The DDA Trouble Free Zone Part 9

[Eeyorecln]

Tammi
I am at a loss for words. I am so sorry. My DH and his first wife were divorced when his kids were 3 and 5. They actually went to a class for divorced parents dealing with kids. I don't know all the details but maybe a separation with counseling? I know there are times DH and I have wanted to give up but we have usually worked through it. If you guys go to church, we took a marriage class based on a book called His needs/ Her needs.(the other book was Lovebusters) There were quite a few couples that this was their last hope/option. It is an amazing class and I know a lot of churches around the country that offer it. If you want any info. or would like I could send you the books to look at? Your family will be in our prayers.

 

[Eeyorecln]

Morning y'all
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Off to get ready for work now... the good news here is that our boiler miraculously fixed itself on Sunday night! I tested it yesterday morning and it just fired up! Hooray no call out to the expensive boiler man...

Then yesterday my car windscreen cracked... so I need a new one... got hit by a stone a couple of days back and the heat has expanded the glass and made a nice big crack in the screen... there's £50 towards my trip down the drain...

Have a nice day everyone - hope it's for you

Glad your boiler righted itself. Sorry to hear about the window. Hopefully nothing else cuts into your Disney money.

 

[Eeyorecln]

Deb
I am not sure that anyone can tell you what decision to make(except for moms I figure they'll always think of us as little and tell us what to do of course since I was a long labor and than a rough nurser I'll let my mom slide on this. ) as it's such a personal choice. I do know 5 deaths is quite a bit and that would make me nervous as you never know. I hope whatever decision you make that you'll be happy with it. for safety if you do go.

 

[Eeyorecln]

I'm all caught up and the baby is finally asking for bedtime book which means he's ready for night night. see you all tomorrow night.

 

[lmartin2711]

I'm having a frustrating evening. My dd called me just before 6 and told me to watch the 6 PM news. There was another accident at Bike Week in Laconia, NH. Chris and I are planning to ride our motorcycles there on Saturday. My parents are now dead set against it and are "forbidding" me from riding my motorcycle there. I am 36 years old and never do anything the least bit dangerous. I can't believe the way that they are acting. Now they are making me feel like a bad parent if I go (you have children you should think about, if you have to go take your car) and if I don't go I will feel like I am letting my parents control my life. There have been 5 motorcycle deaths since bike week began and according to the news reports all 5 deaths we caused by careless motorcyclists crossing the center line and colliding with a car. Chris and I are both very cautious drivers and aren't concerned that we might crash. We are only going for the day. I have been in tears over this. Chris says the we don't have to go if I don't want too, but I do want to go. We would be joining one of the guys that he works with and his girlfriend and it sounds like a lot of fun. Are they over reacting, should I stay home and "safe"? WWYD?

Deb

Morning Deb

My Uncle and Aunt have a Harley and they ride with several other couples from the Fire Department. There was a big Harley ride on Memorial Day weekend from the Harley shop down to the fairgrounds in another town. There were over 400 bikes in the ride but there were two accidents and 2 fatalities. The two fatalities were caused by other bikers pulling in front of someone else.

If you do decide to go don't worry about being in the middle of the pack. Keep your own distance and although you are with a group the 4 of you can still stay back and have your safe distance from the others. I can understand your passion since my Aunt and Uncle share the same passion.

You know what they say about a Mother's intuition............understand that she is just having a bad feeling about it and is concerned about you.

Lynn

 

[PNO4TE]

Morning Deb

My Uncle and Aunt have a Harley and they ride with several other couples from the Fire Department. There was a big Harley ride on Memorial Day weekend from the Harley shop down to the fairgrounds in another town. There were over 400 bikes in the ride but there were two accidents and 2 fatalities. The two fatalities were caused by other bikers pulling in front of someone else.

If you do decide to go don't worry about being in the middle of the pack. Keep your own distance and although you are with a group the 4 of you can still stay back and have your safe distance from the others. I can understand your passion since my Aunt and Uncle share the same passion.

You know what they say about a Mother's intuition............understand that she is just having a bad feeling about it and is concerned about you.

Lynn

well said, Lynn.

Deb -- I would go and have a good time. But I would also understand that my parents would be worried about me the whole time. I can say this because I am now the parent of a child old enough to have children and I worry about her all the time. Not a hovering kind of worry, but the mothering kind of worry. My Mom still worried about me up until the very end. Our last conversation was her concern about my drive back to Virginia. It was not me she was worried about... it was the weather, or the other drivers on the road.

That is what is going on with your parents and it is understandable. But, it is your life and decisions to make about it are yours alone. You are an intelligent, cautious woman who would never do anything to endanger herself or her children. And while you cannot control the actions of others, you are certainly a defensive driver, I am sure.

When you get past the "mad" stage and the crying (I HATE that ... when I am so mad I cry) maybe you can talk to your parents. Explain all of your feelings about this and hopefully they will see it as the carefully thought out decision that it really is.

 

[PNO4TE]

Morning, DDA!

 

[MrsHeg]

Good Morning DDA,

I've been reading to keep up but I definitely need to devote some more time to housework, I have friends who will be here from NC this weekend and I'd hate for them to see the place like this.

Denise - that is absolutely fantastic news about Rees. Thank you so much for remembering those of us here on the coast. Your family should have work here for a long time. It was a long time after the storm before I could bring myself to go and see some of the hardest hit areas, the only way I have to describe it is heartbreaking. I actually worked in Waveland, MS where Katrina came in, 90% of the people I worked with lost everything they owned, with the exception of what they evacuated with, and some of them didn't evacuate and had nothing. We were told that one of our co-workers didn't survive, thank God that turned out to be untrue, I have spoken with her since. One girl lost her father and another lost her husband. I had often seen people on the news waiting in line for water and ice and never even thought that it could be me one day, well it was, waiting in line only to have them run out of ice 5 people in front of me. Experiences like this one put life into perspective, before I never would have thought that I would feel lucky with $10,000.00 worth of damage to my home, but I was, very lucky, less than a mile from me houses are GONE, that is the one word that I heard the most as a description, GONE. Many of my family members lost there homes, but everyone survived and they are repairing and rebuilding, as are my friends and co-workers. Sorry to ramble on, but I think the fact that another storm is out there is bringing up all kinds of emotions, everything from fear to disbelief.

Kate - you have a great bunch of friends here who definitely have your back.

Deb - being a Mom myself I can relate to yours, I still worry about my daughters all the time even though they are 20 and 25, whenever I hear of a wreck on the radio I mentally check where they are to ease my mind that they weren't in it. She can't help it, she loves you and doesn't want anything to happen to you, you still have to make up your own mind on what to do.

Everyone have a great day,

Debbie

 

[Pooh67_68]

Glynis, for your dad.

Jen, very nice.

Kate, glad a mod removed his posts.

Deb, do what you want to do. My mom worries every time my dh, dsis and I fly to Florida, but she would never tell us not to go. This year she is going with us.

 

[tmfranlk]

Tia, sounds like a fun time with your parents. How is your DH doing? I've been thinking of him.

Phil is doing pretty well this week. He refuses to take the mega-dose Vitamin D again after until he sees the endocinologist (sp) herself in a few weeks. After the horrible episode with the last dose he wants to talk the whole thing over with her in-person before proceeding. He woke with a lighter version of that panic and depression for several more days, but would do better by the late afternoon/evening so the reaction continued for several more days. Now, he seems to be back to normal, but still can't eat a bowl of cereal with milk without getting really drowsy so something is still going on.

Thanks for asking. It's nice to know that others are thinking of us.

 

[tmfranlk]

Welcome back, sounds like a nice time with your family. My DH wants to go to Ellis Island to see if he can find records of his grandfather.

There are some GREAT online search engines for Ellis Island now. Phil has them saved on his computer, but I'll post them later. Several years ago, there was basically nothing, but then suddenly some good sites came up. The best one allows you to search all names that sound similar. This was very helpful in searching for his Greek family names that were spelled differently on almost every person.

 

[tmfranlk]

Wanted to give you all the "official" surgery update.

The surgeon called late Friday night with the pathology report. It came back showing "Chronic Cholecystitis" Cholecystitis is an inflammation of the gallbladder wall and nearby abdominal lining. Cholecystitis is usually caused by a gallstone in the cystic duct, the duct that connects the gallbladder to the hepatic duct. Other causes of cholecystitis may include gallbladder sludge which is what the surgeon saw on the abdominal ultrasound. Chronic just means it had been going on for a significant period of time.

Here is a link telling all about it. http://www.healthsystem.virginia.edu/uvahealth/adult_liver/chole.cfm

Rees has done so well this week. He never needed any pain meds and has been eating around the clock. He has a voracious appetite again. He is feeling very good and went swimming today and rode his new bike (for his 6th birthday on June 23rd) for about 30 minutes. You can barely even see 2 of the 4 incisions they have healed so nicely. He's a completely new child. We agree with the surgeon that this appears to have been the source of all his pain and GI problems. We are just so grateful that Dr. Wulkan figured out what was wrong.

John and I want to express our deep gratitude to you all for keeping Rees and our family in your prayers over the past 2 months. Your concern, emails, calls, and cards mean more to us than you can know. ​

I am so thankful that you were able to have a doctor who could locate and correct the problem so easily. What a blessing Dr. Wulkan was for Rees and all of you. How great, too, that he is feeling great again in time for his birthday and your trip to the beach. Enjoy it all!!!

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Morning DDA!! im getting ready to go to the ENT appointment...a tad nervous! im bringing 2 CT scans for the dr to look at...now to see if he wants me to get surgery--im hoping no!

 

[my3princes]

Not sure if you are aware but that guy's post disappeared. I think a moderator must have taken it off. I read it and when I post and went back it was gone.

Apparently they deleted a few posts because my post from last night is gone too. I was merely defending a friend.

Deb

 

[my3princes]

Deb - I really don't know what to tell you since having nothing between me and the pavement is something that does not appeal to me.

My advice would be to do what you are comfortable doing. Only you can make the decision. I think your mom's point is that with that many people around - it is no longer about you and Chris and how you ride but also about how others ride. And that is something you should take into consideration. What if one of those idiots swerves into a car in front of you and the car swerves to miss them and comes into your lane?

If your mom is normally okay with you riding - I would imagine this is her concern.

I don't think if you go that you are being a bad parent and I don't think if you stay home you are letting your mom control your life - it just means that you are willing to listen to other points of view.

You should make the decision based on what you want to do -

although if your parents are supposed to watch your kids for you - I would not be shocked if your mom tells you to find someone else to watch them!!

My mother does not want me to ride at all, never has. It is completely fine for my brother to ride though!! My Dad has always been ok with me riding, but he is also worried about this weekend. Dad is babysitting. If I went with their line of thinking then we should never cross train tracks as we could be hit by a train and we should never go into busy intersections as we could get hit by a tractor trailer truck (this happened to my mother). Accidents happen all the time and I don't think that any of us are going to stay in glass bubbles or padded rooms just to stay safe. I believe that when my time is up it won't matter where I am or what I'm doing, it will happen anyway.

Deb

 

[my3princes]

Morning y'all

Denise - that's GREAT news about Rees

Jen - those frames of Alyssa are beautiful - your brother will love his gift I'm sure

Kate - Seems I missed all the excitement on the fanny pack thread last night - I am glad the DDA were around to back you up - and that the mods came to their senses and removed the posts - I was reading that thread this morning and it seems to have returned to being ON topic now

I don't have real player on my pc so can't listen to the ring tone...

Hmm hope I didn't miss anyone...

Off to get ready for work now... the good news here is that our boiler miraculously fixed itself on Sunday night! I tested it yesterday morning and it just fired up! Hooray no call out to the expensive boiler man...

Then yesterday my car windscreen cracked... so I need a new one... got hit by a stone a couple of days back and the heat has expanded the glass and made a nice big crack in the screen... there's £50 towards my trip down the drain...

Have a nice day everyone - hope it's for you

Another Clarism I am guessing that your widescreen is our windshields. I have to replace a windshield every couple of years as I always seem to catch a stone off a big truck. Sorry about using your Disney money.

Deb

 

[tinknme]

Thank you

Here is a Disneyland Paris website. I know Janet was looking for information, I think someone else might have been as well but I can't recall who.

Even if you aren't going to Disneyland Paris anytime soon, it has some awesome photos and videos of the stuff there.

 

[my3princes]

It looks like I'm here alone which is a good thing as I need to do some housework today. Yesterday I spent the day sewing for others. MIL needed curtains altered (yep, she actually called us as she needed something again) and a family friend needed a belt made for her terry bathrobe (why she choose pea green for a belt for a white bathrobe I will never know). I feel good about getting these projects out of the way so hopefully the cleaning will go well today. I also took Colby for a walk last night so I feel good about that. I still haven't made a decision about the motorcycle ride this weekend, I'm secretly praying for rain as then I won't need to make a decision as I don't ride in the rain.

Deb

 

[bethbuchall]

Does anyone here know what a decent price for a car rental in Orlando (for August) is? I am looking primarily at using National or Alamo, because I want to be able to easily drop the car off mid-stay. National and Alamo can be dropped at the Dolphin or the WDW Car Care Center. I have found a full-size (we can't go any smaller) for $196.21/week. Does that sound reasonable?

Thanks!
Beth

 

[tinknme]

Check mousesavers.com for discount codes. We used Alamo last June & I think it was around $140 for the week with a code.

Does anyone here know what a decent price for a car rental in Orlando (for August) is? I am looking primarily at using National or Alamo, because I want to be able to easily drop the car off mid-stay. National and Alamo can be dropped at the Dolphin or the WDW Car Care Center. I have found a full-size (we can't go any smaller) for $196.21/week. Does that sound reasonable?

Thanks!
Beth