what to do??

[sam_rogers]

i'm going to disney in july with my dbf but now my younger brother (almost 17) asked if he can come with us. i don't want to say no coz his work wouldn't let him have time off to go on holiday with my parents but i'm not sure if i want him on a holiday where it was just going to be a week for me and my boyfriend to chill out and go to the nice restaurants and a lot of rollercoasters! any advice??

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

Im sure if you explained to you brother thats it time for you and bf he will understand. Does he not have a friend he can book and go with?

 

[sam_rogers]

Im sure if you explained to you brother thats it time for you and bf he will understand. Does he not have a friend he can book and go with?

i don't think any of his friends could afford it and he only can because my nan has offered to pay for him and he's under 18 so he can't book in to a separate room in the holiday inn on his own. i think the thing i'm most worried about is that me and my dbf are complete children when we go and i don't want my brother to get bored coz he will be going on the same rides over and over again (rock n' roller coaster 25 times over 5 days last year lol )

My dbf doesn't mind him coming with us as long he brings out the inner child! i would feel like i was letting him down if i said no because he hasnt had a holiday in ages and has been working really hard lately.

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

(rock n' roller coaster 25 times over 5 days last year lol )

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lol.

 

[sam_rogers]

lol i can't help it. I love aerosmith and i love rollercoasters so when the two are combined i have a serious problem!!!

 

[poppyolivia]

Unless you hate your brother and don't get on with him I would personally take him with you
Explain to him what you will be like and if he doesn't like it then tough!

 

[sam_rogers]

i think he's going to end up coming with us now i had a talk to him earlier and explained everything and how i usually do things when i'm there and if he doesn't like it he can go and do his own thing lol trying not to be the mean big sister

 

[Bolanette87]

I know where you're coming from... Listen, don't feel mean saying no. If it's just a week for you and your bf, let it be that way. Sometimes I feel like DF's Mum hints for us to take his younger brother (19) with us to all sorts of places... It especially used to bug me when we only used to see each other at the weekend (We were long distance for quite a while....).... You've just got to learn to say no. It might seem harsh, but at the end of day you've got to do what you want to do.

It's especially unfair when he's gonna be sharing a room with you guys.... It might be different if you could have seperate rooms, but I don't think its fair on you or your boyfriend....

.... DF's been joking recently about taking his brother to DLRP the next time we go. I've had to tell him to quit it incase certain people get ideas!!

At the end of the day, its up to you, but don't feel bad saying no. It's your holiday at the end of the day so it's up to you..... There's plenty of cheap deals about for him to go on.... Especially coach ones!! Thats how we afford to go (DF's bro and ex gf went to DLRP last year for £100 each!! DF's mum paid for that, so I'm a bit annoyed she never helped us with our trip!!!)....

Whatever you decide, have a great time!

Bob xoxoxox

 

[sam_rogers]

thanks for the advice everyone. its probably about time i made my mind up???

 

[Bolanette87]

thanks for the advice everyone. its probably about time i made my mind up???

Well, I hope whatever you decide you have a great time at DLRP!!

The only other thing I would say is don't feel too sorry for him. When DF's bro split up with his gf, it got a bit tricky for a while because he was wanting to tag along everywhere, and in the end we had to put our foot down (I'm talking like dinner dates and stuff!)... Plus, you'd have to be careful 'cause then it would be hard to say no to things in the future!

When are you going to DLRP and how long for?

Bob xoxoxox

 

[sam_rogers]

When DF's bro split up with his gf, it got a bit tricky for a while because he was wanting to tag along everywhere, and in the end we had to put our foot down (I'm talking like dinner dates and stuff!)

I would definitely be putting my foot down and saying no then!
I'm going on the 7th of July for 5 days. Hopefully if I say yes to this he won't ask to come again I think once will be enough for him, and my next trip/holiday will probably be when i go travelling. i'm going home from uni this weekend so i'll have a proper talk with him and tell him what its like if he still wants to come and then gets there and isn't too impressed then he can wander round on his own and do what he wants to do.

 

[Bolanette87]

I would definitely be putting my foot down and saying no then!
I'm going on the 7th of July for 5 days. Hopefully if I say yes to this he won't ask to come again I think once will be enough for him, and my next trip/holiday will probably be when i go travelling. i'm going home from uni this weekend so i'll have a proper talk with him and tell him what its like if he still wants to come and then gets there and isn't too impressed then he can wander round on his own and do what he wants to do.

I'm just saying it gets harder if you let them do some things and not others.... Especially things like holidays and stuff because people sometimes say: "Well, you let me go last time!" so you've gotta be careful... I mean, DF's bro came to stay with us when he and his gf split up, which was fair enough. But we don't have a spare room, so my younger brother had to share a room with my Mum for a couple of nights, but he didn't mind 'cause it was a one off, and it was a special situation. Thing is, now Robert's Mum and Bro keep hinting he'd like to come back up stay, despite us telling them it's not practical!! The downstairs of our house is open plan, so nobody could sleep downstairs either...I know it's a bit different to a DLRP holiday, but I think you can see what I mean... Because it happened once, he can't see why he can't come up all the time.

If you do end up taking your brother, I would tell him that you and your bf would want some time on your own, so he would have to be prepared to be on his own some of the time....

5 Days? Sounds good!!

Bob xoxoxox

 

[Bolanette87]

If you want, direct your brother to this site: www.coachholidays.com

Thats where we got our affordable Disney deal.... Some of them are really cheap so it might be affordable for him to go with a friend!

Bob xoxoxx

 

[sam_rogers]

If you do end up taking your brother, I would tell him that you and your bf would want some time on your own, so he would have to be prepared to be on his own some of the time....

That sounds like an excellent idea we were planning on having dinner at Blue Lagoon again this year so i think we'll do that on our own

I think i'm going to let him come with us under the condition that me and dbf get some alone time in the park, its a one off holiday for him, he has to get his face painted with us and that he has to stop trying to steal my bedroom which he's been trying to get while i've been away at uni Now its just up to his work and whether they will let him have time off which i should hopefully find out today.

Sam xxx

 

[Bolanette87]

That sounds like an excellent idea we were planning on having dinner at Blue Lagoon again this year so i think we'll do that on our own

I think i'm going to let him come with us under the condition that me and dbf get some alone time in the park, its a one off holiday for him, he has to get his face painted with us and that he has to stop trying to steal my bedroom which he's been trying to get while i've been away at uni Now its just up to his work and whether they will let him have time off which i should hopefully find out today.

Sam xxx

I think as long as you list any conditions at the outset you'd be fine!! That, and make sure your BF really doesn't mind him coming!

Let me know if the Blue Lagoon is good... I'd love to eat there but my DF isn't a fish person.... I keep trying to pursuade him the beef looks good!! But to no avail though!!

Bob xoxoxoxox

 

[sam_rogers]

my dbf's exact words were i wouldn't care who was with us as long as i'm with you

Tha blue lagoon is a really nice place to eat, the setting is really nice and when we went last year the food was really good. If your DF doesn't like fish and is feeling a bit more adventurous they do grilled ostrich steaks which are quite nice Thank u for all your advice about this i'm in the middle of uni exams at the mo so i was already stressed out then my brother asked me if he could come and it was another thing to worry about.

 

[Bolanette87]

Don't worry about it... I'm in the middle of my exams too!!

What do the Ostrich steaks taste like? I would be interested to know!

Bob xoxoxox

 

[sam_rogers]

lol the stress of it all is killing me slowly and painfully at least there's disney to look forward to!

i think the ostrich had some kind of sauce on it so it tasted a bit like beef with some hint of lemon if i remember correctly. it sounds a bit odd but it was really nice and i'm sure dbf will be having it again coz he loves the restaurant but is a very fussy eater!

 

[thelittlemermaid83]

So you taking your brother now?

 

[sam_rogers]

it looks like i will be unless his work won't let him have the time off even though he'd be giving about 5 weeks notice.

I suppose it might be quite nice coz i've never been particularly close to my younger brother or spent that much time with him without him really annoying me but he seems to be quite nice to me when dbf is around lol it might by nice to have a few days with the 3 of us without the parents or older bro, i might even come to like his company