The Are Coming...give me strength

[DisneyScraps]

I am starting to feel it drawing closer, the dread increases.

Here it is. I have a mother who years ago I had to accept that she is the mother that I have, not the mother that I need or want. We just don't really like each other. I don't like her a lot and she doesn't understand me.

She does like my DD. She should, she is the only grandchild and of course she is amazing .

18 years ago I moved 600 miles away from my family. They kind of all drive me crazy. I have a brother that has lived in my Mom's besement for the last 20 years, never worked. I have a crazy uncle who means well but drives me nuts because he is so odd.

Last January I told my Mom I didn't want to have interaction with her. It's just toxic to me. Every moment I spent with her while she was here for Christmas was unpleasant. I would let my DD see her whenever possible and we would always be civil to each other but no more holidays together, no more emails, phone calls. I don't want it. We have softened that a bit in August my Mom said she was going to ease up on me and would like to try to repair things. I said fine but still kept my distance. It was no holidays, no phone calls but I would read a chatty email as long as there was no judgement, no gossip.

October I get a text....A TEXT that says "surprise we are moving to NC"

What?

Where?

My very tiny town.

They will be here Dec 7th.

It's my Mom, my brother and my crazy uncle. Guess where they are going to live?

Not next door thankfully

But

They are renting my ex husbands house.

Every day I get more and more worried about this. I am still standinig with no holidays. I am not doing it. I can't imagine what she is expecting but I am not having lunches with her or spending the day shopping. I am pissed that they didn't discuss it with me first but I understand that I would have said no way.

The only silver lining is my DD adores her.

Lisa

 

[hulagirl87]

oh family. You can't pick em but they are all yours. I ended my relationship with my dad 5 years ago and haven't talked to him since. We still live in the same town and I have since gotten married and had a daughter and I don't even know if he knows that but I have no interest in contacting him to tell him.

I wish you luck and strength during this time. I know how hard it is to be in a relationship with someone you don't really care for.

 

[Ceila]

Well, between the crazy family and the lousy schools you mentioned on your other thread, if I were you I'd start looking at moving sooner rather than later. Good luck with everything!

 

[C.Ann]

I'm sorry - but the title of your thread just made me laugh out loud..

As for the rest of your post? Well - pray (if you're of a mind to) - and maybe in the end your mom really will change..

 

[DMass]

They are renting my ex husbands house.

Someone's off her Christmas card list.

 

[MomRN]

Ehhhh... my husband says his family is big enough he can pick and choose.

My family isn't big at all, but I've extremely limited communication with my mom. She's toxic... too many issues there to even get into, but I don't let here anywhere near my son, especially alone. Apparently she hasn't taken a hint over the last 7 years and continues to call.

 

[DisneyScraps]

Well, between the crazy family and the lousy schools you mentioned on your other thread, if I were you I'd start looking at moving sooner rather than later. Good luck with everything!

ohhhh we are planing to move as soon as possible. In this real estate market it's taking a little longer than we hoped.

Lisa

 

[Muushka]

They will be here Dec 7th.

Dec 7th. A Date Which Will Live in Infamy. Kind of ironic, huh?

I hope things work our between you and your family.

 

[manning]

Looks like your ex found a way get to you.

 

[DisneyScraps]

Looks like your ex found a way get to you.

I actually get along with my ex pretty good. We share a daughter so we HAVE to get along for her sake.

At first I was really upset because he had to have known what was going on and didn't tell me....that would be cause for a brawl if he knew.

I asked him and he said my Mother told him that she wanted to surprise me. That she wanted to be the one to tell my DD. So I gave him the benefit of the doubt and did not perform the Lorena Bobbitt act I was thinking of!

Lisa