This Is Why We Need Disney World......

[Lives4Disney]

Hi, everyone!

We went to the Orthopaedic Dr. this morning and he said it is either a contusion or a stress fracture that just is not showing up on the xrays. My daughter is now wearing one of those shoe/boot things and we go back in a week and a half to see how it's going. I am just glad it is on it's way to healing. I asked if it could have been caused by tap, and he said not likely. I have to agree. She has been tapping since kgarden and never a problem before. She is on the road to recovery! Her teacher and school is behind her 100% and that is such a comfort to me.

To all of you whose kids have experienced bullying, my heart absolutely goes out to you. It is so painful to hear how your kid is being mistreated. Just kills me. Unfortunately it seems fairly common.

I am VERY lucky that the school acted so promptly and has the no tolerance attitude. I feel so awful for those of you, like Mickeymousemom, that don't have that support. Good luck to you, Mickeymousemom. What a horrible, frustrating situation. I will keep your DDs in my heart - especially your poor middle one that may have to have her life uprooted due to this garbage. Ugh.

It is so tough to be a kid these days.

Thanks for all your kind supportive words! We can get thru this!!!

Lives4Disney

 

[ConnieC]

I'm terribly sorry to hear the story, as a mother of 6,4 and 2.
Have a wonderful trip (or you went alreay?).

 

[agnes!]

You might want to share the Orthopedic Dr's diagnosis with the school. I know that they handled the situation well, but it might be a good thing to let them know how serious & lasting the consequences of the physical assault is going to be.

agnes!

 

[kikakeko]

I understand your anger/frustration and hurt.Hugs to everyones little ones who have went through this...
We moved to a different school district because of bullies and my oldest dd. she is 8 but she is already devolping secondary sex characteristics. she is also only in the 3rd grade this was a HUGE problem for her at the previous school. she would come home in tears daily. I went to the school and that only made it worse. Her grades we suffering as well as her self esteem. I even went as far as to call the parents of the other kids, needless to say that did not go so well. SO we moved... smaller school district still same area. I realize though that this is not a option to everyone. but it is what worked for us. she is doing great now socially no more tears. and we have been working on self esteem.
Bullying has become such a wide spread problem in our schools it really makes you wonder sometimes does it not...

 

[Lives4Disney]

You might want to share the Orthopedic Dr's diagnosis with the school. I know that they handled the situation well, but it might be a good thing to let them know how serious & lasting the consequences of the physical assault is going to be.

agnes!

Thanks, Agnes! I just wrote the teacher a note this morning to let them know. My daughter told her grandparents on the phone last night and she is OK about it (from her tone and the way it sounds she has pretty much put it behind her) but I am still miffed. I need to get past it, but when the Dr. did tell me that is was not caused by tap dancing, but by the stomping it just confirmed what I thought all along and made me mad all over again. And, believe me, when I had to explain to my mom about it - that just dug up all the feelings. Grandparents are crazy about their grandkids. I should have left it to them to see these brats were punished!! They wouldn't have walked away in one piece.

Thanks for the advice. I agree the school should know.

Lives4Disney

 

[michelle9343]

I am so sorry that your family had to go through this. It sounds like your DD is truely a . As Moms these things are really hard to get over. My DS has been Bullied for years because he is over weight. It has gotten so bad that I will be home schooling him next year. It is amazing to me how many kids are bullied and how many schools just look the other way. I hope your family has a wounderful trip.

 

[MayMom]

I teach a special needs classroom for severely emotionally disturbed children. I have a STRICT no - bullying policy as does our school. The problem with bullying is that many kids don't tell an adult when it is happening. This makes us feel so bad after it happens because sometimes kids put up with it for weeks, just as your sweet daughter did! I would encourage parents to have a heart-to-heart with their children, so they are prepared and know to tell an adult IMMEDIATELY. Good luck to your family...have a magical trip at WDW...

 

[39CINDERELLA]

Lives4Disney

to your little girl.

I too have RP so does my dd15, we are very aware of the cruelty of others, but not to the physical abuse level your dd has endured.
Humans are cruel to things they don't understand or are afraid of.
I come from a family history of RP so have always been around it and just think of it as a normal part of life. To bad others can't.

 

[Feelslikeadream]

My heart is breaking for you and your Princess!!!! I am a Mom that can unfortunatly relate to your pain and frustration!!!! We have identical twin 9 yr boys, Austin had a horrible time in school last year was constantly picked on and bullied by three of his peers on the bus and in the classroom.(He is slightly over weight) I am a parent who feels sorry for the BULLY, because I believe it is not the child, it's the parent!!!! A child learns what they live. Austin came home from school numerous times and went to his room ,curled in fetal postition and sobbed like a baby. His self esteem was 0%!!!!! I went right to the problem and attacked!!!!!! We also discussed this with his Karate sensi',he helped .Together I beleive we have Austin back to himself, almost !!!! This took such a major turm in his life, and I still see the repercautions.Why must we live in a world of sooo much judgement and opion!! I was also Austin growing up, so I relived my childhood through him. I never showed him my pain.

I am so glad that they you and your daughter will be at THE WORLD soon ,she will be able to ecscape from reality for a while !!!!!! GOD BLESS with your healing.

 

[DebIreland]

A big hug for you and for your beautiful daughter

We also went through the bullying thing with my son, who is now 9, but was just 5 at the time. Even now, three years on, thinking about it, my heart starts racing and I fill up with anger, not to mention heartache. He came home from school many times bruised, scratched, crying, with his lunch box smashed up etc. He was always a very shy child. Unfortunately instead of trying to help us, his teacher not only did nothing to help but had a bit of a sick side (in my opinion) and enjoyed yelling at DS and, in retrospect, I now see that she was a bully herself and many of her pupils just mimicked her. We did everything we could, complained to our school's board of management (not sure what they're called in the U.S.) and higher than that too but ultimately decided to pull him out of the school and his older brother too who wasn't bullied but I didn't want him in such an ineffectual, poor school either.

They are both thriving now and have just started their third year in their 'new' school. It's a great school, multi-denominational and multi-everything! Mixed gender, many races and creeds. Fabulous assortment of languages and beliefs mixing together in harmony like a mini United Nations. We love it and the boys love it and my daughter will go there too when the time comes.

Sorry, I got carried away there with my own story....... I'm so pleased that your daughter's school has dealt with this properly and you've handled this really well yourself, you sound like a great Mom. Your daughter sounds like a treasure. She's beautiful. I'm sure you'll have a blast in Disney World - ENJOY! And tell your daughter I think she's terrific.

A sweet quote for you: "A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavour by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts." [Washington Irving]

 

[cindermomma]

A sweet quote for you: "A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavour by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts." [Washington Irving]

This is one of the best quotes I have ever read DebIreland! I hope my DS5 grows to know how very true this is!