What do you think? HELP!!!!!!!

[saratogadreamin09]

So, there's a boy in my class who Ive had a crush on for awhile now (we'll call him J). He's had crush on this girl (K) for awhile now too. Both K and J are good friends with this girl(E) who is the meanest girl alive!

Back in January I poured my heart out to J and all he said back to me was "alright".After that conversation he started to pretend I didnt exsist and went to such a extreme one day that when I sat down next to him in english he got up and moved! This got me so upset and I seriously went into a depression for like a month. Everything was ok for awhile but then E started to "bully" me about J. She would say the stupidest things, but after awhile they really started to upset me because I was still geting over J (i still am to thi day)

Well, last wek I found out J and K started dating, the thing is K doesnt really like him and she's probably going to break up with him soon. Thing is she doesnt want anyone to know they're dating and the only reason I know is because me and her have 1 mutual friend. So they're in a "secret" relationhip

My friends keep telling me that I should tell everyone they're dating as a way to get back at all of them but Im not so sure. Id feel really guilty doing it but I also think they have it coming to them. What do you think? Do you think its way too mean if I tell everyone about them?

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Wow...I dont' miss school... lol

I'd say let it alone... just for the future, you wouldn't want J to hate you...

 

[Bluestars]

If I were you I would stay out of it. I'm sorry you were hurt by both J and E. Maybe if you let it all go you can move on. If you say something, you will probably end up looking like the bad guy here. Take the high road and you will have no regrets. What goes around will come around to those who are mean to others.

Good luck to moving on and meeting new people who will treat you kindly.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Wow...I dont' miss school... lol

I'd say let it alone... just for the future, you wouldn't want J to hate you...

I was worried at first about him hating me, but then I started to realize that theres a .5% of us ever dating as it is now.

 

[Cindyluwho]

I agree with the other posters. Take the high road. If he knows you interfered in any way he will see you as the bad guy. It really hurts to see someone you care about turn out to be a jerk, but the way he treated you sounds like he's a class one jerk. Sorry

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Wow...I dont' miss school... lol
I'd say let it alone... just for the future, you wouldn't want J to hate you...

I love this because my grandfather always told me "school is the best days of your life".................he wasnt a girl

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I was worried at first about him hating me, but then I started to realize that theres a .5% of us ever dating as it is now.

Even so...I've been in your situation...you still dont' want someone you care about hating you, even if you don't get the relationship you want. It's not worth looking stupid and immature...

 

[JR6ooo4]

E is a jerk. You can't compete with jerks without looking like one. Like mentioned earlier, the way to beat a jerk is to take the high ground. Maybe J will notice!

Mikeeee

 

[raysnkaysmom]

I love this because my grandfather always told me "school is the best days of your life".................he wasnt a girl

LOL..ok.. let me rephrase.. I don't miss the drama of school... but, I do miss the friends and some other aspects

 

[Disney Doll]

If I were you I would stay out of it. I'm sorry you were hurt by both J and E. Maybe if you let it all go you can move on. If you say something, you will probably end up looking like the bad guy here. Take the high road and you will have no regrets. What goes around will come around to those who are mean to others.

Good luck to moving on and meeting new people who will treat you kindly.

I agree with this. It's best to stay out of it and let them all implode on their own.

There's an old saying "Never wrestle with a pig. You'll both get dirty and the pig likes it".

 

[LoraJ]

I agree, leave it alone and move on. School is almost out and you won't have to worry about them.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

So I didnt do it today and I probably wont do it tomorrow

Ive been cursed with a good heart Id feel guilty the second I did it


Whats really bothering me now is that K doesnt want anyone to know their dating She gets what I want and she's going to hide him away and be "ashamed" of him Also, before you start saying there may be a good reason why she wants it to be a secret, there isnt, she just doesnt want people to know that shes dating J

 

[java]

So I didnt do it today and I probably wont do it tomorrow

Ive been cursed with a good heart Id feel guilty the second I did it


Whats really bothering me now is that K doesnt want anyone to know their dating She gets what I want and she's going to hide him away and be "ashamed" of him Also, before you start saying there may be a good reason why she wants it to be a secret, there isnt, she just doesnt want people to know that shes dating J

It really isn't your business. I know it's hard to hear, but he showed what a jerk he was by the way he treated you after you told him your feelings. He's not worth a second thought. And K? Well she too is no concern of yours.

If you were to "tell" about their relationship- the only one that ends up looking bad and jealous would be you.

Take the high road. Trust me there are way better guys out there!

The best revenge is going to find a BETTER GUY!

 

[All American]

I think this is from the movie "16 Candles"--way before your time but truer words have never been spoken:

That's why they're called "Crushes". If it were easy, they'd be called something else.

In your situation, I'd say let it go.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

I think this is from the movie "16 Candles"--way before your time but truer words have never been spoken:

[I]That's why they're called "Crushes". If it were easy, they'd be called something else. [/I]

In your situation, I'd say let it go.

such a true quote

thanks for posting it

 

[EthansMom]

I'm sure this all feels really important to you right now.

But, honestly, your energy is wasted on worrying about some guy who doesn't care about you. Any guy who responds to an emotional outpouring with what amounts to a yawn just isn't worth your bother.

Spend your time and energy enjoying yourself and having fun with the friends who treat you well.

 

[mjkacmom]

He probably treated you like that because he doesn't share your feelings, and is uncomfortable - very immature, but HS boys are. K did nothing wrong - she obviously doesn't like him very much, but doesn't want to hurt his feelings. There is always a mean girl in the mix. I agree with everyone else - don't do it. 3 people will be mad at you (mean girl will, just because she's mean). You have the most to lose if you tell.

 

[MinnieMe87]

I'm sure this all feels really important to you right now.

But, honestly, your energy is wasted on worrying about some guy who doesn't care about you. Any guy who responds to an emotional outpouring with what amounts to a yawn just isn't worth your bother.

Spend your time and energy enjoying yourself and having fun with the friends who treat you well.

Amen!

Just stay out of it girl, seriously. You'll thank yourself later.

 

[JessicaR]

So I didnt do it today and I probably wont do it tomorrow

Ive been cursed with a good heart Id feel guilty the second I did it


Whats really bothering me now is that K doesn't want anyone to know their dating She gets what I want and she's going to hide him away and be "ashamed" of him Also, before you start saying there may be a good reason why she wants it to be a secret, there isn't, she just doesn't want people to know that shes dating J

Don't do it the next day either. You have a good heart and its not a curse. someone deserving of your good heart will capture it and it wont be J cause he isn't deserving either. hang in there everything will come to fit together, you'll see and you'll be happy.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

Don't do it the next day either. You have a good heart and its not a curse. someone deserving of your good heart will capture it and it wont be J cause he isn't deserving either. hang in there everything will come to fit together, you'll see and you'll be happy.

Thank you