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<font color=deeppink>Married 10-5-02<br><font colo
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I have been planning this trip forever in my mind and for almost a year for real. My DH tells his mom we are going and she calls and decides she is going too. she has me rent DVC rooms for her, uncle and for her cousin. I tell her no refund and she says fine. Then a week later she tells me she only wants two rooms. Cousin didn't want to intrude on our vacation and said no thanks to coming. I explain to her again and tell her same money and switch her to a 1 bedroom and studio for same points. Months later she wants to know if they can all be together. waitlist for 2 bedroom, get it even. She said girls can stay in her room since it's just her, I thought Great!, DH says we'll give you $300 towards it then. Ugh!!!
I have done this trip down to the last dollar. He has not wanted to hear anything about it and refuses to listen when I talk about it. Gave me a amount of money to spend on whole trip and I have done great in spending only what I needed to. We have left just enough to use for food and transportation while there left in our budget since everything is paid in full. It is even less than what I wanted to havce but unexpected expenses came up. Now DH is mad cuz I don't have the $300 for his mom.
What does he want me to do? He works like 60-70 hrs a week, on call 24/7. I only work in the wnter and randomly get child support from ex. Everytime I have money, I buy household stuff like cleaners, laudry soap, needed clothes or other things that we have put off cuz we had no money. I will also use my money for food shopping the first thing and very rarely will I splurge on clearance items for myself or the kids. I pay for anything I want which include any magazines or occasionally taking the kids to Mcdonalds. i will go weeks with only $20 in my bank account and no cash on me.
I love my DH and he always pays all the bills on time but we never have any money, or so he complains. I don't complain. ee have a nice house, two very new cars and he buys me whatever I need when i ask for it. He is not stingy with his money by any mean but he is stingy about mine.
I am very cheap, I never pay full price for anything unles it is at a discount store . But then it's not really ful price is it? I buy all of my kids clothes on clearance, outlets, and yard sales. ewven at the outlets, I buy them on clearance. My DD's and Ds have had all their fall/winter clothes since april. i paid $2 each for everything in the bags. I even keep our food budget under $90 for our family of 6. Yes, I said under $90. I never go anywhere that isn't free and requires minimal gas usage.
How do I get my DH to understand all the shortcuts I already take, nevermind pulling $300 out of my but for his mother. (who, by the way, was a rotten mother growing up, makes more money than my DH, lives with her brother rent free amnd supports noone but herself.)
I never wanted her on vacaion to begin with, we disaree on too many things and she is very selfish. she pouts when she doesn't get her way and then DH gets upset when MIL and I disagree. She says she can watch the kids whike we are on rides but I had already paid for our babysitter to come with us. she is very excited.
I have done this trip down to the last dollar. He has not wanted to hear anything about it and refuses to listen when I talk about it. Gave me a amount of money to spend on whole trip and I have done great in spending only what I needed to. We have left just enough to use for food and transportation while there left in our budget since everything is paid in full. It is even less than what I wanted to havce but unexpected expenses came up. Now DH is mad cuz I don't have the $300 for his mom.
What does he want me to do? He works like 60-70 hrs a week, on call 24/7. I only work in the wnter and randomly get child support from ex. Everytime I have money, I buy household stuff like cleaners, laudry soap, needed clothes or other things that we have put off cuz we had no money. I will also use my money for food shopping the first thing and very rarely will I splurge on clearance items for myself or the kids. I pay for anything I want which include any magazines or occasionally taking the kids to Mcdonalds. i will go weeks with only $20 in my bank account and no cash on me.
I love my DH and he always pays all the bills on time but we never have any money, or so he complains. I don't complain. ee have a nice house, two very new cars and he buys me whatever I need when i ask for it. He is not stingy with his money by any mean but he is stingy about mine.
I am very cheap, I never pay full price for anything unles it is at a discount store . But then it's not really ful price is it? I buy all of my kids clothes on clearance, outlets, and yard sales. ewven at the outlets, I buy them on clearance. My DD's and Ds have had all their fall/winter clothes since april. i paid $2 each for everything in the bags. I even keep our food budget under $90 for our family of 6. Yes, I said under $90. I never go anywhere that isn't free and requires minimal gas usage.
How do I get my DH to understand all the shortcuts I already take, nevermind pulling $300 out of my but for his mother. (who, by the way, was a rotten mother growing up, makes more money than my DH, lives with her brother rent free amnd supports noone but herself.)
I never wanted her on vacaion to begin with, we disaree on too many things and she is very selfish. she pouts when she doesn't get her way and then DH gets upset when MIL and I disagree. She says she can watch the kids whike we are on rides but I had already paid for our babysitter to come with us. she is very excited.
. My family all stays in one room at the AS every single trip, so we would first have to pay for another room, then tickets, food plane fare, etc. It would be like having another child with us. Healthwise, she is fine. She just retired early because she is not a "worker". I'm sure DBIL would give her $$ towards the ticket, as well as DSIL (or not...), but that would still leave us lower than we need to be. Plus, this is the first year we will have to pay for tickets and dining for DD2 (CM, CRT, CP, Trails End) and pay for DD12 as an adult, and no AP discounts for Oct so far..... DMIL keeps hinting that she would love to go back to WDW (DSIL took her with her 2 years ago because she has 
This time out on disability has really helped him to appreciate/understand how well I do manage our money.
about the MIL. My own relationship with my MIL went from bad (she made my cry 2 days after our engagement) to very good (treated me and the kids great) to very bad (her true colors came out).
