Update: Pray for Dom- Dom has passed, His Services, Thank You- Page 48 post 949

[Twilight Sparkle]

Hugs, Teresa. I understand all too well the pain of "what if". I wish peace and healing for all of you.

 

[Aulika]

Thank you Theresa for sharing your story !

 

[cabanafrau]

People face adversities in life the best they are equipped. Some really rise to the occasion and seem to handle far more than is humanly possible, some crumple like a tissue. Dom's mother no doubt needs the services of a very skilled counselor or therapist, and I hope that happens for her before too long. Obviously you realize that simply because your brother is speaking words out of his mouth, it doesn't mean they are in fact reality -- and are likely not his honest inner thoughts.

It does no one any good to dwell on the what ifs or the should have done this, shouldn't have done that. There is no putting the toothpaste back in the tube. You made attempts to head off trouble. If you noticed things were off it's darned sure his parents did also. You can't blame yourself for not heading this off if his own parents were unable to do so. You and your husband have gone to extraordinary lengths to be supportive and try to assist Dom and his parents, even before the accident. I pray you all continue to remain strong in the face of very stiff odds.

I absolutely hear your anguish and understand your thoughts for doing so, but if I might gently suggest that you might not have the clearest head, particularly on a day like today, to make the choice to place such raw and honest personal details on such a public forum. Please know that is not a criticism, merely a nudge that, while it might potentially help someone, it's pretty certain it has the potential to wound those whose personal lives are out here for anyone to read -- including those searching for ways to make contact with Dom, which we've already seen here on the thread.

Nothing but good thoughts and prayers headed out for all of you.

 

[Tuffcookie]

I am so sorry. I work at our local police dept. and see the results of drug addiction on a daily basis. It is truly disheartening! I will keep you all in my prayers!

TC

 

[robinb]

I am so sorry {{hugs}}. It may seem at first blush that someone could have done something to avert the tragedy of Dom's accident if only they tried. In reality, you tried. Your brother tried. Your mom tried. Dom's mom tried. Heck, even Dom tried. Sometimes it's not enough in the face of something so powerful as addiction. Please don't beat yourself up with endless "woulda, coulda, shoulda" thinking. Like @cabanafrau says, you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube.

 

[Pembo]

Thanks for sharing Dom's story as tragic as it is. Many blessings to you for all you do for Dom.

 

[superme80]

Words cannot describe the love and empathy I feel for you, Dom, and your family. I will be praying for all of you. Thank you for sharing. Dom's story may hopefully save another life.

 

[Planogirl]

Sometimes it can help to write all of it out. I hope that you can work your way through all of this.

Continued prayers for everyone.

 

[low-key]

I made so many bad choices in life as a lot of you have also, its just dumb luck that something horrendous didnt happen to us. Get better Dom

 

[teacherlisa1978]

Your family is all in my prayers. God Bless you.

 

[macraven]

Teresa




And prayers for you and the family

 

[flyingdumbo127]

God Bless all of you, Teresa! May you come to find peace of Christ with and within you and know He has always been there. Thank you for sharing with us. Thank you for all you do for Dom. Please, please, take care of yourself!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Thank you, Teresa, for sharing these difficult and powerful words. Could be a wakeup call for many. One person's choices, good and/or not, have such an impact on their own and others' lives.

As others have said, though cliche, don't beat yourself up over this. Addictions are just that, addictions, so powerful and life changing. You and many in your families tried many things to improve the situation with Dom. Maybe if there had been more time, maybe if this, maybe if that, you will never know.

What can be done now, as in the past year, is prayer, hope and advocating for good to come for Dom.

God bless you, Teresa, along with Harry, Patty, Nick. And always, Dom. 's

 

[handinpocket]

My heart goes out to you, but you should think long and hard about posting the "whole story" here. It isn't right for you to tell it. It would destroy his parents if they read it.

 

[MamaBelle4]

My heart goes out to you, but you should think long and hard about posting the "whole story" here. It isn't right for you to tell it. It would destroy his parents if they read it.

As involved as she is, it is as much her story as theirs. Someone she loves is going through this, and she is trying to save someone the same fate.

Thank you for sharing. I am praying for your family. I hope Dom makes a full recovery and his mom does what she needs for him to stay at meadow view.

 

[TeresaNJ]

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[AnnaS]

You and your family are all in my prayers.

 

[Tiggerish]

I made so many bad choices in life as a lot of you have also, its just dumb luck that something horrendous didnt happen to us.

This is me also. TeresaMJ thnk you so much for being brave enough to tell the full story. Life is messy; life is full of roads not taken, "what ifs" and "why did I not". As my mother always said when told of bad things about family members, "First you pray, then you move forward and keep praying."

 

[TeresaNJ]

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[TeresaNJ]

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