama going on in their lives and the boys just try to ignore their sisters.

I've seen the drama in action lol.

 

[Momof626x3]

We're planning our first trip to the Fort in our TT this August with our 3 boys. I was starting to think I was crazy for subjecting myself to being in a camper with them for 2 weeks...the running, fighting, shouting with no hope for a hot bath at the end of my day! I'm glad I found this thread because no matter how crazy they drive me I'm going to remind myself to enjoy them while they are still little and still like me (and still willing to go fetch me another beer). Someone please remind me of this in July, okay?

 

[poohbearwithme]

I don't mean to throw a wrench in your cogs...but she is just 16 and you are the parents...I mean why put your vacation plans on hold or shorten them because she doesn't want to go that long. Just go and I'll bet once there she will have a wonderful time...if not let her sit in the TT and pout all day. Once she figures out she does not have an audience you will be surprised how fast it stops. I don't think going to Disney for 25 days with her family is going to ruin her life. Maybe let her have a say in where you go for the next vacation. Maybe I'm being cold with my response but I can't see letting a 16 year old make all the family vacation plans.

 

[BigDaddyRog]

I dunno....an angry 16yr girl old can sure RUIN a good time!!!! How old are your kids, Poohbearwithme?

 

[cruising spud]

I am the mother of three daughters, ages 33, 27, and 14.

Most of the time, our gone-from-the-house daughters (and their spouses), even as they get older, enjoy coming on vacations with us. That being said-there was a time when our oldest daughter did not want to go to Disney with us. She was 18 years old. My husband and I talked and told her she could stay home. She invited a friend over for the nine days we were gone, and my mother dropped by once in awhile to see if she needed anything. We called her every night. Well......by the third night, she was saying she wished she had come with us. When we got home, she told us she would never say no again. And she hasn't-if we invite-she comes.

And, we now face a bit of the same thing with our youngest. She is fine traveling with us as long as we are going on a "real vacation." However, if we went to go camping close to home for a few days to just kick back and relax, she gets bored. I can see why. She is the last one left at home and is with two old people (us). Again, a compromise. We bought a big tent, told her she could invite friends along when we traveled close to home (they had to agree to use the camp showers), and she has a blast with her friends.

And, there are times I have said-tough, you are doing what we say. Be quiet and smile.

Letting your kids run the show and taking their feelings into consideration (within limits) can be a fine line. Best wishes on whatever you decide.

 

[BigDaddyRog]

And, there are times I have said-tough, you are doing what we say. Be quiet and smile.

Letting your kids run the show and taking their feelings into consideration (within limits) can be a fine line. Best wishes on whatever you decide.

A very fine line, indeed...........Im the same way...................I'll do everything I can to make em happy....but sometimes they just dont wanna be happy!!! Thats when ya smack em in the head and and say "BECAUSE I SAID SO!"

 

[mrsgus06]

A very fine line, indeed...........Im the same way...................I'll do everything I can to make em happy....but sometimes they just dont wanna be happy!!! Thats when ya smack em in the head and and say "BECAUSE I SAID SO!"

And THEN you shoot her! Right?