Wow, I have been reading this, because like everyone else, I wanted to know if any one could top my story. Some really did! What I have gathered from this are two things-
1) People are really most affected by their parents and what they say, so much more than I realized. Taught me to really watch what I say to my kids and I may need to stop the "You are out of the will " jokes with them. I also need to calm down about my DD6's drama she brings home as she will remember my reaction more than the actual drama!
2) I am not alone! I really thought I was! I thought most parents were wonderful and loving and I got stuck with the emotionally abusive dad and the drunk mother- I didn't mention her in my original post becasue she was a happy drunk! I liked to be told I was the favorite (my sisters were told that too!) and how much she loved me. The drunk was the good one.
Laureen, you have really done a service to me! Possibly others too! Thanks!