We are having a debate

[preshi]

Dh thinks it's perfectly acceptable to have a drink (one glass of sake). Then he proceeded to drive DS home. I just got here and think this is entirely unacceptable. (only reason I knew is because I could smell it, but he's obviously not drunk by any means) He thinks one drink is fine and I "live in my own crazy world" I am absolutley furious. Am I being irrational? Or do I have every right to be extremely pissed right now?

 

[Serena]

I think it depends on what he drank and how much? But I think this is something you two need to talk about instead of being furious. He's not going to listen to you like that, even if you're right.

 

[Pop Daddy]

hit him

 

[IloveDMB]

I think having one drink and driving is perfectly acceptable. Although I don't know the specifics of how much your husband drank, what he ate, how much he weighs, I can safely assume the sake didn't affect his judgement.

I don't think you should be furious though. My parents have always been the type to have a beer or a glass of wine with dinner and then drive us home. Never thought twice about it.

Just my opinion.

 

[Disney Doll]

One drink does not usually impair most people. The fact that you are reacting so vehememtly says to me that there is something deeper here. Perhaps you two should talk about it.

 

[battricia]

I know I'm in the minority here, but I agree with you. I refuse to get into a car with anyone that has had so much as one glass of wine/beer/etc, and if I had children, there is NO WAY I'd allow them to get into a car with someone who has had a drink either. However, I do agree with the person who said you need to calm down and speak rationally with your husband, rather than upset him by yelling.


tricia.

 

[disneychrista]

IMO, one drink is too many to drive afterward, especially with a child.

 

[Alice28]

I don't think one drink is enough to impair one's judgement, unless one never drinks. Or unless you two have an agreement of some sorts about alcohol. (like not to drink it at all)

 

[elmosmom]

pop daddy you are too funny. Your response cracked me up.

 

[Planogirl]

I personally see nothing wrong with 1 drink BUT that's just us. I would talk this over with DH and come to some kind of an agreement because only you two can decide what is best. Good luck!

 

[Octoberbride03]

1 or 2 drinks is fine for the majority of adults. Especially, if they've been having food along with their drink. Since you say he was obviously not impaired by his 1 drink, then I don't think you should be so upset about it. Is it possible there is something else to your argument? Something your DH doesn't know? If there is you should discuss it with him after you calm down.

 

[cruisnfamily]

You are saying they went out to dinner, DH had a drink with dinner and then drove DS home? I think that's perfectly ok! My DH and I frequently have a drink(note that I said 1 drink) when we go out to dinner and then we drive home. And yes, the kids are with us. Unless there is some sort of alcohol problem I think it's ok. Now more than one???That's where it starts getting iffy.

 

[CamColt]

Id say it depends on the person and how it affects them. Most likely 1 drink would be ok.

 

[helenabear]

I would have to say that for the majority of the people out there a drink or two is not enough to impair judgement and would be okay to drive. My dad always has one or two and drives home but I know he's okay with that. Granted a roommate of mine got trashed on one beer, but she was definitely not the norm. JMO

 

[peg2001]

My co-workers think I am hilarious because I refuse to ride with anyone who has anything to drink. On business trips, I am therefore always chosen to be the designated driver after dinner.

Everyone can make their own choices, obviously, but if the OP doesn't want her child in the car with anyone who has been drinking, I understand!

Peggy

 

[caitycaity]

Personally, I do not like to drive if I've had anything to drink, but I do not feel unsafe if I am in a car with someone who had a drink with dinner or something like that.

 

[believe]

One sip is too much for me. When I host a gathering and if someone brings alcohol the first thing I ask is 'Who is your designated driver?' Then I inform the designated driver that I don't even want them to drink any alchohol and if they do I will ask for their keys. It is my house...my rules and I don't want to feel responsible if something happens. DH has always backed me on this. I think it is totally a personal decision, but I would question why he can't wait till he gets home to have that one drink.

 

[mus muris asinus]

One drink with dinner, under normal circumstances, shouldn't in any way impair his driving ability, no matter who's in the car.

 

[tlgoblue]

Should he have called a cab, or you, to help get him home. Or was it the fact that he was drinking at all? I mean, how would you resolve this issue? Fuming about it won't fix anything. I'd just tell him "next time, could you please....?"

Keep the Faith!
Tracy

 

[tw1nsmom]

I really can see both sides of this issue. However, I don't think that your DH was anywhere close to being negligent in his duties and most likely wasn't impaired in any significant way. That said, I would prefer that our children not be in the car with someone who has had a drink. The important thing to remember though is that they are his children too. He wasn't doing anything close to being abusive, neglectful, etc. It truly is a judgement call. Sometimes we mothers think that the children are "ours" and forget that the fathers do have a right to contribute in the decision we make in regards to the children. As others have said, talk to your husband and come to a mutually agreed upon rule when it come to having a drink and driving.