what to do....what to do?????

[NewJersey]

okay so i surprised the bf with disney since i know how badly he's wanted to go and how much i know he'd love it.

well i couldn't hold it in and told him about a month ago. well today he calls (down at college finishing his 5th and final year) and says he just can't accept it...and doesn't have spending money.

I got the dining plan so i explained there's not much spending money you need. but he said he can't go there and not have money with him for even little things...and he can't accept it as a christmas/graduation present.

Tomorrow is the 45 day mark, so I can get a full refund except airfare so I'd be out about 400.

Should I hold out and keep it booked and maybe he'll save some extra money here and there or should I just forget about the whole thing and be out the 400 from the airfare (I called and can't even transfer the tickets).

I'm so disappointed as I put it so much effort and time and thought and care into this..as I know we both were looking so forward to it.

 

[mssocks]

I'd tell him you would be out $400 and are going to keep the reservations. If he still won't go as time gets closer, tell him you will ask someone else. Make him give you $5 a week to put away to spend. Then you can hand him a bundle of cash when it's time.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I'd explain to him how much you would enjoy experiencing him enjoy it. If that doesn't work, I'd tell him you'd be out $400 if you cancel now and instead of losing the money, you'd rather take some spending money for both of you?

 

[NewJersey]

I'd explain to him how much you would enjoy experiencing him enjoy it. If that doesn't work, I'd tell him you'd be out $400 if you cancel now and instead of losing the money, you'd rather take some spending money for both of you?

I've been saving change for a few months now for some extra money, so I can always use that. But he has the ego of 13 men I feel like, so he just can't accept it.

 

[LadyyRedd]

How long have you two been together as a couple?

Kimya

 

[Tony-NJ]

I've been saving change for a few months now for some extra money, so I can always use that. But he has the ego of 13 men I feel like, so he just can't accept it.

I hope he comes to his senses and accepts the trip! If you two would be happy togethjer then thats all he'll need! Well that and the dining plan!

 

[Blondy876]

I'll go!!!!

I would tell him your keeping the reservation because you would be out $400. If in the end he doesn't concede then find someone else. I know it wouldn't be the same but then you wouldn't be out any money. Good luck, I hope you can talk him into it.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

Tell him it may be cheaper to find a new bf than to cancel. J/K....keep it and if need be, go alone or take your mom or something. If you're interested, I'm free. Well, not free, but relatively inexpensive.

 

[Micca]

Tell him to sell his plasma. This IS WDW

 

[Cantw8]

Tell him it may be cheaper to find a new bf than to cancel. J/K....keep it and if need be, go alone or take your mom or something. If you're interested, I'm free. Well, not free, but relatively inexpensive.

by "relatively inexpensive" she means CHEAP and EASY

OP, keep your plans and talk some sense into the man, I've found that withholding favors can get you want you want

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Can you get someone else to go? If you can then do that.

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

by "relatively inexpensive" she means CHEAP and EASY

OP, keep your plans and talk some sense into the man, I've found that withholding favors can get you want you want

It's like you know me.

 

[sweet angel]

I'll go -- and as an added bonus, I'm local!

I don't know what to tell you. I don't know why he'd suddenly change his mind.

 

[minkydog]

Maybe he got cold feet

 

[NewJersey]

Thank you all for the replies!

I thought alot about it after he initally told me..talked to friends..and they agreed it seemed a bit odd. I was going to keep the reservations but then we talked about it at night and he felt too bad taking it and felt like he should be the one paying (can we say ego trip?)..and he said he didn't know how to tell his parents and what they would think...and he thought me giving him a trip as a christmas/graduation gift was too soon. Although he offered to pay back in August when I hadn't started my job after college yet and he had extra money from his summer internship. So this all just didn't add up.

We've known each other 6 years (since we were 16) and have been officially going out for 7 months. We've both known for about a year and a half that we are meant for eachother.

In the end, we decided to cancel the trip...I got about 200 of the airfare back to use as a credit but I am so bummed and disappointed, and actually kind of hurt.

We are going to take the trip next summer when he's finished college and has a job.

 

[NewJersey]

I hope he comes to his senses and accepts the trip! If you two would be happy togethjer then thats all he'll need! Well that and the dining plan!

I even got that and we even made our ADR's..and as a added surprise ironically i called Saturday morning to switch one to Jiko since he'd been talking about trying that for so long.

Oh well..here's to waiting til the summer.

 

[HomeSweetDisney]

Sorry it didn't work out for you this time I hope you have a great time on your summer trip though