What women in their 40s+ still have a soft, feminine quality about them?

[LuvCuteBoys]

All of the women mentioned were driven and aggressive. They wouldn't be in Hollywood if they weren't.

 

[Mermaid02]

These women are or were older and feminine (IMO)

Blythe Danner....
Princess Grace...
Isabella Rossellini...
Laura Bush....
Tipper Gore...

 

[Topper]

 

[mkel34]

Ashley Judd

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

My wife...

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I don't get it. I mean, I get it, but I'm trying to figure out why a driven, aggressive woman is a bad thing. I know no one *said* outright it was a bad thing, but that's clearly the connotation to many of the posts. I feel like I've stepped into a discussion of desirable qualities in a Jane Austin heroine.

I, for one, would never have married an "driven, aggressive" woman. I wanted a woman to love and be loved by, and a mother for our children - not an alpha male.

I do not think poorly of women with alpha personalities, but I am not attracted to them in the least...