Speaking of kids.. How old where you when you had your first??

[LisaSt]

I was 27 and DW was 24.

 

[puffkin]

I'm not saying this applies to everyone, but we have friends that waited 7 years to have a baby. They became VERY set in their ways in those 7 years & parenthood has seemed rather difficult for them both. They are both used to doing their own thing, when they want to & now they do alot of "it's your turn" type things. They once argued over whose turn it was to change the diaper. I got ready to say "give me the @*%# diaper & I'll change him" Geez, what's the big deal. With Dh & me, it was whoever was holding the baby at the time that changed the diaper.

I agree completely. We also know people who have waited for various reasons and have had a lot of trouble conceiving. We just got married two months ago and plan to have a baby in 2006 (we have been together 8 years and lived together 2 years before the wedding though). We plan to have our first when in 2006 (I will be 26, he 28) and another before I am 30. My parents were 25 when they had me and I like the fact that they are fairly young now. I want to be young enough to not only enjoy my kids, but any future grandkids.

 

[CyranoJones]

I was 29, DH was 32 when we had our daughter. She's a junior in college now.

 

[huey duey & luey]

I was 32 my dh was 34 when we had our first (also our second and third )
Tara

 

[Laurabearz]

I was 35 when I had my first and 39.9 when I had our last (and 37 when I had the middle child! LOL)

The last pregancy was the hardest, partly due to my age (not the years, the miles) and partly because I had two littleones running around.

Most of my friends had their kids in their 20's... I had a great time in my 20's and am glad I waited to have kids, but sometimes it is hard because now those friends are 'free' and I am in b o o h bah world! LOL

 

[poohandwendy]

First at 20, second at 23 and last at 27...I wouldn't change a thing... I am happy that I will only be 45 when my ''baby'' turns 18...

 

[Fizban257]

First DS @ 18 (unplanned). Wouldn't recommend it, but I wouldn't change it one bit either--the marriage only lasted 2 years, but I'd do it all again to keep my son. Second DS @ 28 and I'm 31 now, expecting first DD in November. My first wife was also 18 when Jordan was born. My DW was 26 when Connor was born, and is 29 now and expecting.

One unexpected, but pleasant side-effect of having a child so young, was my parent's age. They were young enough to keep up with him as a toddler, and my Dad rides all the rides with us at Disney and other parks. My Mom used to join us too, but stopped with the big thrill rides a few years ago. By the time DS #2 and DD are old enough for the biggest rides, I'm afraid my Dad will have joined Mom on the park bench; it bothers him that he might not be able to do the same things with them.

 

[candykisses]

I had my first at 30 and my second at 37.

 

[Laurabearz]

Fizban257's post hit home with me... My parents had me when they were 39 and my mom died about 7 or 8 years ago, and my dad died suddenly when I was 5 months pregant with my first. He said to me, when I told him I was pregnat.... I thought I would never be a grandfather and cried..... then died before his first grand child was born. It kills me to this day. It really does. He would have been the best gosh darn granddad there ever was..... and because my life ran a winding road, he never had the chance.

But that is how things work sometimes.... our life as children.... our childrens lives.... it is how it is.... how can we know...

Of course these are my issues... LOL And other than my formentioned regret, I too am an older mom, and will be in the same boat as my parents....

To make a long story short, there will be just a little pressure on the kids to start popping out grandpuppies as soon as they are out of college!

 

[katerkat]

We married at 22 and 21 (he's ten months younger), and are expecting our first when I'm 25 and he's 24. We planned it this way because if we go on to have three, we should be 52/53ish when the youngest finishes college, so all the big stuff will be paid for and we can enjoy our retirement!

 

[kpgclark]

Work, work, work, save, save save now and for the next few years. Enjoy getting to know each other better. We adopted our son when I was 33 and my husband was 31. I quite working when he was born. Almost everyone I know were in their 30's when they had their first.

 

[poohandwendy]

OMG Katerkat...am I reading this right...are you expecting? I must have missed that thread...Holy Cow! Congrats!!!!

 

[6_Time_Momma]

Married at 19
First at 20
Second at 21
Third at 25
Fourth at 27
Fifth at 29
Sixth at 32
Seventh at 33

Hmmmmmm....I turn 35 in January....looks like I'm about due for #8.......have to work on that!!!

 

[Lynn CC]

I was 24
We were already married for 5 years

 

[aimee11621]

I had my first child 27 years old. Then I had my second at 34. I waited was too chicken to go through c-section again.

I needed a lot of talking into.


My mom however was 42 when she had me.

 

[snoopy]

Originally posted by Laurabearz
Of course these are my issues... LOL And other than my formentioned regret, I too am an older mom, and will be in the same boat as my parents....

You know, there are just no guarantees though. My grandmother was 44 when I was born, my mother was 22 and my father was 24. My mother and my father were both dead at 50, and my grandmother is alive and well at 84, never had a sick day in her life. Yes, the chances of your kids losing you sooner are probably greater if you are an older parent to start with, but its certainly not always the case. As you said, you just never know.

I'm always amazed at the people out there who think there should be a cut-off time for having babies. I've never considered that -- my only criteria for other people having babies is that they have the heart for it. Age is just a number, as my own family history dictates.

 

[katerkat]

Originally posted by poohandwendy
OMG Katerkat...am I reading this right...are you expecting? I must have missed that thread...Holy Cow! Congrats!!!!

I didn't post a thread, but yes. Thanks! I'm due Easter Sunday.

 

[mtemm]

we were married when I turned 30, waited until 34 for our first, 36 for our second 2.

 

[decker96]

I was 27 with my first, 30 with the second and 33 with the third. DH was the same. That's it for us!
Just a thing about grandparents. My parents were young when I was born, only 21 and just 22. So when my oldest came around they were both only 49. My DH's parents were older because he is the youngest. His dad was 62 and his mom was 58. They still play with and do alot of the same things with my kids that my parents do even though there is the 10-13 year age difference. Both grandpas (they are now 56 and 69) wrestle with and chase the kids around and both grandmas (now 56 and 65) can tote my 23 pound infant around with no problem! Both sets love to babysit them whenever they can, although they live 2 1/2 hours and 5 hours away, so it's not as often as they'd like. I don't think it's all about age, only how young you feel!

 

[Feralpeg]

I was 36.