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[honeywolf7]

My roommate has not paid our rent for the month (we put one person in charge because our landlord only wants one check each month.) If he doesn't pay that and our utilities by Friday at noon, we're going to get a "Pay or Quit" notice. I gave him mine all the way back on the first....If we get evicted, I'm going to end up taking somebody to court.

 

[WillyJ]

Have you asked him why it hasn't been paid yet???

 

[honeywolf7]

I approached him and asked him about it and he obviously already knew and acted like it was no big deal.

 

[disneyjunkie]

I hope everything works out.

You aren't giving him cash are you?

Maybe you all should have someone else make the rent payments.

 

[honeywolf7]

Yeah, we thought he was responsible....and yes, we're giving him cash.

 

[ChiTownZee]

Why don't you switch to paying him by check, that way there will be records of your payments to him should anything happen.

 

[honeywolf7]

I'll switch to money order or cashier's check.....I'm not using my checking account for my money because it's a joint checking account with Thom and I don't want him to be able to get to my money (other than the money that is for the kids.)

 

[ChiTownZee]

Sorry to butt in again, but why don't you just get another checking account in just your name? I would think it would be a lot easier for you than paying all your bills buy money order. And checks are very easily traced.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

you've got a real problem. the landlord doesn't care that you all gave your roommate cash, he just wants to be paid the rent. so the rest of you better come up with the rent -- again -- or you'll all be packing your bags really soon.

don't count on taking your rommate to court -- you don't have a receipt for the money. he probably spent it already and you may never see it again.

the rest of you might seriously think about throwing him out. he's put all of you in jeapardy of eviction and he's taken your money.

 

[Jenzebelle]

You definitely should get a checking account with your name on it and only pay bills with checks or online transfers through the bank.

Without that, you don't have a record of the payment and there is no way you can prove you paid this guy. Or any creditor for that matter.

 

[honeywolf7]

BriarRose, I'll call the police and have him arrested for theft if need be....enough of us gave money to him that it would be no problem. As far as throwing him out, we would definitely be able to have help doing that. ChiTownZee, I don't get another checking account because Thom could get access to it (since he's my power of attorney and still legally my husband-although we are legally separated and going through the process of divorcing.)

 

[pollyanna]

Originally posted by honeywolf7
, I don't get another checking account because Thom could get access to it (since he's my power of attorney and still legally my husband-although we are legally separated and going through the process of divorcing.)

So all seperated women can never have a checking account?
Why the heck does he have power of attorney over you?

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

Becki, I don't get it -- this isn't the 19th century. unless Virginia's laws are antiquated, even if you and thom are still legally married he can't gain access to your separate property -- unless you put him on the account he can't access it. did you give him a power of attorney? REVOKE IT! and make sure your bank knows you did!

 

[disneyjunkie]

If you give him money orders for your rent make sure you use postal money orders. They are very easy to trace.

When I lived in NC, I had a landlord that would not take checks. One month he claimed I didn't pay the rent. The post office was able to trace the money order and tell me who cashed it and when. The landlord had cashed it the same day I gave it to him.

 

[honeywolf7]

I tried to open up a bank account at one point during the separation and asked about this specific issue and was told that he could get to it as long as we are legally married.

 

[Briar Rose 7457]

Becki check this out:


virginia bar association

revoke the power of attorney and open an account in your name. the only way Thom can touch your money without your permission is if you die before the divorce is final.

 

[ChiTownZee]

Try another bank, I have a checking account and they won't even talk to him on the phone without my prior approval let alone get any money from the account.

 

[honeywolf7]

Briar Rose, interesting....I learned quite a bit from that link (stuff that wasn't even related to the bank account issue.) I am definitely going to revoke his power of attorney.

 

[becka]

Maybe I am a couple of threads behind on this one but how does your DH having Power of Attorney have anything to do with you opening a bank account in your name? I thought that POA only came into effect if you were somehow disabled or declared mentally incompetent and unable to make decisions, etc?

Once again this looks to be another case where you are looking to make excuses rather than trying to get the correct information and doing something about it.

 

[honeywolf7]

I am not making excuses.....I have been to the bank and they told me that he can get into a bank account that I open in my name. I have actually also had it happen with a savings account (at the time we were still together, but he did not have my permission to go into it.)