TMI from ex hubby!!

[Muushka]

Full disclosure, I am male, married for 29 years, conservative, christian, and a gun loving Texan.

I say those things only because I am going to go a little against the grain on this one. He hurt you I fully understand, I could not imagine the pain you went through. However I am sure there was a lot of pain on his part that he got to the point where he said "hey, I'm gay!". He obviously loved you at some point but still made the decision to divorce you. He obviously still feels that emotional attachment and therefore on some level wants to share his life and his feelings with you. I am not saying you need to agree to be BFF's with him, but I think the way to approach it is tell him he hurt you, you don't feel the same at all about him and that you are always willing to deal with him because he is your child's father, but beyond that you just can't be a big part of his life anymore. Bragging about DH's size or other digs will only hurt the relationship you need to maintain for the sake of your son.

I think that this is very good advice.

Best wishes OP

 

[SC Minnie]

When he started sharing more information than you would want to hear from your closest GF much less an XH look at him and say 'Seriously? I don't need to know anything about your private life. That's why its called 'private'. '

 

[Wishing on a star]

He and his 'boyfriend' were in your home, and verbally discussing intimate details... Was your son home at all???

Why were both of them in your home?
Very simply, after I had to lock somebody out, they would NOT be entering my home again.
You are, in every conceivable way, both figuratively and literally, leaving your door wide open and inviting this situation.

Sorry, but if I am getting this correctly, this guy isn't just clueless with personal boundaries... It sounds like this is purposeful.

And, if your son would ever, EVER, have the opportunity to overhear this kind of talk, I would be seeing my lawyer.

You do have a son, but he has NO right to enter your home.... He has no right to discuss inappropriate material.