What do you and your "significant other" argue about the most???

[JimFitz]

I thought I would start a thread to see what everyone argues about with their "significant other".

My wife and I can really get each other worked up sometimes, but in the end we are always able to work it out and never go to bed mad. Fighting can sometimes be very healthy.

 

[va32h]

Where is the option for all of the above?

 

[JimFitz]

Where is the option for all of the above?

Good Point!!


I should say what do you fight about the most.

 

[megan4777]

Ok, we occasionally "argue" about family. I have family issues and he has family issues and he's a hardnose and I'm not. It's funny, though, b/c we will never argue about money or sex. Only once did I threaten his life due to his lack of helping with chores and that was when I was pregnant.

 

[lulugirl]

We mostly fight about how to discipline Dd and his work schedule.
We very rarely fight about money.

 

[CharlesTD]

We fight about how I like to bring home suprises without telling her LOL hey it is partly my money so I should be able to spend it on what I want yes I am a shopper through and through she was really mad but also happy when the documents arrived for our DVC add on LOL just another preview of how I spend our money without asking LOL.

 

[Cosmic Girl]

We never argue, we just disagree.

 

[poohandwendy]

None of the above. Honestly, we do not fight anymore. I know that sounds crazy, but we just do not argue all that much about anything.

We have been married for 19 years and I think we just hit a really low point where we hashed alot of things out. It took counseling and a turning point where we were not going to make it without big changes.

It was the best thing that could happen to us because it forced us to really look at how we were handling things (not being on the same team). We started to see eachother as 2 imperfect but worthy people who could compliment each other rather than compete for power. We got to a place where we just do not sweat the little things and we really sit down and discuss the big things before they become issues. And we compromise. When we one of use feels strongly about an issue, we go with it.

I cannot tell you when the last 'fight' or serious disagreement was, seriously. But trust me, we had enough in the past to cover a lifetime

 

[va32h]

Money. If dh has $1 in his pocket, he'll spend 99 cents. He just cannot bear the thought of having money and not spending it.

When we married, he had terrible credit, which I repaired. I am entirely in charge of the family finances, because he is so terrible at it.

Right now we are experiencing an acute (although thankfully temporary) cash flow problem. I have stated, very clearly, that we cannot spend a penny on non-essentials. And yet, yesterday dh took our son on an outing that involved a 75 mile drive (costing a fortune in gas) and bought him a souvenier. I was so mad - actually I am still mad about that today.

 

[wvrevy]

Honestly, DW and I rarely even really argue, let alone anything I would class as a "fight." When we do, its usually about the house being messed up, but since we're both pretty easy going, it just rarely comes up.

This, by the way, is the reason why I ALWAYS say that people should be friends before and even above and beyond any romantic feelings. I love my DW to death, and she's my best friend in the world...and June makes 10 years

 

[DisneyJen0504]

We rarely argue but when we do, its usually money. I like to spend it.

 

[cindercopper]

Family........almost always about family.

 

[noseybuddy]

We don't argue that often, but if we do it is family, I can't stand his or money relating to vacations.

 

[Kermit]

I voted other. We don't argue much, and when we do, it's usually just stupid stuff. We're practically always in agreement on everything important.

 

[Stacey2grls]

Oh boy, this is an easy one for me. I'll be honest, the number one fight in our relationship involves my husbands constant requests for intimacy. He is always in the mood, and well, I guess, my mind tends to go elsewhere. With kids, and everything this is not my number one priority.

 

[noseybuddy]

Oh boy, this is an easy one for me. I'll be honest, the number one fight in our relationship involves my husbands constant requests for intimacy. He is always in the mood, and well, I guess, my mind tends to go elsewhere. With kids, and everything this is not my number one priority.

When my kids were younger we did argue over that. By the time I was ready to go to bed I didn't want to be bothered by anyone.

 

[fairytalehaven]

we don't fight about stuff. But we usually have disagreements about family.

 

[JimFitz]

When my kids were younger we did argue over that. By the time I was ready to go to bed I didn't want to be bothered by anyone.

Very true. We have 3 boys under 3, and when I come into the room at night I get that look and I just know I better read a book or something!!!

 

[JennaTX]

I chose other, even though we have been married for 15 years, we still argue, not really fight about how he is always late and I am always early. It is crazy that we still argue about 10, 15, 30 minutes, but it drives both of us nuts! Why can't he just be on time and then it wouldn't be a problem!

 

[ZachnElli]

I voted other. It's his family, but we don't argue about it much anymore. I've learned to accept it and send them money occassionally. Just his parents though, not his sister who's on welfare and refuses to work.