what do you consider flaming?

[kidzmom3]

I read on these boards all the time about flaming, and wondered what does that mean to you. To me it means that you post something and then are attacked on a personal level, with mean/malicious posts designed to make you feel like an idiot, a loser or a bad parent. However, if people just disagree and post why, I do not take that as a flame. What about you?

 

[Froggyswife]

your explaination sounds right to me. DITTO!

 

[Holly]

I think flaming constitutes a personal attack.

I see people ask for info/ advice all the time and then proceed to get completely offended when someone posts a different opinion.

People take things way too personally.

 

[Laurajean1014]

I can take it.

 

[pearlieq]

I think the word "flame" is bandied about MUCH too liberally. I'll never forget a thread a while back when someone cried "flame" when someone offhandedly referred to his posting style as "odd".

To me a flame is a personal attack/name calling. A flame is not offering a different opinion or even criticizing someone's behavior (within reason).

Example:

OP posts: Last week my family and I stayed at Pop. We had 16 local relatives share our room for the night and we used our bathtub to barbecue some tuna fillets with limburger cheese.

Flame response: Oh my God, you are such a jerk! Could you possibly remove your head from your posterior???

Acceptable response: Cooking something smelly in your room was inconsiderate to the other guests. Maybe next time you could stick to the food courts.

To be frank, there are idiots, losers, and bad parents on the DIS just as everywhere else in the world. As long as I abide by the posting guidelines, how they "feel" about it is their issue.

You need a pretty thick skin to post in a public forum.

 

[JennyMominRI]

Example:

OP posts: Last week my family and I stayed at Pop. We had 16 local relatives share our room for the night and we used our bathtub to barbecue some tuna fillets with limburger cheese.

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Oh sure! Ruin my plans for next month..Although I was gong to use Mahi Mahi.. If you run the hot water really hot and use the steam too cook it .It's really good with a nice mango salsa

 

[kidzmom3]

I should probably let it be known, that this thread was in response to a height thread I clicked on. Yes, those can get very ornery, but just because people were saying its not a good idea to pump up your childs height, other posters cried "flame". I did not think any of the posts were disrespectful or even an attack on the op, it just seemed like most people thought it wasn't a good idea. Hence the question, what is a flame

by the way, I am sure you could steam a few heads of broccoli in the bathtub to help cover of the smell of fish. Everyone loves broccoli smell!!

 

[Pop Daddy]

flaming is what Burger King does to there burgers, btw them stackers are looking good in the comercial

 

[anewvance]

I have to laugh at this post. I've learned through the years on various message boards that there are all sorts of people who have individual personalities and opnions. If you are going to post on the board, you need to be prepared to have many different views on what you have written. If you don't like to hear all different sorts of responses even if they are negative then don't post to begin with. You are putting your whole self out there every time you post on a public message board.

Now, when posters post for no reason then to make you feel stupid or inadaqute as a person, that is definately considered flaming...

So all in all, a difference in opinion is not flaming... JMO

 

[luckywife]

I think flaming is a personal attack.

 

[escape]

I should probably let it be known, that this thread was in response to a height thread I clicked on. Yes, those can get very ornery, but just because people were saying its not a good idea to pump up your childs height, other posters cried "flame". I did not think any of the posts were disrespectful or even an attack on the op, it just seemed like most people thought it wasn't a good idea. Hence the question, what is a flame

Yeah, I saw that thread too. I couldn't believe that some people were criticizing the so-called "flamers". I was thinking to myself - "you think this is bad, try posting this subject on the Community Board and then you will see what true flaming is."

Oh my God, you are such a jerk! Could you possibly remove your head from your posterior???

My favorite quote of the week.

 

[Aidensmom]

Flaming is a personal attack, or an attack on a group of people. (and the group thing I do not think is considered a bad thing by the mods here, but I believe it is the same thing as a personal attack).

 

[Beca]

I had someone I was "disagreeing" with to quote me in a post...only she CHANGED the quote before she posted it!!! It was horrible...something I would NEVER write on the boards. That was a whole different kind of flaming. I pm'ed her and told her that if she was going to quote me...she needed to stick to quoting what I actually said. She then responded that I needed to leave her alone and stop pm'ing her. She did change it, though.

So....I do consider "misquoting" someone so that others will "jump on the flame bandwagon" as another type of flaming as well.

But, you know....the one thing about message boards....we all do it when we are bored and looking for an easy, couch potato-thing to do....the end result is a lot of people who are just looking for a fight. My dh often "bets" me to see if a "moderate" middle of the road post will shut a thread down. Seriously, nothing kills threads on the dis like the voice of reason!!! Anytime you see me posting something "moderate"....there's definitely MONEY involved over here!!! In real life...I don't like walking the middle of the road. But, shhhh....don't tell anyone this!!!!



Beca

 

[Sparx]

your poll is misleading.
I can take pretty much anything thrown at me, so its pretty hard to flame me. But I consider a flame a personal attack, be it here, or in private. But a personal attack is a mean post, with the point of making me feel bad.

you need an all of the above.

 

[auntpolly]

This is a very interesting question, but it is hard to answer in a poll.

Personally I don't really think a person is being flamed with one mean jab or one kind of personal attack -- I don't really feel that a "flaming" is going on unless it's a group effort.

For instance, a person posts that they had a bad stay at the Grand Floridian. If 99% of the responds either agree or are respectful, but one post says "You idiot, the GF is wonderful", I guess that's a flame, but not much of one.

It's when someone posts they didn't like the GF and they get 23 pages of everything from "you idiot" to "your expectations are too high" to "I stayed there and it was wonderful, so you must be lying" -- that's a flaming. That's when I get really ticked off. It's like, if the person is getting it from all sides, if 300 people have attacked the guy already, is it really important for you to kick him while he's down????

 

[Christine]

I think a personal attack is just that--a personal attack. Despite whether a person disagrees with you, when they stoop down and start assasinating your character, well, that's really low.

But a "flame" is when a person disagrees with you SO disrespectfully that as part of their disagreement they put in terrible insults about you (veiled or obvious) and almost "yell" at you while doing it.

 

[phamton]

Here is my ultimate flame (a compilation of several flames over the years):

So far you have presented a single item, harped on it since you arrived, griped and pissed and moaned, and whined, about how nobody is willing to find your pet topic interesting to anyone but you, dissed the few who did try to assist you, crapped in a bunch of public venues, and left a large yellow stain down the front of your pants. Now you are working on adding a matching stain to the seat of your slacks,and I am quite sure you have already managed to generate a long brown smear that is just just about ready to make its presence visible.

Your IQ is so low on the scale, a hunk of granite the size of Rhode Island could out manuever you and have time enough to erode a few more feet. Your IQ is so low it ran off and hid in shame years ago, leaving you with but a scant memory of what coherent thought might have been. A one trick pony could dazzle millions of viewers for hours while you tried to entice just one single eyeball to glance upon your silly excuse for a cause, to no avail.

Mole people loathe you. Discussion board people laugh at you. The world would find you too mediocre to notice but for one thing - you are too mediocre to even be noticed as suck. Uncounted millions have no clue as to who you are, and prefer it that way.



The tin foil hat you fashioned has holes in it, and the evil government spies don't care. Aliens won't abduct you. Vampires shun you, knowing that sucking your blood is not worth the mind numbing vapidity of your presence. Cockroaches move out when you move in. Rats won't nibble your toes. You are anathema to vermin, so low on the scale of life and worth that not even a maggot would infest your corpse upon your death.

Worse than that, you are boring, completely predictable and not really rotten enough to be entertaining in a sick and twisted, rubber-neck bad-accident-scene kind of way. Cardboard has more spice and flavor than you ever will, or ever had. Pasta left to boil for an hour has more body than your mental flailings could ever hope to.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but you really really are a stupid, inane, vapid and petty little piece of excrement. I hope I haven't used too many big words, I wouldn't want you to misinterpret anything I've said as a kindness or compliment.

 

[disney4us2002]

Were all of those directed to you, Bev (it's Bev right?)? Yikes! That had to be one of those guys from the Debate board. I remember reading posts from one of the guys over there and was absolutely amazed. He had a true way with words. I've never been quick on the reply and he was so quick and cruel, wow.

 

[slo]

I voted for #2

I don't believe in flaming

I don't flame people I personally talk to, and therefore I don't flame people on here either . You can disagree with someone, w/o flaming them. My mother taught me, "If you don't have something nice to say, then don't say anything at all" and I live by that everyday, and I teach my girls to live by that also

 

[cardaway]

Please add #6 for the many here who obviously feel this way.

6. Anything beyond fluff responses.