Sorry to do this - had a really bad day!

[wilma-bride]

Sorry to vent on here but I have had the worst thing happen to me today at work, DH is working late and I have no-one to talk to about it (DS doesn't really understand ).

My boss is going on maternity leave from tomorrow and one of my colleagues is being temporarily promoted to cover for her. He told me today that, with effect from Monday, he will be taking responsibility for the management of my office manager, who I currently manage. No warning, no discussion, nothing.

My (now) boss had previously discussed it with me (on Tuesday) and told me she wanted me to carry on managing the office manager until I leave in July but my colleague has basically said 'Tough luck, from Monday I'm the boss and what I say goes'

I feel really hurt and upset that he is taking this away from me (the office manager is not happy either). It's as if I've done something wrong and no-one's telling me (although I know I haven't done anything wrong). The worst thing is I now have to work for this guy for the next 6 months and I just can't motivate myself to work for a dictator.

Feel much better now for having just written it down. I am working from home tomorrow so at least I haven't got to think about it till Monday. I have to say, I had my reservations about working for him as it was (he was temporarily promoted before my current boss arrived last year so I've worked for him before) and now I feel like I don't even want to go to work on Monday. It's not really like me to get so wound up about work but I'm so upset and angry, I feel sick

 

[Netty]

Joh
Is there anyone at work who you can talk to about this?
surely he cant just come in and take charge, is there anyone higher you could go to and say how unhappy you are about this and cant face coming into work on monday.
I hope you get it sorted, dont just accept the situation.
good luck Joh
xx

 

[mandymouse]

I'm so sorry that you've had a bad day, like Netty says, try and talk to someone about it.

 

[natalielongstaff]

the guy sounds like an idiot to me joh, all i can say is grit your teeth and rise above it but thats never easy
i hope you sort things out

 

[florida sun]

Joh

What a terrible thing to happen, do try and talk it over with somebody at work, do you have a HR department that you could go to and speak to somebody about this.

Hope you manage to sort something out.


Sue

 

[ely3857]

It is horrible when work goes bad, I hope you sort it out



Jodie

 

[gilld]

I think you need to go to him, calmly, and ask him why he feels it necessary to over-ride your authority in your workplace. Ask if you've done anything wrong for him to take away part of your responsibility - if he doesn't have an answer for you then you need to take it higher. But the crucial thing is to be calm and polite

 

[KayleeUK]

Just wanted to send you Joh

 

[wilma-bride]

Thanks everyone. DH is home now and we've talked things over. Excellent advice Gill - trouble is I am so upset I would find it hard to be calm and polite at the moment. As my current boss doesn't officially finish until tomorrow, I have Emailed her this evening, asking if she can give me a call tomorrow so we can discuss it but I have a feeling, no matter what she says, he will over-ride her decision on Monday anyway.

At least it's doing my diet some good - I haven't been able to eat a thing tonight

 

[AlanUK]

I don't know all the circumanstances here Joh but to be honest the guy sounds like a fool!

I can't see how he hopes to gain the respect and support of his colleagues when he comes charging in like a raging bull and alters the way the office runs from day 1. I understand he might want to make a few changes and put his mark on things but I don't think this is anyway to go about it.

If I was you I would have a frank discussion with your current manager tomorrow and lay your feelings on the table. Even if she can't do anything, you have stated up front to a third party your concerns so that if things turn nasty at a later stage you can have some support

Wishing you all the best, things like this cause so much stress

 

[gilld]

I think you need to go to him, calmly, and ask him why he feels it necessary to over-ride your authority in your workplace. Ask if you've done anything wrong for him to take away part of your responsibility - if he doesn't have an answer for you then you need to take it higher. But the crucial thing is to be calm and polite

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

 

[vicky1bfc]

I can't really think of anything else to say thats not already been said.Just wanted to send you a


It's post like this that make me realise how wonderful everyone is on here.Everyone's just there for you.

Hope your feeling better Joh.

 

[wils]

Grief what a nightmare and how great your new boss sounds (not!)

Glad you have been able to talk to your current boss about it. What I would say is that the new one still insists on taking over your office manager then people will ask you about it - If I was you I would say something like 'You'll have to ask my boss about that as I'm privy to the reason why'. Then at least your are acting professionally but everyone will read between the lines and see just what he is like (my guess is that they soon will anyway!)

Sending you a and a

 

[Miffy2003]

Joh - I have no more to add to th excellent advice you've already been given.

I know how terrible it is to be unhappy at work. Been there, done that. It's awful.

I really do hope you can discuss this and get some closure. I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Take care



Karen

 

[Cyrano]

Can't add anything further, but sending you

 

[Ji||s]

This doesn't sound fair, whereabouts in N.I. do you live/work?

 

[wilma-bride]

Had a bit of a restless night but am determined this morning just to get on and do the work I brought home (I'm actually glad I don't have to go to work today as my colleague/new boss is actually working from our office for the day). I have decided that there's probably not a lot I can do about it although I do intend to try and have a rational discussion with him about why he made that decision but he is a bit of a control freak so I don't expect him to change his mind. I am more concerned, really, that the office manager may get taken advantage of as she's only worked in our place for a few months and doesn't really know yet what she can and can't be expected to do. She phoned me last night, though, and I have told her I will continue to support her even if I'm not her manager any more.

Jill, I work for the Civil Service - unfortunately they have strange ideas sometimes about what's right and wrong. Our HR department is also near Bath in England so it's hard to get the support from them when it's needed as well.

Anyway, onwards and upwards - at least I only have to put up with him for a few months and then I'm off so I just feel sorry for the rest of my colleagues/friends who are stuck with him

Thanks again to all of you for 'listening'

 

[Minniespal]

Hi Joh ~ Just read your post. Sounds as though you are feeling more positive today. He sounds like such a plonker ~ At least you only have to suffer him for a few months, which doesn't make it any easier for you though

 

[Madjock]

Hi Joh, can't offer any further advice but just wanted to say hope you get it sorted out one way or another. Sadly there are too many managers who haven't a clue how to manage!

 

[jockey]

Hi Joh- can't offer anything further as the others have made some excellent points! Glad you are feeling more positive today!

Just wanted to send you a