what to do about SIL?

[Leleluvsdis]

Hey everyone! I have a major delima. My finances SIL does not like me at all. (It's a long wierd story. She's difficult for anyone to get a long with) but anyways, but I'm scared that she is going to cause a scene about our wedding b/c she has no part in it, but her husband and son do. What should I do? Give her guest book or something similar or nothing at all? All help is GREATLY appreciated!!!

 

[JonetteA]

Make your wedding not as stressful, and give her a role if you think that will help. Sometimes it is hard for adults to act like adults, esp. when the focus is taken off of them. Just do the best you can to be the bigger person and dont let her get to you. I know it is easier to say than ro do. Let me know if you need to vent! I know really well what you are going through.

 

[Girldreamer02]

First of all congrats! I am a crt fiance too! Secondly...don't let other people stress you out...its YOUR wedding. Therefore it should be as stressfree as possible. Trust me...everyone was trying to run mine at first and I was getting super stressed, but I layed down the law (in a polite way of course) and now everything is just fine. Congrats again...maybe you could give her a small job to make her happy the worst she can do is decline it.

 

[IrishLily]

Well, this is a toughy. First of all, I agree with everyone else. It is your day and you certainly can't have every person who wants to be in the bridal party, IN the bridal party. Most people understand this, to others it means that you don't care about them. To that I say, whatever. Because this woman is clearly a little egocentric, I would probably ask someone who knows her well how she will take being asked to do another job. She may be offended, or feel that you pity her by giving her "guestbook duty". I don't know her at all, but I think she wants to be standing up there with the bridal party, included in the pics, center of attention, etc. Giving her other wedding day jobs won't cut it. I don't think she really wants to "help", she just wants to be included. Therefore before you ask her, ask someone else if she will consider it. Otherwise she may just get more upset.

That's just my 2 cents though!

 

[Leleluvsdis]

Thanks everyone for you help. I'm getting mixed opinions from ppl that know her so getting outside opinions is alot of help, and also the persprective of someone that's been there. Again, thanks tons!

 

[allisonswonderland]

I have an EVIL SISTER IN LAW TOO... she was not in the wedding party and she did not show up at the ceremony but did show at the reception. She pulled some stuff with the child care services too which were in her room. We did that to make it easy on her....nightmare! Anyway - I will let you vent if ya need to! Hang in there - it can be miserable because she tried to make me miserable and she looked like an idiot and did not fool anyone!