Speaking of Dreams...NEED HELP

[Anony]

Ok, so obviously I didn't want to post this under my actual dis name. I had a VERY realistic dream last night about my boss. He's not technically my boss, but actually the CEO of our company. Long story short, we were at a work party together (IN THE DREAM) and we were getting quite "close". In the dream DH was just outside and I was trying to hide the situation from him.

In "real" life, I am extremely attracted to this man, but would NEVER do anything about it. Obviously first and fore most because I love Dh and we are married.

I don't know why it is bugging me so much. I can't tell Dh because he knows I find this man attractive and this would really hurt his feelings even though it was only a dream. I just can't get over how realistic it felt.

 

[Serena]

Here's my non-expert opinion. We are attracted to lots of people. Movie stars, celebrities, etc. We don't start feeling guilty until it's someone we actually have contact with.
There is going to be people we are attracted to. There are a lot of people out there with qualities we like. It's what we do about it that matters.

To me it sounds like you're feeling guilty. Is it because you are attracted to him, or because you want to do something about it?

 

[Aurora63]

I can't tell Dh because he knows I find this man attractive and this would really hurt his feelings even though it was only a dream. I just can't get over how realistic it felt.

I think this answers your question...you feel guilty and worry that your feelings will hurt DH, therefore you are trying to hide your feelings, the way you were trying to hide your actions in the dream.

 

[mommaU4]

Oh boy. I don't have any real advice for you other than to tread very carefully with this one. It could get very ugly. Trust me. Good luck.

 

[florida-again]

Ok, so obviously I didn't want to post this under my actual dis name. I had a VERY realistic dream last night about my boss. He's not technically my boss, but actually the CEO of our company. Long story short, we were at a work party together (IN THE DREAM) and we were getting quite "close". In the dream DH was just outside and I was trying to hide the situation from him.

In "real" life, I am extremely attracted to this man, but would NEVER do anything about it. Obviously first and fore most because I love Dh and we are married.

I don't know why it is bugging me so much. I can't tell Dh because he knows I find this man attractive and this would really hurt his feelings even though it was only a dream. I just can't get over how realistic it felt.

In my own experience, dreams like these make the attraction even stronger for a few days, and then gradually it kind of just disappears...
Hopefully a few nice nights with your DH and it will all seem a distant memory.

 

[Beth76]

Oh boy. I don't have any real advice for you other than to tread very carefully with this one. It could get very ugly. Trust me. Good luck.

Huh? It's just a dream. She said she finds the man attractive--which is OK! We're human; we're allowed to find other people attractive. There's no need to imply that this innocent dream is going to cause her problems.

OP, I wouldn't worry about it. There's no need to tell your husband and there's no need to feel guilty about not telling him. It was just a dream. Do you tell your husband about all of your dreams?