Update......It is Dh's son

kilee · Dec 21, 2009

I posted a few weeks ago that a women dh dated in the past contacted him that "he had a son" he was unaware of.

Anyhow, we got results today and dh is this child's father.

We meet the boy (he's 16) and it went well. I think it will take some getting used to still, but I've come a long way in the few short weeks since this bombshell has been dropped.

Dh went against what I think was better judgement and did have several conversations w/ him before the test results were available. I wanted him to wait because I didn't want anyone to get hurt.

I don't know where this path will take us, and for now it's one day at a time. However, at least now we know for sure.

SeaSpray · Dec 21, 2009

Thanks for the update. Now, there is one less child who has to grow up not knowing who his father is. Big hugs to you, your DH, your DS, and this new young man in your lives. :grouphug:

N.Bailey · Dec 21, 2009

I'm sure it's going to be a huge adjustment. I really can't say how I'd feel if faced with a similar set of circumstances, but agree that it's best to take it one step at a time. Just know that you have every right to feel whatever emotions you're feeling. Slowly, it will all come together, but that's not going to happen overnight. This is a huge bombshell dropped into not only your husband and the son's lap, but your lap and your son's as well. Try not to beat yourself up too much for thoughts and feelings you might be experiencing . In the end, it will all be okay. :hug:

RNMOM · Dec 21, 2009

I'm sure this is a very difficult thing for your family to go through. I commend you in your support of your husband. I can't help but think that this boy is really an innocent in all this so if there is the smallest chance for him to be embraced by your own family I feel you would be making a very positive step for him. This is a big opportunity for you to make an impact in the man he will become.

Stacerita · Dec 21, 2009

Thank you for sharing the update. I was wondering what was happening with this.

Buckalew11 · Dec 21, 2009

So glad you were able to go ahead and have the tests now and not later.
I also commend you for supporting your DH in this and reaching out to this young man.
I think the important thing is to share your love with him and make sure he knows he is cared about and loved.

quasar4legs · Dec 22, 2009

I imagine this has been a difficult situation for you all and I just wanted to wish everyone the best. I hope you can all find a way develop relationships that enrich your lives.

Best wishes for the future. :hug:

mamajoan · Dec 22, 2009

Congratulations
jmho...
you and your dh are handling the situation.. very well, with maturity, and compassion. May your dh become a positive in this young man's life, and may he enrich your dh and your lives.

The Mystery Machine · Dec 22, 2009

Thanks for the update. I hope good things for the future with you. :goodvibes

aprilgail2 · Dec 22, 2009

Its great that the child finally knows who his dad is and it is very sad that your husband was robbed of the first 16 years of his childs life-hopefully he will be able to spend loads of time with this boy to make up for some of it!

Allison · Dec 22, 2009

I'm glad you got an answer. Good luck.

happygirl · Dec 22, 2009

I think it's amazing how well you guys are handling this!!

OceanAnnie · Dec 22, 2009

Thank you for the update. I imagine it's bittersweet for your DH and still a shock for you. You both are handling it well. I'm sorry for the way it unfolded. But hopefully things will smooth out. I hope your DS is doing well. It's good that you talked with him early about it. :hug: