I was 16 when I had my oldest DS 15 years ago. His dad, my DH, turned 19 two days before he was born.
When we found out I was pregnant and decided to go through with the pregnancy and keep the baby, we decided we would work hard to become a good family, and not just a couple of kids with kids. DH was very supportive although I offered him to "step out" if he didn´t want to become a father.
My parents (DH parents lived far away) made it very clear that we wouldn´t be living with them but offered us to live in an apartment they owned, if we would finish school. We didn´t have to pay rent while we were in school but we paid for everything else. Utlities, insurance, phone bills, our car, etc. and of course for food and clothing.
DH had one more year left of highschool (our system is different here from the US) and so I decided to go to evening school so that I could stay home with the baby while DH was in school, during the daytime.
When I would come home at night from classes DH would go to work, and work all weekends too.
This schedule worked out very well for us, we both got to go to school and still got to spend a lot of time with our son.
2 years later we decided to have another baby. DH was studying at university at that point and eligable for student loans, which made everything a lot easier for us. I was still finishing highschool, taking evening classes. When I finished highschool 2 years later we decided to move to Denmark to finish our studies.
In Denmark my husband finished his graduate degree and I did both my undergrad and graduate degree in Copenhagen. We had 2 more children while living and studying in Denmark.
We now live back in Iceland and last year our 5th baby was born. We have been married 13 years and our oldest child is now 15. DH runs his own company, we own a house and have come a very long way, in every way.
