The Official Bachelor Thread ~ Deanna comes back!

[Justanopinion]

Since I haven't totally kept up with this thread and I don't want to go back and read all 50 pages...what other show was Melissa on?

TIA

 

[lillygator]

Following three spectacular New Zealand dates, "The Bachelor"'s Jason Mesnick had to narrow down the field of three -- Jillian, Melissa and Molly -- to just two.

Right or wrong, Mesnick elected to eliminate Jillian, a 29-year-old interior designer from Vancouver, Canada, who gives ET the inside scoop on how she is feeling.

ET: What was your favorite part of this experience?

Jillian: Before I did the show, I was a little bit worried if I would find my Prince Charming. Being there and feeling those sparks again made me realize that I can have that feeling again. I loved the adventure of it. I loved not being in control for once. I loved traveling. The girls were awesome. Obviously, Jason treated me like gold. I loved that I was brave enough to take a leap of faith. What do they say? You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take, but it doesn't mean every shot you take, you are going to get.

ET: It has to be hard to get to the final three and not win Jason's heart. If asked, would you consider being the next "The Bachelorette"?

Jillian: Part of me says, "Jill, stop while you are ahead. Now that you have done this and learned a lot about yourself, do it the old-fashioned way." The old-fashioned way hasn't really been working for me, so the other part of me says, "Jill, just go ahead and do it. You are an adventure seeker. Give it a shot and maybe you can find him that way." I think I have to sleep on it -- and maybe have a glass of wine.

ET: You mentioned that you felt you were too slow in letting Jason know how you felt about him. Is that what you would do over? Do you think it would really make a difference, or do people make a true connection, so it wouldn't change things?

Jillian: Good question. Watching the show now, I think, "Jill, you should have opened up more. Why weren't you more flirty like Melissa?" But a) I am not really like that to begin with, and b) it may have been the connection. In my heart of hearts, I thought that he was the one, but maybe he saw something that wasn't there. That last day, I felt 90 percent we had so much in common. We shared so much and we had become such good friends. But I woke up that morning thinking, "There is this one little thing that is missing." And I wrote in my journal: "I don't know if it is going to come in time, but I have no time left."

When I watch the show, I see me. I was 100 percent me and that is who he would have had to fall in love with. I don't think I would change anything. In the future, though, I want to be able to be a little softer and show my significant other that I can't do everything on my own and I do need help. I want to share my life with somebody. I think a lot of time people think I am so independent and I want to do everything on my own. I do want somebody to share my life with --and fix my carburetor right now!

ET: Have you had time to go home yet and see how your friends react?

Jillian: I do restaurant design for a restaurant chain in Vancouver, so I am always on the jobsite every morning. The electricians and the carpenters are like, "I cried last night." I am getting a great response from people: People thanking me for being so open and honest. So far I haven't received any negative comments. People are being supportive.

ET: What are your thoughts for Jason now that you aren't in the running?

Jillian: It would break my heart to see Jason go through another break up. That is the one fear that I had. I talked to him about it on one of our dates, but you guys didn't see it. I said, "What happens if it gets to the end and it is me my buddy Melissa and you think, these girls are both awesome, but are not ready to marry either one of them? What are you going to do?"

I think Jason has a good emotional intelligence and I hope he made the right choice, because if he didn't there will be a lot of broken hearts.

ET: Who are you rooting for?

Jillian: I bonded so much with Melissa. We have a lot in common. We are both bubbly and sweet. I hope that he chooses her and doesn't hurt her. But Molly is smart. Molly is funny. She is articulate. She knows how to capture people's attention. I think there are so many great things about her. I see her as maybe a little too reserved, or as planning things out too much. I would say now that he hasn't chosen me, I hope it is Melissa.

ET: Do you think you and Jason will stay in touch?

Jillian: I 100 percent think we will stay in touch. I had breakups before where I have been hurt. The easiest thing for me to do -- a lot of my friends don't understand it -- is be friends with them. Because when I have jealousy or when I have that anguish, it causes me too much anxiety. It is easier for me to be friends.

With Jason it was different. It is not like he intended to hurt me. He had to make a decision -- whether it was the right or wrong one -- and I for sure think I will stay in touch with him. And whoever he chooses, hopefully we will have barbecues and hang out. We will see what happens.

 

[happygirl]

Since I haven't totally kept up with this thread and I don't want to go back and read all 50 pages...what other show was Melissa on?

TIA

Making the team Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

I'm beginning to think that we are all going to need therapy before this season is over. There are just to many possibilities.

Speaking of that, it really shows the quality of the women that Jason has picked for the final 4-5 that none of them have badmouthed him when they get in the car. They've all been gracious and respectful.

THAT hasn't happened in past seasons.

Seeing DeAnna on Ellen pulled me in, to watch a few episodes of her season. Feeling so bad for Jason, pulled me in to watch most of this season.

I thought the show was going really well, liked Jason and thought well of MOST of the women.

Now, though, I am depressed (See FIRST quote ) thinking that Jason is picking too superficially. Nothing against Melissa or Molly, but Jason seems to want someone (read: younger woman) who will "fall into line"? And I never thought Jason would be that way. Sad.

 

[happygirl]

What a classy interview. I'm pretty sure now that he doesn't bring her back

Following three spectacular New Zealand dates, "The Bachelor"'s Jason Mesnick had to narrow down the field of three -- Jillian, Melissa and Molly -- to just two.

Right or wrong, Mesnick elected to eliminate Jillian, a 29-year-old interior designer from Vancouver, Canada, who gives ET the inside scoop on how she is feeling.

ET: What was your favorite part of this experience?

Jillian: Before I did the show, I was a little bit worried if I would find my Prince Charming. Being there and feeling those sparks again made me realize that I can have that feeling again. I loved the adventure of it. I loved not being in control for once. I loved traveling. The girls were awesome. Obviously, Jason treated me like gold. I loved that I was brave enough to take a leap of faith. What do they say? You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take, but it doesn't mean every shot you take, you are going to get.

ET: It has to be hard to get to the final three and not win Jason's heart. If asked, would you consider being the next "The Bachelorette"?

Jillian: Part of me says, "Jill, stop while you are ahead. Now that you have done this and learned a lot about yourself, do it the old-fashioned way." The old-fashioned way hasn't really been working for me, so the other part of me says, "Jill, just go ahead and do it. You are an adventure seeker. Give it a shot and maybe you can find him that way." I think I have to sleep on it -- and maybe have a glass of wine.

ET: You mentioned that you felt you were too slow in letting Jason know how you felt about him. Is that what you would do over? Do you think it would really make a difference, or do people make a true connection, so it wouldn't change things?

Jillian: Good question. Watching the show now, I think, "Jill, you should have opened up more. Why weren't you more flirty like Melissa?" But a) I am not really like that to begin with, and b) it may have been the connection. In my heart of hearts, I thought that he was the one, but maybe he saw something that wasn't there. That last day, I felt 90 percent we had so much in common. We shared so much and we had become such good friends. But I woke up that morning thinking, "There is this one little thing that is missing." And I wrote in my journal: "I don't know if it is going to come in time, but I have no time left."

When I watch the show, I see me. I was 100 percent me and that is who he would have had to fall in love with. I don't think I would change anything. In the future, though, I want to be able to be a little softer and show my significant other that I can't do everything on my own and I do need help. I want to share my life with somebody. I think a lot of time people think I am so independent and I want to do everything on my own. I do want somebody to share my life with --and fix my carburetor right now!

ET: Have you had time to go home yet and see how your friends react?

Jillian: I do restaurant design for a restaurant chain in Vancouver, so I am always on the jobsite every morning. The electricians and the carpenters are like, "I cried last night." I am getting a great response from people: People thanking me for being so open and honest. So far I haven't received any negative comments. People are being supportive.

ET: What are your thoughts for Jason now that you aren't in the running?

Jillian: It would break my heart to see Jason go through another break up. That is the one fear that I had. I talked to him about it on one of our dates, but you guys didn't see it. I said, "What happens if it gets to the end and it is me my buddy Melissa and you think, these girls are both awesome, but are not ready to marry either one of them? What are you going to do?"

I think Jason has a good emotional intelligence and I hope he made the right choice, because if he didn't there will be a lot of broken hearts.

ET: Who are you rooting for?

Jillian: I bonded so much with Melissa. We have a lot in common. We are both bubbly and sweet. I hope that he chooses her and doesn't hurt her. But Molly is smart. Molly is funny. She is articulate. She knows how to capture people's attention. I think there are so many great things about her. I see her as maybe a little too reserved, or as planning things out too much. I would say now that he hasn't chosen me, I hope it is Melissa.

ET: Do you think you and Jason will stay in touch?

Jillian: I 100 percent think we will stay in touch. I had breakups before where I have been hurt. The easiest thing for me to do -- a lot of my friends don't understand it -- is be friends with them. Because when I have jealousy or when I have that anguish, it causes me too much anxiety. It is easier for me to be friends.

With Jason it was different. It is not like he intended to hurt me. He had to make a decision -- whether it was the right or wrong one -- and I for sure think I will stay in touch with him. And whoever he chooses, hopefully we will have barbecues and hang out. We will see what happens.

 

[happygirl]

Seeing DeAnna on Ellen pulled me in, to watch a few episodes of her season. Feeling so bad for Jason, pulled me in to watch most of this season.

I thought the show was going really well, liked Jason and thought well of MOST of the women.

Now, though, I am depressed (See FIRST quote ) thinking that Jason is picking too superficially. Nothing against Melissa or Molly, but Jason seems to want someone (read: younger woman) who will "fall into line"? And I never thought Jason would be that way. Sad.

I see the opposite, I see him as not wanting to hurt anyone. You can't help you love

 

[DearDaisyinDurham]

What a classy interview. I'm pretty sure now that he doesn't bring her back

Thank you lillygator!! Super interview, I like Jillian even more now!!!!

 

[robinb]

Seeing DeAnna on Ellen pulled me in, to watch a few episodes of her season. Feeling so bad for Jason, pulled me in to watch most of this season.

I thought the show was going really well, liked Jason and thought well of MOST of the women.

Now, though, I am depressed (See FIRST quote ) thinking that Jason is picking too superficially. Nothing against Melissa or Molly, but Jason seems to want someone (read: younger woman) who will "fall into line"? And I never thought Jason would be that way. Sad.

Exactly. It seems to me that he wants someone who can't live without him. Jill was too independent for him. He's gonna be in a world of hurt if he has to deal with TWO children instead of just one.

 

[java]

I am guessing the big "private" thing means Ty is going to be there when he picks the final one?? that's my guess. Or better yet what about the Ex wife being there?
That's one thing that gets me a little. I mean I know a bunch of bachelor's that have never been married. How about one of them for the show?
Based on the success rate of the relationships I don't think it really matters much which one he picks. Chances are she'll be history within the year anyway. (particularly if he picks Melissa)

 

[babytrees]

This has happened before on The Bachelor. Remember Charlie O'Connell (Actor Jerry O'Connell's brother)? He dated the final two for a few months and made his decision at the Finale. He chose the blond (Sarah?) and they broke up a few months later.

and they are back together after a year apart. I know way too much about the Bacholer's lives....I need my own!

 

[flipflop]

ET: Do you think you and Jason will stay in touch?

Jillian: I 100 percent think we will stay in touch. I had breakups before where I have been hurt. The easiest thing for me to do -- a lot of my friends don't understand it -- is be friends with them. Because when I have jealousy or when I have that anguish, it causes me too much anxiety. It is easier for me to be friends.

With Jason it was different. It is not like he intended to hurt me. He had to make a decision -- whether it was the right or wrong one -- and I for sure think I will stay in touch with him. And whoever he chooses, hopefully we will have barbecues and hang out. We will see what happens.

I 100% think whoever he chose, upon seeing that hot tub scene, will make it clear that keeping in touch with Jillian is NOT an option.

 

[Jennifer S]

On ABC.com message board someone posted they think he picks Molly - but after meeting Ty Molly tells him she's not ready to be a mom so he proposes to Melissa. Melissa doesn't find out until later - that's why they have the second after the rose closed set.

I hope not- that would be awful to find out you were second choice

 

[minniebeth]

I 100% think whoever he chose, upon seeing that hot tub scene, will make it clear that keeping in touch with Jillian is NOT an option.

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking when I read the article too!

Thanks for posting the interview! Yes, I do think she is classy too...

 

[N&B'smom]

On ABC.com message board someone posted they think he picks Molly - but after meeting Ty Molly tells him she's not ready to be a mom so he proposes to Melissa. Melissa doesn't find out until later - that's why they have the second after the rose closed set.

I hope not- that would be awful to find out you were second choice

I heard a WHOLE other reason for the closed set. I can post it in white BUT I still think you can see it even when it's in white!

 

[chisnpeke]

Speaking of that, it really shows the quality of the women that Jason has picked for the final 4-5 that none of them have badmouthed him when they get in the car. They've all been gracious and respectful.

THAT hasn't happened in past seasons.

That's because Jason is a quality guy. I really do hope he finds love on this show. I've never felt that way about the other bachelors.

 

[hmdavid]

I heard a WHOLE other reason for the closed set. I can post it in white BUT I still think you can see it even when it's in white!

Go ahead and post it Shelby, you have to REALLY try to read it in white. Those who don't want to read it can just skip over the post.

 

[Nickimouse]

Go ahead and post it Shelby, you have to REALLY try to read it in white. Those who don't want to read it can just skip over the post.

I agree! Post please!

 

[Jennifer S]

yeah - post it!!!!

 

[~disneydiva~]

Post it!

 

[madge]

yeah - post it!!!!

please!!

I have a to-do list that is a mile long, but have totally been sucked into the spoiler sites this morning .. real productive, I've been.